Have you been terribly inlove that you were blinded with the truth?

My answer to that question is positive. I was in a relationship that nearly make me mad 'because I am deeply in Love'...Mine was two years of living in hell yet in absolute Love. We actually met online on one of the numerous dating sites and started chatting, getting to know one another which eventually leads to us having a spark or chemistry you may say...within few weeks, we met and it was fantastic. I told her while courting that I am for real and really looking to get settled down, no playing around for me. She said the same and come to think of it, we were so plain to each other to some extent because later, I got to know many stuff about her which she did not open up to me initially. But because, I am in deep love I found it hard breaking away. 1. She's 4 years older than me...yes age to me is mere numbers...2. she's Anaemic...yes it's manageable and with the right medication there should be no problem...3. She's got Obsessive compulsive Disoder in Cleaning,shopping...4. No friends visiting to mention but few. We had some few nice times though...we started leaving together after going against all odds to do our engagement...my parents never give their conscent because she was never friendly with them. I remember a day they came visiting us and hell was let loose. My darling girl, told them at the door point blank in a harsh way 'please,please I don't want my rug been dirtied or germs from your legs...take off your shoes and wear these flurffy' [she produced about five different flurffy slipons]. I was dumbfounded! My parent turned back right there and she didn't even feel remorse for her action. Another day, I went shopping and storked the house with cartons of virtually our needs as the shop were having their sales. She saw the bulk and start screaming, I told her it's from sales in M&S which was very rare...alas! my girl packed everything back to the shop and came home with 1 or 2 of all those things I bought. When I asked her, why are you doing this? She replied, can't you see there is no space for it all? To cap it all, I closed from work one fateful day and my key would not open the door. I then gave her a call...she told me Yes, she changed the locks as she wants me out of the house for a change. I said she must be playing pranks but yes, she's damn serious 'I need my space' she told me. Many things really happened that I found it hard expressing right now...how many men today can give a total attention to their love ones? I did with my girl to the extent that I gave her my rota at Work...she holds all my bank card...I don't allow her spend her salary for house chores or Mortgage and she earns more than I do...she was pregnant for me 2months and never told me until she aborted it. Was I not blinded by love afterall?

That is sad but people say when people are so nice they are really hiding something and they are not telling the truth. So in the long run it will transpire and it does as you mentioned. I think it was a blind love. Too good to be true. I never has this lind of expereince, I can tell from my expereince with working with young people, this is the most common.

ivygreyno as I was older and already had supported my self for some years before I met and fell inlove aNd married my husband. so I knew his good points and bad points and loved him for who he was, w e loved unconditionally and thats the very best way to loveeach other., we accept each other as h uman beings who err and also do wonderful things too.

in my opinion, i don't believe on love is blind, there's no such things i guess like that,rather, i believe on what we called unconditional love. Unconditional love is accepting the person no matter what kind of person he/she is...even if he or she is a criminal.. or whatever...that's true love

Yep I was one time,and I got hurt by the girl so hard that I cant never ever fall this deep in love ;)

As the saying goes, " Love is blind. " I believe that anyone who has fallen in-love has experienced betrayal once in their life. When one is in-love, you oftentimes overlook important things which really matters in your relationship. You only see the "good" side of everything about your partner. You are blinded by your belief that you are meant to be together. That is why, we seem crazy whenever we are in-love. We forget about what's important, we set aside our preferences and we learn to accept things which supposedly shouldn't be disregarded. We become numb and dumb at times. And when reality bites, we feel so lost, helpless and broken that it still seems so hard to let go. Sometimes utter frustration and anger couldn't stop us from holding on, even if we know it is the best thing to do. But as they say, time heals all wounds. In time, you will recover and move on. The best is yet to come, so keep on believing the right person for you will come at the right time.

I can relate with your friend's current situation. I broke up with my 5 years more relationship for a new guy. The new guy is nice, sweet and thoughtful, but my friends are against him and our relationship. They are against with my new bf because of his history on his ex-gf. Despite that fact, I am still with him and fighting for him. I have given up my fiancee for him, although I knew that my future would be better to him than with my new bf. I have to admit, I may be blinded with my love to this guy, But that's the way it is. Sometimes, we need to take risks for us to know the answers. Good thing, my friends don't leave me with my battle. They told me that in case I am down and need them, they will just be there for me.

Fortunately for me, I never had experienced being terribly in love from the point of blinding yourself from the truth. That is way too stressful and too painful for me to handle. Once the truth is spilled and I don't like it all, it calls for me to decide upon the matter. Hence, ending it(the relationship) sooner is better than having to blind yourself from what really is happening just because you love that person too much. I deserve so much better than that. It amazes me too see people who do that and can endure all the pain for so long. That is way too unfair. I guess love can really do make people do crazy things.

yes of course... but that was a private thing to discussed about

Hi ivygrey, I think we all, at some point in our love relationships have been so in love that we overlook many of our significant other's faults. We want to believe that we have a prize package, so we put the blinders on. That is natural. Ten years is a long time to be with someone and not know that person, inside and out, if you will. How can you even stay with someone that long without a marriage. In fact, some marriages don't last that long. It is important that you and the other friends are there to support your girl friend, even if she doesn't seem to want you guys around. When she is ready, she will come around and maybe be ready to talk about what happened. If she is ready, just be a good listener. It is good that you don't tell her that she should have listened to you when you were trying to tell her about her ex-boyfriend. She needed to see for herself who he really is, and she did even though it should have been soon than ten years. I wish her the best, and a speedy recovery from her broken-heart. Take care,

I had been terribly in love with my first love. He wasn't my first boyfriend, but he is my true love. I don't know if I could love like I loved him. He is married and a father of two cute kids. I am happy for him of course. But he will always have that place in my heart, for forever and that is for sure. I am sorry to hear about your friend. There are many girls out there experienced the same as your friend did. For me, it is absolutely stupid. I had a friend who will do everything to make the guy she loves, to love her back. Just be realistic I guess. I know it is hard when your friend loved someone so much and you come to tell her to be realistic. It might be hard to see your friend is fooled that way, but, it is a lesson for her as well. We can just pray and hope that she will learn from her mistakes. Advice her.. if she doesn't listen.. just let her learn from what she goes through. Hope your friend soon learn.. and go on with her life.. ^^

Feeling of too much in love sometimes would not give us any good thing. I am also in that situation. That I am too much in love to this guy, even if I already caught him cheating on me. I still accepted him. Even if he is ignoring me I still believe that he is just busy that is why he did not contact me for the whole 1 week. Can you see how blind I am when it comes to reality about him. I keep on denying even if I already see it in my naked eyes I still deny. Too stupid.

Yes there was a time when that also happened to me. I used to love this girl who was my first girlfriend for like two years. She used me a lot but i didn't believe that even when my friends told me so. I had by then grown so attached and dependant on her that it made me difficult to see the truth about her. Later after a couple of years when i proposed her she said no. I was devastated and i was completely sad and began to lose my mind. After 3 months i decided that i shouldn't linger in one girl's shadow for a long time and hence i moved on. Then once i began to think i came to know how duped and absent minded i was. Later i thanked her for saying no and now i am happy to be single.

Yes I also have been terribly in love that I was blinded with the truth. I met with this guy and our relation is now 5years. He is very loving and caring but he always says he don't believe in love. He thought love is just a chemical reaction. I thought this kind of people will be very particular and I appreciate his honesty. On the other day he said he feel jealous when I receive my ex's call. He proudly said judge his action not on what he said and I felt so secure to love him, But no I was wrong to believe him he is what he said only not the one I thought.