Am i a bad mother for wanting some time for myself?

I'm a mother of three and when my children were little, I used to struggle with the same kind of guilt feelings. But I sought counsel from friends and read books and that helped a lot. Here are some thoughts that I found liberating at that time. -You cannot give what you don't have. There are some personal needs that you need to attend to. Everybody needs time alone or space in order to be rejuvenated, refreshed, and restored. Once you have those, you can go back to your child and be a better mom to them. Invest a little time for yourself and even your children will gain the reward. -Some mothers are with their child 24 hours a day. But it's not really the amount of time that matters. It's the quality of time you spend with them. How did I resolve this? I asked help from relatives to watch my children for an hour or so, some years I hired a nanny. The time we didn't have a nanny, my husband gave me a half-day off every week where he got to watch the children while I'm out with some friends or by myself. This has to be scheduled and even if I didn't feel like going, my husband would insist that I take the opportunity while he's free. There was also a time where I took turns with my neighbor-friend. I watched her kids on Friday afternoons. She watched my kids on Tuesday mornings. I'm sure you can think of many other creative ways than these. What is important is that you get rid of the guilt feelings. Sometimes it's just ourselves telling us that we are bad moms. Sometimes, it's the normal phase of motherhood where we need to go through but it's just a stage in life. There's much joy in motherhood that could cover this sacrifice you're doing now. Time flies so fast. Before you know it your son is already out and about, and you have all the free time for yourself to enjoy. Blessings to you as you seek the right way to go. Actually, this proves you are not a bad mom after all because you are here seeking for good counsel from friends.

Every girl has to become a mother one day.Life of mother is totally different than life of student girl.A mother has lots of responsibility to do.Life of girl will change when we become a mother.Most of the time mother will engage with baby only.I don't want my child be privacy, I will keep baby sister to Gide my child.A baby a good care.

Hi there! You're not a bad mother after all, i must say. I am also a mother of one, and my daughter will turn 7 this january of 2012. Since i became pregnant with her, my life seems to revolve with my husband and with her alone, and just like you, im really longing for some quality time for myself only. I think, all mothers felt this way as well. We are all human being and it doesn't mean that we should be considered as a bad mom when we seek time for ourselves. It doesn't mean however that we're forgetting our responsibility to our family if we wanted to escape into being a mother for a while. It's just a temporary short break and we will resume to being a mother and a housewife soon. Good luck and more power!

It isn't wrong to want time for yourself, that is normal. I am a stay at home mom to 2 children and IF I get a chance for time alone it is very cherished.

Yeah, sometime I am bad mother because I used to scold my child without reason and as being a mother it changes a lot than before which we get all experience of the mother life and I know to how take care of child and husband.Before that I don't know anything about mother but now I know what to and not do.Yes is difficult to manage and resolve that is bad wanting for myself and sometime I feel if didn't marriage I can't suffer such a thing like this also that is bad wanting for myself.I changed a totally than before after being a mother.mother is sweetest and delicate to the children in life.how do feel while you be mother?

no youre not. I dont see that wanting to have some time for oneself is not good or even being tagged as not a good mother, but I think what we can do here is management and everything should be balance.Make time for ourself but lets make sure that we dont take our responsibilty to our children.

I don't think it's wrong at all. I think most human beings need some down time and time to themselves. I'm not a mother, but when I was a kid, Saturdays were spending time with Dad days. So my brother and I would go with him to different places and my mom would stay home. That was time she had to herself. And, even though we spend a lot of time with my mom, even when we were home there were periods when we could amuse and occupy ourselves and she could have privacy.

Hi friend,All of us go through the same phase in life.We dont even know that we are occupied so much with our family and we dont get time for ourselves.Sometime or other we wake up suddenly and realise that we need some time for ourselves.There is nothing wrong in wanting time for yourself.I feel that when we spend some time as we wish our mind gets relaxed and we even can attend our children with more enthusiasm.Otherwise we take care of them only with some weariness by which our family may get irritated.So I feel its good only to spend some time for yourself.Thanks for sharing happy mylotting.

I am a new mother as well, and i know how life can be turned upside, and it feels like you have no time at all to yourself. I love my lil girl more than anything and her and her Daddy mean the world to me, but there are times when I need some Mommy time, and that is a rarity that I get it. Its not wrong, everyone needs some time to themselves, to sit back and relax without worrying every second...There is no resolution, there should be someone who can watch your lil one for a small amount of time so you can relax too... Your not wrong hun, you are totally normal. I'm a stay at home momma and sometimes i feel like there is no time for myself, but then I look into my daughters face smiling up at me and her chubby lil arms raised for me to pick her up for a hug and a cuddle and I know that these moments are precious. If you need someone to chat with feel free to add me as a friend...Your not alone. Kathy

I wish have time just for me but it isn't posiable for me. In my opinion it nothig wrong have time just for you it will keep you in good mood so it will be good for you. After be with my baby 11 month 24 hours i can't now image I go somewhere without her.

I am not a mother but I think no one would say that what you want is wrong. You need time for yourself. We know that being a mom is a stressful job and you need to get away from that once in a while. This will keep your mental state healthy so you could take care of your family better.

Though i am not mother.But when i think of other i can really find out that life is really going ups and down ,because once we get married and settled with family all responsibility are given to us and we have to run our house.we have to take care of the family,husband as well as our children.we should be always good to others so that we can get love in return.

Life gives a different turn when you get a complete family.And it sounds so sweet that you becomes a mother.Once you are a mother then the whole responsibilities comes on you to take care of the whole family.Once your children grows up day by day, the responsibilities get added.If you need privacy, there are lots of things to do.You can go for an outing,for a long vacation with your partner.You can go to your relatives.You get yourself exposed with every one., then you will never know how time runs so fast.