Greedy or thrifty?!

Your husband is just a practical man. Maybe, he has a plan that would materialize only if he carefully pays attention to finances.

I think its just good practice to keep your telecommunications costs down. I think he has a point, you can talk later at night. When I am in the office I usually keep my personal conversation at a minimum because the bosses are also looking and they take that in consideration during performance ratings time.

Hi, soleya. Your husband is just being thrifty. He has the type of phone that will only allow him to stay on it but for so long. When my husband had his prepaid phone on, he could not talk to me as much. His minutes would go down quickly. This can happen, even with a contract service cell phone too. Just wait until the evening where he can have time to talk to you. I am sure that he is not being greedy at all. This may be his only source of phone to call you from when he is away from home. I don't think that he is limiting his phone usage with you on purpose. If he uses up all of his minutes to talk to you in the daytime, then those minutes are forever gone. What if needed to call you in the day time about something important, and couldn't...? Because you both spent so much time talking during the day time. Now do you see my point? Your husband is just saving his minutes so that he can have them when he needs them.

I think he's just trying to save money, and that's a good thing. As long as he makes the most of your time together and the times you do get to talk on the phone then it sounds like he is just genuinely concerned about the family budget. It's good that he doesn't want to waste a ton of money on phone bills, especially considering he still sees you in the evening. So my vote is thrifty, not greedy!

I think he's just being thrifty. As long as he is providing your family's need, and is contacting you at the end of the day, to update you on what happened throughout the day, you shouldn't feel bad. But anyway, I just based my reply on the situation you have mentioned. You are the one who can tell if he is greedy by observing whenever you are together...like for instance, you want to buy something but he doesnt wants to because its expensive but still buy you something else and he just opted to buy it coz its cheaper, he is being thrifty. But if you want to buy something, and everything you say even if its for sale, he doesnt want to buy it, then, he's being unreasonable there...

I don't think he is thrifty. Your husband must be a busy man loaded with work and people like him do not want to waste a second. I feel this is the first time he did. It could be because of his work. I think you should not worry about his intention or his thriftiness or greediness but you should be worried more about his health. You need to think whether he takes lunch or not. I am sure he don't even take his meals. I understand because I do the same thing with my girl friend but I am not being greedy nor being a thriftier.

I am sure he is thrifty if he was greedy then he would not call everyday. However, you can keep him more close watch as he is your husband and a loving family member of you.

There can be a very big difference in the price of phone calls between day time and evening time. Particulary in long distance calls. In Australia, it cost me $2 to talk 20 minutes during the day. But after 7PM, I can talk to the same person for 3 hours, for $2. Spending big money on phone calls, is like throwing money out of the window. And as you know, money is not easy to earn. So I fully agree with your husband.

if i were your hubby, i'd do the same. i am even away from my family and out of the country. so every second of my calls count to the next minute. so i have to make sure that i deliver all my messages and my wife delivers hers in a matter of 1 or 2 minutes and we'd cut the conversation. sadly, i'd rather wait when we are free to chat online and be together chatting as long as we wanted.

I don't want to sound harsh but you need some self control and perspective. First, are you calling him during work hours? You have no right to steal his time from his company, he contracted to exchange money for his time and you're interfering with that. Second, what is so important? Go on with your life in the daytime, collect things you'd enjoy talking about in the evening and enjoy the time you have with him then. I think that people being available 24/7 is harming relationships. There's not as much to look forward to because we refuse to separate for 8 hours or so. You can give news immediately so there's no anticipation. Look at his request as an opportunity to build suspense and savor the delivery of news of your day and his. I think he is wise to want to save money. If you're not hurting now, you will be soon. Save as much as you can and if you don't have a savings account, start one. Look at this as a means of getting back to the wonderful world of separate but entwined lives, as it used to be. Use the phone only for emergencies during the daytime. You might like it if you give it a chance!

no not greedy dear one but being thrifty. He loves you much and just wants to stretch the money so h e can afford to keep talking to you. I just do not see it as greedy. Is this long distance or not? if long' distance yes its cheaper at night. Why do you have to check up on him\ I mean do you or do you not trust him, or is that simply meant you just miss him? I really do not see it as being greedy at all. of course I do not know your husband but am supposing this is meant to be helpful to you and your family not hurtful.

Thrifty. Of course, it would help he has explained this to you gently. But I think your husband has the best intentions for your family. Since you see each other at night anyway, you can catch up then and ask your questions. It would not hurt if you show your support by being understanding and optimistic. Take care, soleya. Have a nice day!

I am proid to be a thrifty person. Being greedy really doesn't really get you anywhere. The rewards can be so much greater when greed does not rule your heart.

I personally think that its a good idea, because not only does it save money, but also during the day, he might be at work or something like that, so he may not want to get in trouble. My parents do it all the time, and infact, just about everyone in my family phones each other after the threshold if they can help, just to save costs. Another thing they do is when it gets to like 50 minutes (cause they charge once the call becomes 1hr long) is that they say, ok i am going to hang up now, and call back in like 1 minute, just to make it cheaper. Theres not much wrong with hanging up to call back later, unless there is something urgent that needs to be said

With todays economy then I can totally understand his thoughts on saving on any costs that he can. I don't think it is unreasonable for him to rather talk to you in the evening when it is much cheaper to talk. I wouldn't be upset by it and I don't think you should either.

Sounds like he's just being frugal, but if you let him know how it made you feel perhaps he'll contact you more or switch to a better phone contract.

I think he is jsut being thrify. My only phone is a cell phone and I know how much overage can cost when you go over your allowace. my cell phone plan has free nights and weekends. I tell my mom to call me at night or weekends so it does not eat at my alowwence.