How to deal with the relationship between friend and my gf

China
July 26, 2010 10:05pm CST
My friends and I had a dinner with our girlfriends last weekend. One of my friend's girlfriend graduates from a famous university and has a good job. So sometimes she is very arrogant and what she said makes us awkward. At that time,my gf felt angry,but didn't show that. But after the dinner,my gf told me that she dont want to have a dinner with that woman next time. My friend is a honest man,and has good relationship with me. Could you tell me how to deal with it?
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ada8may21
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I would understand why your girlfriend felt that way. I am also in the same situation, that one of my friend is so boastful of what she achieve now. I guess there is no wrong to boast what you achieve for, what makes it wrong is that she is stepping on our shoes and I hate it. My beau told me to just ignore her, ignoring is the best way to win sometimes. I ignore her to the best way I can, sometimes I also throw sarcastic questions and laugh at it in the end.
LingXX0103
@LingXX0103 (151)
• China
27 Jul 10
yes,you are right. I told gf ingore her. But if throw sarcastic questions,it perhaps break up between my friend and me. PS:My friend's girl is not rich,but she bought a car when marraged.But she always cares for expense of petrol.This is why my gf dont like her.
smallsaozhou
@smallsaozhou (827)
• China
27 Jul 10
Well,those upstarts always show their superior attitude when they get rid of the poor situation.
sincerelyne
@sincerelyne (156)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
You know what? it's a matter of understanding the situation, and acceptance of one person to another, you love your gf, same as your friend love also his girl also,to avoid conflict just follow what your gf wants, you cannot please everybody,reality came in that they don't have same feather, they are two opposite people.and is you love your friend, don't let anyone destroy your friendship your friend, set aside the girls..it's a girl thing...just avoid to put them together and that's it...you and your friend not even sure if you will end up both with your gf right now. let your friendship go on...
LingXX0103
@LingXX0103 (151)
• China
27 Jul 10
Avoiding conflict is that I only can do now. thank you for your suggestion.
smallsaozhou
@smallsaozhou (827)
• China
27 Jul 10
Hello LingXX0103,I think you needn't worry about how to keep balance between your girlfriend and friend,since there is no gap between their relationship at all.Your girlfriend just dislike dealing with your friend's arrogant gf(I don't like this kind of people either.Even Bill Gates always shows his modest attitude,I don't understand why those who haven't get so great achievement behave arrogantly like that? It is very very ridiculous.) Continue to your topic again,I think your problem is very easy to solve.If your friend accompany his girlfriend again,you can not bring your gf any more.You just need ask your friend if he will bring his gf before you go out with your gf.Wish you good luck! PS:Maybe the relationship between your friend and his girlfriend will break up soon.Girl like that doesn't deserve such a good boyfriend like your friend.Then your issue will not exist any more. Well,I am just imaginary.
LingXX0103
@LingXX0103 (151)
• China
27 Jul 10
thank you. In fact,they are couple now.I had a word mistake in my discussion.
jerikjames
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Well, I think being annoyed of someone is only natural. And I'm sure your friend would understand why your girlfriend doesn't like his girlfriend. Also, your relationship with your friend doesn't have to be affected by your girlfriend's dislike to your friend's girl. And actually, you don't have to tell your friend that your girl is annoyed with his. Just tell your girl to be civil to your friend and her girl to avoid misunderstandings.
LingXX0103
@LingXX0103 (151)
• China
27 Jul 10
I will. thank you.
ashton77
@ashton77 (292)
• India
27 Jul 10
I am sure your girlfriend or for that matter, anyone will feel uncomfortable. Your girlfriend has told you that she will never want to sit with her and have dinner. If you think your girlfriend is important, tell your friend that you have some plans if they tell you for any dinner in future. If you think that your friend is important, tell your girl friend not to concentrate on what his girl friend talks about. The best way is to listen from one ear, nod the head and take out from other ear.Best of Luck!!
LingXX0103
@LingXX0103 (151)
• China
27 Jul 10
haha that's a good idea. I hope she can bear it.
captinjack
@captinjack (788)
• China
28 Jul 10
if your friend was some kind of dumb ,which means he don't realize his gf's unapproperiate behavior ,you could just go straight with him ,telling him you and your gf's feeling about his gf.i think he will do something to handle it.
edwardjoy2000
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
27 Jul 10
Well if you have girlfriend and a female friend you will end up in trouble. Trust me mate its a difficult situation to handle both relations smoothly.
Waterfang
@Waterfang (96)
• China
27 Jul 10
I think it's so simple!the problem was happened because of your gf and gf of your friend.it's no impact for your relation. You can advice your gf don't angry with your friend's gf,if it's not usefull ,you can't take your gf when your friend and your friend's gf together,it's purpose to separate your gf and your friend's gf.
daemonsparta
@daemonsparta (24)
• United States
27 Jul 10
always tough choosing friends over your love but there have been good ideas already man. your gf and your bud's gf no really get along, well yeah just don't make your gf have to be around your bud's...so definitely no double dates.
sweetneelu
@sweetneelu (259)
• Mauritius
27 Jul 10
i think you must accept your friend gf as she is,in this way you won't mind when she shows her arrogance,maybe your friend will also notice the way she behaves.better not to tel your friend anything that can affect your friendship