How to know if he is MR RIGHT
By lilmuchang
@lilmuchang (261)
France
July 27, 2010 4:04pm CST
Me and my boyfriend are getting married soon, he proposed a while ago. Eventhough we've known each other for nearly 6 years, I'm having doubts. I'm not sure if he is the right one, if he is really my soulmate. We've had our ups and downs, he cheated on me once. We fought big time. Then we reconciled. And I don't know if I can ever trust him again. And it's bugging me. He makes me happy. We're miserable with/without each other. We can't decide :(
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@shiquitatw (442)
• Jamaica
28 Jul 10
I surely don't want to come across as the negative Annie but if you don't have trust you don't have anything. When it comes down to fighting, that is where communication comes in. When it comes to infidelity that can be a serious problem. It is very hard to get pass cheating but it is not impossible - For some- If I could give you bit of advice seek relationship counseling,This will help you guys work pass the issues that you are having with trust and communication. Good Luck :)
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@MAllen400 (829)
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27 Jul 10
hi I think one of the best things to have a good marriage is trust and personally I feel if you cannot have trust then you wont have a good marriage.
If a train was coming towards you both would you push him out the way knowing you would be the one to get hurt? yes, then you will work everything out but if you answered no then put off the marriage.
Being engaged is a wonderful happy time,and perhaps you should have a friendly break from each other for a while.
@lilmuchang (261)
• France
27 Jul 10
Hi MAllen
We've had our part of "friendly break", but normally it does not last more than two days. As one of us would eventually call the other up, telling the other that we're sorry and that we want to get together again. Our relationship gets very complicated, and I can't make up my mind. Is this just our way of saying we're afraid of losing each other?
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jul 10
hi lilmuchang I think you really do love each other so go get some marriage counseling then give your boyfriend a chance as I am sure
he would not have proposed if he was sorry and wanted to have another
chance. counseling will really help; and you must each trust the other
'and for goodness sakes keep that trust.do not cheat ever then you will finally learn to trust again.Just do not hold that cheating over his head as that will make you both miserable. if you cannot bring yourself to trust him, then I believe you will have to call it off. I mean every person who errs deserves one chance but not more than that.
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
i really do believed in a saying that if you have doubts in something you want to do, do not continue it. it might not work or it will fail.
but in your case, you are the only person who can attest on that, if you are not ready yet, why forcing yourself to do so?
@junnah25 (55)
• Cavite City, Philippines
28 Jul 10
For me there is no such thing as Mr. Right. I just know that if you really love someone and he loves you the same way, and you think that you can live your life beside him.
if you're sure that you're willing to endure troubles and shortcomings in life... then he is the one for you.
