Someone loves you ever so much but......

Hi ketybhagat, You both are married and are childhood families that is fine but, does your husband know you meet this guy regularly? You never felt anything weird about this since you are already married ? Probably you don't coz you don't have feelings for him but your subconscious mind could be playing games with you. That guy is meeting up with you and you know he loves you, i would say you stop seeing him like this. He is not happy with his wife maybe, but that does not mean he should come up and meet you. Though it doesn't seem this way but, he is cheating someone.

I think when you decide to marry with somebody, not with your childhood friend, you must feel that your husband is better than your friend. You must share your happiness, your problems, your difficulties with your husband not with anyone else. You will hurt your beloved persons, your husband and your friend, if you can't forget your friend. You must change your attitude, just avoid your friend, don't think and don't wish he will always love you, he has had a family. he must love his wife and his children. Or maybe you just think that you love your friend, oh no... it has been late. From now, just think that you will make your family happy, your husband, your children. they love you too, nobody will love you as like your family.

Why is he unhappy? What made you say that? Anyways, bot of you have your own life now, married.When you two were singles you did not have the heart to love him the way he loved you so there's no need for you to feel sorry about it now. It is time to move on and let your friend find peace, too. Why would you still be hurting him,by the way? If you are thinking what I am thinking..... PLEASE DO NOT DO IT. Just focus on your husband and kids. You can't do anything about his happiness and perhaps it has nothing to do with you. If he needs your friendship, be there for him but only as friend. I was, when was in college. What I did? I let go of the friendship. It was a good decision not for myself but for him. Then, I moved on with my life.Now, he is happy with his family after 16 years of not finding me.:-)

Wow that's a tough one. Hope things go ok, you'll just have to give it time. There has been a time when I have been in HIS position. My friend was always there for me even though she knew how I felt about her. She said she would always be my friend but anything further would not be possible. She was the greatest friend ever and helped me get through it by minimising the time she spent with me, I knew it would take time for me to get over those feelings but I stuck through it in pain and eventually I got over it, we met again after 2 years and now we are the best friends ever. She knew it would hurt me to cut contact but she knew I'd be happy again eventually. She wanted me to be happy, that's why she stopped seeing me and I can see that now even though at the time I thought she hated and rejected me.

i think if he doesn't have anything to show love to you , then you should also silent . And try to do things to show love between you and him : no love, just make friend and no go too far anymore :)

i have a friend who loves me so much, and i love him, but we live so far ...

that must be very hard for you to handle such situation. There's this guy, courting me for a year.. I am busy with my work and so he is. We are two hours away from each other so we don't see that much.. But he never fails to send me something every week like butterscotch that he baked.. my friends really like him because they think that he loves me so much.. I don't know why I can't love him, but I do appreciate him. be blessed! :)

Hi kety, you don't want to do anything which will harm your family. That is fine. But you friend has touched your heart. I think you can't deny it. In your subconscious mind you have deep feelings about him. This is natural. Man and woman are opposite gender and God(nature) has given extra attraction to each other. We all are under the rule of nature. Yes I have a friend like you. I handle her as you handle him.

Hi kety my county cousin, You know the Oedipus complex? That your male friend of your childhood friend is so close to you and the reason is that he belongs to a different gender. You might not have any special feeling for him but he does have in the inner self for you. And therefore some time you feel k;like that. Nothing to worry until he does some mischiefs.

Wow you sure are going through a lot right now in this situation and all. Looks like he really loves you a lot and would leave his wife for you really sad that he is unhappy, but he shouldn't have got married if he knew he was not going to be happy. A childhood friend is a very strong bond that gets stronger after year and year and so on. I see you do not want to break that bond of just a childhood friend. I really don't have a solution for your problem here this one really is a toughie and it has me stumped. The only solution would probably be to talk things out as adults and be civil about it because I really don't see no other way, but if you do come up with one then very good. Still in situations like this one or the other always ends up getting hurt no matter how bad you don't want it. It's always bound to happen. Still I'm sure that he will understand one way or another. Or maybe I'm wrong I hope you get out of this tough situation that you are in.

I have never been to a situation like that but it sure is not healthy and you should not entertain it. Of course he is your friend and he also has a family now. You both have your own families and you both need to respect that. When you say that he loves you, that's good because he loves you as a friend. Just deal with it like you are not giving him any hopes or something like that.

Oh my, what a temptation. You should know where you stand being a good friend only. You must know your limitations. What you can do only is to give him some pieces of advice. A sincere prayer can help you stay away from trouble and be faithful to your husband.

Yeah I have face same problems like you but I didn't take any action.

I have also gone through this kind of experience in my life.I got a friend with whom I am very close since my childhood.We are very much intimate to each other since from the time we are friends.We never had any discussions till now.We spent together in our school life till 12th standard.While doing degree 'we departed. Now he is married and he is a father of a baby boy.But the respect and the love that we have is still the same.I visit his place sometimes and they treat me very well..There didn't came any kind of selfishness or hurting till now.We are like a one kind of family member.

I am not in this particular situation because i am not married. But i can understand your pain. I also know how far this can go if that childhood friend of yours is very demanding. But since you have said he is warm and selfless i am assuming that he feels the same about you. So whatever feeling you are having is just due to your childhood experiences and memories. You have a loving family now and you must be able to pay more attention to them. You should probably spend more time with your family and then they would be a distraction to you. Since you said he is your friends he will understand you.

Don't be so stupid my friend if your husband comes to know than what he will think and even your friend's wife too. If you stay with your husband quietly than only your friend feels sad but if you goes with your friend than you are making two people feels sad. I can say only this much rest you decide. Alys take care.

I have a friend who loves and care me a lot. He is a batuaral but I am married and got a child. Even though I know he still love me I pretend not to be known. He tries to express his feelings,but I act innocent to him. More over he understand me that I had got a child.

My stupid friend what made you to change your mind.Love the one who love you not the one whom do you love.Be satisfied what you have.You are my friend husband and even you are my childhood friend.My friend let not break our good relation.Think twice before you do something.

I don't have experience because it has not happen yet. But I really want to suggest you that Every one feel the same what you are feeling , no one would like to hurt friends, before looking them , you should know that you too have family. As being married you should concern to your family because they are attached to you. Your childhood friend is your past and now you are living in present. If they need any help and support there.. you should do that.

Gosh! u might be having tough time in this kinda situation. Anyway i never had experienced such situation in my life. i only suggest that look into your marital life not in your childhood friend's happiness and unhappiness. By this if your hubby come to know he will be fore sure unhappy with you. Please take care