i am really so fed-up...................!!!!

I have had this many times before.. people telling me, calm down, cool down..don't loose your cool !!! But i like to stay with patience.. Patience really leads to success, i never argue with them when somebody says like this to me, i just go away and recover and come back !!

i'm fed up too.... but at different things

This is when i get scared of you Saphrina.. 4 days ?

Hi, The only problem with these people is that they look for an opportunity to vent their own feelings and the moments when you feel depressed serve a good one. A sincere friend may not be smart enough to make you stop crying, but he has learned the best of the arts and that is to share your feelings with empathy. You will find only a few such friends in your life. The rest are just showing off their knowledge. The only solution to this problem is to inhibit your pain. Either swallow your pain or solve it all by yourself. I don't share my problems with anyone until I solve it. Then when everything is okay again, I consider narrating the story of how I gained victory in that close combat. Sharing makes things worse. Not everyone have sincere feelings, so its only you who will get hurt. Please don't give up hope. God will take care of everything, like he always does. Love you a lot. Get well soon. Thanks. May God always be with you.

WEll, relax, just relax, and enjoy every moment you are having troubles with others. You won't get that much when you get to nowhere land, lol

I won't offer a word of advice then. Not quite. Don't keep twisting 'em for 4 whole days. You will need a paramedic to restore leg circulation.

Hi Saphrina! Please do not get fed up by those who keep telling you to be patient. Actually, they themselves are impatient, therefore, they want to 'test' you to see whether you can keep your patience.. It is always easier for anyone to give unsolicited advice or lecture about patience and relaxation techniques. The difficult aspect is its application. I also feel bad, if someone instructs me to do anything, as if I am a child and do not know about 'right' and 'wrong'. Keep your cool Sweetie and do not get upset by the people, who lecture you.

You should feel happy that... That's what I live with half the time. Can I have a tantrum too?

I know I'm not being original here, but I have SUCH and overwhelming urge to.... to.....say......RELAX.. and be patient...... *little devil wrests with little angel, little devil comes out the winner in this round*

We must lend our ears... consider what is good ... they may be more experienced in life.. I do listen... thanks for the topic.. have a great day/night...

Ok Saph!! RELAX BE PATIENT WHAT NOT I know exactly what you mean, when I want to be angry and have my stress head on, being told to 'calm down' or 'relax' just makes me worse!! You stamp your feet and have a good rant, that's what we're here for!!

I completely understand, I am seriously going through something right now and people in my surrounding keep telling me to stop worrying so much. Stop worrying, um excuse me, I worry about me not you. So tell me why everyone is going about their happy lives and I am still dealing with my situation. Sorry I can't be as resilient as they but I am the only one dealing with my situation and I have yet to see anyone even as much as call, email or text to see how I am doing. I mean I cannot just pretend that things are okay when they are clearly not. Oh o please do not give that shuck story that you understand, please! Sorry for a second I forgot this was about you. I completely understand how you feel!

Saphrina my dear friend we all have experienced that well i think "most" but its just up to us just to avoid them take a time away from Mr/Mrs/Ms. Knows me all lol or just give them a lovely cussing lol. Good luck with that don't let anyone get you all aggravated its the time for fun :)

Yes its very annoying if someone says me to relax, be patient and take a deep breath and what not. Its really so irritating. Sometime feels like to hit them, as if they knows everything and got all the experiences. Anyway all the best buddy. I would say to you and as well as myself that yes try to have little bit patient in ourself so that people wont get a chance to say be patient and relax... and so on.

Honestly I had more than my fair share of people telling me about it especially if they keep on telling you to relax and they don't know the full degree f my problems. I am a secretive type of person and I don't usually open up to my friend or even to my family. But the know when I am in a stressful situation because i will be facing our floor back and forth. But then I can never really blame them at all because they just want to help me and trying to make things easier for me just by saying that I need to be patient and relax more. Sometimes they do help me and there were several time that it will only make matter worst.

My advise is just relax, be patient, and whatnot You can pour all those tantrums here in this very box. We can get rid of those negativity and just leave it here. My box will be a portal to a shout room for you and for everyone who would like to get rid of their negativity in this world

Those are merely suggestions and it is really up to you if you don't want to listen to them. People around you are merely concern about you. You are the captain of your ship and the master of your soul so feel free to do as you please. Just be aware of the consequences of your action.

Yeah I face it few times in this month. I had problem with my friend and my other friend tell me to patient and try to forgive. Its really hard to forgive when you feel really hurt inside. Its really struggle to forgive and today I can see her in the face without wanna trow something to her face and says a nasty word but I will never made her as part of my life again.

Yep I have had this quite a bit in my life... yes it is annoying, it is like I am not understood, or I am selfish for having feelings. I am 30 years old and not long ago someone told me that I was a spoilt brat!!! WTF??? I know what you mean, people are too quick to judge you when really they have no clue. Keep Ranting, it will get it off your chest - a rant is good for you!

DON'T relax, DON'T be patient and DON'T whatnot.... what the hey is a whatnot? is this the tantrum because someone took your favorite swing on the playground?