I'll stay for tthe sakke of my children...
By sincerelyne
@sincerelyne (156)
Philippines
July 28, 2010 2:26am CST
love relationship is composed between a man and a woman, you have to love your partner to keep the relationship longer. but if one feel out of love, it's hard to live with someone you don't love at all, now if you will stay for the sake of your children, you will suffer and it will reflect you with how you will be with your kids.i am in a roller coaster relationship, the more i stay, the harder it is to myself. UNHAPPY.
4 responses
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
28 Jul 10
Sincerelyne, one of the things about a roller coaster is that it continues going in circles. It has high points and low points but always ends at the same point it begins. It is lamentable that you are unhappy with your situation. An unhappy mom makes for unhappy children. Many will argue that the only thing to do is to get out. But the fact is, it is no one else's decision to make. Look within yourself and try to determine the true reasons you stay. Perhaps these reasons will give you insight into what you truly want.
@shiquitatw (442)
• Jamaica
28 Jul 10
If you are this miserable in your marriage, then you are doing more harm to your child by staying with your husband. I am not saying that divorce will be easy on your child. It never is, but if it is a toss-up between having your child see the two of you in misery, never expressing any outward affections to each other, then it is better to be apart. It would be great if you two could work out your relationship; but that is very difficult to do if there was no love present in the first place. So I suggest you consider making some changes for your child's, and your own, sake. Your child can be guided into the understanding that even though mom and dad do not love each other, that does not mean you do not love him/her! Make sure your child knows that the divorce was no fault of his/hers; and that both you and your husband will still get to spend time with him/her. The environment that you are now living in is not conducive to you or your child's emotional well being. Divorce is hard on children; but it is better than living with the daily stress of seeing parents "not in love," and whatever may follow that. Your child can be helped to cope with the divorce in a healthy way. You, too, should consider personal counseling to help yourself deal with the feelings that have developed out of this relationship. Good luck to you and your family.
