What kind of mother do you have? and What kind of mother are you?
By Bluerain25
@Bluerain25 (812)
Philippines
July 27, 2010 9:30pm CST
Let me share this mother classifications with you:
*Invasive mother - makes it a point to know and control everything going on in child's life... my mom is and i dont want to do this to my kid.
* Smoothering mom - constantly keeps them close.. nahhh shes not like that but i wanted to be but i cant.. i only see my kid once a week or twice a month
* The invisible mom - always running off and doing her own things... mom and me are just like that
* The excuse mom - makes excuses on their child's fault and deficiences.... nahh she's notlike that also.. and i guess i am not like that too.. not unless in my kid's presence
* The cool mom - determined to be their child's friend rather than their mother.. hmm i am both a mother and a friend to my kid.. my mom? i dont think she has been a friend to me... ut anted to be my kid's friend
* The balance mom - knows how and when to ease off on the umbilical chord, encourages their child to take ownership and responsibility for their own actions, builds their confidence, yet doesnt like inflate their ego and accepts them for who they are as an individual... not my mother... and that is i wanted to be to my kid
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17 responses
@ivygrey (550)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
My mother is not perfect mom, She is nice and all bu it seems like my mother has a favorite in the family, and guess what.. it's not me. She like to compare me and my sister. I love her so much, she seems to not like showing her love to me. Now that I'm a mom, I always make sure i give love to my kids fairly. An I also want to be their best friends forever!
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
There's no such thing as a perfect ivy. As what everybody says nobody is perfect. I have the same experience like you me too was often compared to my brother and sisters.. Not just my mom did that but also my auntie's and my mother's aunties. Why you are not like your sisters and your brother, they are tall, fair skinned.. blahblah.It will a waste of money to send you to school. When you finish no one will hire you.. .wow it hurts... so what if i am not tall and fairskinned..so what if i am ugly? who cares? Im sure there are employer out there who did not look for beauty. I took it as a challenge... Among the three of who are always compared before i am the one with the stable job and the only one with a child. LOL
@beautifulpages (70)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
I knew of a woman both wonderful and kind. She is a disciplinarian but never authoritative, she was very supportive and loving. She encouraged her children how to help/give to other people without expecting anything in return. She instilled in their hearts the value of family relations. She guided them with her love and wisdom. She sparked their thirst for knowledge and education. She showed them the value of hard work and showed her pride in the fruits of her labor that her children may follow her example. She is my mother.
My sisters and I learned a lot of life's valuable lessons from her. And now that I am a mother too, I try to live by her example. I want my children to be God-fearing, happy and contented individuals driven to improve themselves as well as those around them.
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Hi beautiful, im really thankful that there are still mothers out there that are like yours. i know there are more not just your mom. how i wish i have a mother like yours but you know what? even my mom is not like your still i thrive to be the best i can be to my own child now.
@nishdan01 (3051)
• Singapore
28 Jul 10
I am a cool mom. I like to be the friend of my child. Sometimes, I tend to be very authoritative and that is when my kids try to pay a deaf ear to what I say. A mother's character largely will be based on child's character. Easy going kids will have easy going moms. If children challenge parents, then it will be a topsy turvy ride.
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
LOL! Being cool and authoritative is great. Sometimes we have to impose some orders strictly just to correct our kids.
@kshp_dpk (213)
• India
28 Jul 10
In this world mother is very important to us.Through mother we can learn every thing that can lead our life smoothly.Mother can give love and care to their child.To me my mom is very important.She can support me in everything.She always take care of me and love me a lot.Once i will became a mother i will also take care to my child same like my mom do.
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Hi kshp, I agree mothers are important. But learning? not all of them did taught their children on which way would lead us to a smooth life. You are lucky to have your mother.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
28 Jul 10
My mother is such a kind that she loves and cares me,understands my problem and never lets me to hurt.I am very lucky to have my mother.To some it may take long time to understand what mother is but to some it is token of love.Like wise i want to be same as her when the time comes comes for me to be as her.
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Loving, caring, understanding, yes krnavtr you are lucky to have that kind of a mother. I really envied to thos who have mothers that shows their love on their children.
@rangasri (45)
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28 Jul 10
mother is everying in this world . she is suppose to have various phases in his life . she will be a cool at one one time serious at other time like that . the main , i can also say primary duty of a mother is to first look into his children and then her husband and normally indian womens lastly think about themselves. before children their first and foremost duty to just love and affect hunband and for them there is no other god other than husband
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Hi rangasri, you might be a family first person i guess. they are always your top priority.
@gracefuldove (1668)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 10
I have a great mother. She showed me what is love without even speaking the words. Her action and response is positively loving. for me, I try to emulate her and I treat my children with abundant love.
@naoimi09 (106)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
I can describe my mom, as the best mom in the world, the best mom one could ever have, and the best mom one can't afford to lose.
My mom is not just a mom for me and my siblings. She is also a friend whom you can run to when it comes to problems and whom you can lean on when you want to cry. She is also there to share your joys and success in life. My mom, will do everything just to give us all the comfort in the world. With all this years we have been through to a lot of problems and trials, and despite all those we experienced, we were able to conquer it all, because of the love, care and support we give to each other.
We always thank our mom for all she had done to us. For all the sacrifices, hardships, and especially the never ending love mom and dad gives us. We always felt so blessed and happy for the parents God had given me and my siblings.
I can't describe the word how to thank mom and dad, but I know they felt how much we love them.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
My mother is not perfect but we love her all the way. My mother is also very supportive. She supports all of our endeavors though there are times that she meddles with our affairs and try to decide for us. My mom is also cool. Some people think that she is more stylish than me. lol
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
hi p3ks, we sure do love her though she is not that supportive and always meddles in our affair. LOL even we are old enough she would always says "as long as you dont have your own family, you will always do what i say" LOL
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
I just remember that its one of my report for our child and adolescent development. The kinds of parent it is stated that there are only 4 types of parenting. However as the years go by it evolve and they have added some types of parents. The first 4 types of parenting are: authoritative, authoritarian, indulgent, and neglectful. For me I am a combination of 3 types of parenting styles. I am authoritative, authoritarian and indulgent parent. I am a demanding parents but I dont set expectations. I am consistent with my standard rules and I am on the control for most of the aspects. I also let my child speak up and reason out however I see to it that he still show some respect whenever he is reasoning out.
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Letting your child talk or reason out is very important. I let mine do reason out. Sometimes i even find myself unreasonable after her reasons.
My mother is not like that. As a kid we are not allowed to reason out. We are just ther children and we dont have the right to answer them back.
@jennywren3 (54)
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28 Jul 10
I am not a mother, my mother sort of put me off having children. My mother is an interfering, selfish woman who has got worse the older she gets, i have 3 sisters & mother expects to be taken on holiday with one of us, had for christmas etc. What ever is done for her it's not good enough, my husband calls her "the witch".
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Good for you rjkmrr and im sure your mother is so proud of you.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
I take my place as a balance and a cool mom. I am friendly to my kids and at the same time i want the to do their responsibility as they have it. Even they are still young I want them to carry themselves as how they will carry it when they are grown up already. I told them that our home is a ground for training for us. How we run our lifestyle. At home we have the complete facilities for training by chores, the individual obligations down to characters of each of us. Not only the kids, but from parents to children to be their guide. In this situation we need to build a friendship relationship to our kids. All of this are my practice to my own children. Thanks and have a nice day!
@pirate451 (152)
• India
28 Jul 10
I have good mother who gave birth and care of me and she is like god which she use to teach us in right way to go.She fulfilled the our dream what ever wanted or needed she use to manage for us.She is kind,frank,and understanding and she is wonderful mother who give love like the rush of life.I also be same as my mother only which I have to be sweetest and wonderful for my children.We have be special mother and love your mother,if we love our mother than we get wishes from them.
@mabey1 (334)
• Romania
28 Jul 10
if i have to chose ffrom the categories enumerated by you, i would say that my mom is "the balance mom", she is my friend,my mom, my confident, she knows how to keep the distance. she's really a rolemodell for me, what kind of mother would like to be. compared to her i'm a new mom, i really can't decide whar kind of mom am i. i would say that i have from every tip of mom. but i would really, really like to be a balanced mom.
