Am i rude :( ?
By sandyme
@sandyme (200)
India
July 27, 2010 10:52am CST
Hello ,
i have a girlfriend she is abroad right now she doesnt have her own cell phone her sister got the cell phone so i used to call her sister so that i can talk with my girlfriend because my girlfriend was a little busy with her college semester i was busy too but she didn't called me since a week so i called her . I called her sister from morning to evening near about 200 + calls but her sister always reject's it may be she was busy but i was worried what the heck is happening i didn't ate anything that day next day at night my girlfriend called me i was not in a mood i was burning like hell because her sister was rejecting my call . She told me that her sister was busy yesterday because of her work so she didn't picked up my phone so i abused her . I really don't want to do it but i did that . Now her sister has deleted me from her facebook account . I told her sorry in the messages sorry just because i abused her without any reason . Now she is not replying like always she didn't replied to my facebook messages . She replied very less earlier too .
Am i rude or is she showing me her attitude ?
Who is wrong ?
I admit that i abused her and said sorry for that but she dont want to talk with me .
What do girl's really want ?
I dont want to hurt anyone it hurts me . I abused my girlfriend's sister and she is not talking with me right now .
Especially girl's give me some good answer's please .
I really want to talk with her i don't want her to think of me as a bad person .
:(
thanks
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4 responses
@ivygrey (550)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Give her sometime... both of you made mistakes. Her mistake was that if she knows that she is going to get busy, She could have answered just one call from you and tell you straight that she can't accept your call for the whole day.. Or maybe if she was really busy, She could have sent you a message that tells you that she is loaded and can't get her hands to her phone.
Now your mistake is that you called her non-stop. or if it was not non-stop. You called her every minute, or every other minute. What if there was an emergency.. you didn't thought of that? What if the whole time she was in the middle of a very important talk with her boss. Or meeting or whatever, and she was down, she don't feel like answering any calls, from you or from anybody.
Give her sometime to think.. the issue is still hot.. she will probably get annoyed more, if you keep on sending messages saying sorry.. After some time, days or weeks, Call her. use another number so she would probably picked up the phone. and talked to her. SAy sorry, And I bet she would say sorry back at you. Give her some space for the mean time.. And good luck!
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@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
In a way, yes you are being rude. You're like harassing your girlfriend's sister because of how you endlessly call her phone even though she rejected you the whole day. Aside from that, I don't think you abused your girlfriend or you being rude. Is caring for your girl too much being rude? I don't think so. In my opinion, your emotional outburst is because you are upset that your girlfriend is not updating you with what's happening in her life like she used to before. In a way, she is being unfair and so is her sister. A simple message or text from her can make your worries away if only she'd done that earlier rather than having you wait for a week.
Needless to say, you need to apologize to your girlfriend's sister for the endless phone calls. I think if someone rejects your call for like 3 times already is an obvious sign of telling you that she's busy or occupied. Just don't force it too much. Deleting you from her facebook friends is somewhat inappropriate just because of what you did. You didn't even do wrong. You were just so worried because no one's telling you what, right? But just say sorry, apologize and try to be patient next time in waiting for your girlfriend. If she keeps you waiting for too long, try to ask or literally beg her to keep contact with you more often to help you ease that loneliness and worry that you're feeling. You're not a bad person and don't even think of yourself as one. Give them some time to cool off, give yourself time as well. Try to woo her again and in time, you'll be fine again and kickin.
Best of luck
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I hope it all goes out well for you. And ow, Patience is a virtue.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
28 Jul 10
Hi, sandyme. You did not abuse your girlfriend. The only thing that you have done is called your girlfriend's sister phone so many times until it annoyed her. Just don't call so much. Apologize and be sincere. That is why her sister did not pick up the phone because you called it so many times. Don't do this anymore. This can be very annoying to them both.
@hongocha (63)
• Thailand
31 Jul 10
it was your fault and you should try to make her accept your apology. be a man, you shouldn't have abused a girl. and that was her phone and she could decide to pick up or not, and although she turned out to be a mean girl, you should have been patient, it would be much better for your relationship