Answer his telephone or not?

@Shinyqiu (119)
China
July 28, 2010 4:12am CST
I have ended love with my ex bf for three monthes.We contact little with each other when he moved to the place where near his company and lived with another girl.i spend much time persuading me to disappear from his world completely. But this days he called me for three times,when i plan to another city to start a new life(i delete all the internet contact software like QQ,MSN,SKYPE etc,and enjoined my best girlfriends that don't tell anything about me) .I rejected his call everytime.Now i feel very regret for this,i don't why,i am afraid that i desire to answer his tel in fact,i want to hear his voice...... mylotter friends,would you tell me that can i answer his tel or not when he call me again?
19 responses
• China
29 Jul 10
I can comprehand your complex mood, I think you should begin your brand-new life and pay more attention to pursue yur furture study and work, please belive that every end is a new beginning.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
29 Jul 10
You said right.i believe i live better despite of ending a love that make me my heart broken up.i also belive i will start a new better life than before.so i will still contitue rejecting his call.tks!
@aldawn22 (224)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
I think it's good to answer his calls, answering his calls doesn't mean that you will be back again but you will be able to know what is the reason why he is calling. If wants to come back but you don't want him anymore then tell him frankly that you want to live life without him. Ask for his blessings that you wanted to move on so that both of you will have a peace of mind. However, if you still want him back then give him a chance if he really deserves it but of course do it in a way that you will be assured that he is deserving to be loved again. Open your communication whenever it's possible but not to the extent that his bothering you already.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
29 Jul 10
en,maybe i can adopt your advise to try what's meaning why he is calling.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
29 Jul 10
It is kinda hard to tell because I don't know how you two broke up. Do you feel there are things that you still need to settle with him, or him with you? Then I think it would be better to take that call. The things that he would tell you might just be the thing you needed to truly moved on. And, no offense, but if you truly mean what you say when you wanna start a new life, how come you're still keeping your old number when you can easily replace that, text or call brigade all the important people and make them be aware of your new number? Could it be you are also hanging on still?
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
29 Jul 10
I think we don't need to settle between us,he has broken up my lovely heart,even if he want to come back with me.It is no possible to mend my broken-up heart,any way.I do not only need his concern about anything,but also,i don't want to heart anything about him.Many mylotter said right,i don't hesitate to move on a new life.tks!
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 10
hm..it depends on you actually my friends...if you think that you are regret if you didnt answer his telephone, so follow of your heart voice..
• India
28 Jul 10
Well i don't think you should respond to him when you have already decided to start a new life somewhere else. As you said he has already got another girl and now when you reply him he will probably tell you about how you were the only girl and hes was so wrong not to believe that before and then there be still some more problems in the recent future between the two of you. He wants you back because it's only you who can understand him right now. He thinks that your that girl. Just stay away if you can or else if you can't help it then you would definitely talk to him.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
29 Jul 10
Thanks!But i don't think he wants me back together with him like before,only maybe because of that he was ashamed by his action waht harmed to me deeply.As you said,though he decided to start a new life,why he conceal his recently gf to contact with me.Maybe i should continue rejecting his tel.....but i am afraid i can't do so.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
If you have decided to start a new life, and if he is already living with another girl, I think it will be wiser for you not to take his calls. You shouldn't accept any means of communication from him especially now that I can say that you will still be vulnerable around him. When we still love someone, the tendency is for us to be blind about the things we should see, and listen to the things we want to hear only. Having a communication with him again will be detrimental to your desire to move on. if the two of you are really meant for each other, fate will find the way to bridge again your lives...you should be firm with your decision so you can have the chance to be happy again
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
29 Jul 10
hey,well the decision is firmer for me to start a new life,to go another city,the ticket i have buied already in fact.But when i read your respond for this post,i think i have known the answer to deal with this call.I don't promise him to disturb my life.As you said,if i still contact with him,i will be detrimental to move on,tks!^^ Have a nice day!
@asiregar (864)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
29 Jul 10
actually depends on the situation yourself to answer or reject it, if you think both should be answered as a sign of friendship but if you think it will bring bad things should just be forgotten
• United States
28 Jul 10
Sometimes time will heals all wounds, you must reflect as to the reason this person became an ex. Was it because it was not healthy for you and you needed to break away. Was it just because you needed time for your self. I would say do not answer any call and give yourself time to heal, but if you must you should convey that time apart is the best thing now. However any decision you make you must not have regrets as all the time in the world will not allow you to heal.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
your story is sad, but that's life, you said he lives with another girl.for me there's no reason for you to. communicate your ex-bf,it will hurt you more. now that you know that he is with another girl. it's time for you to move on...think of all the bad things he did for you and cry with it over night. write everything that you want to tell him.if you feel that you have something to tell him just to ease your pain then go answer him and tell him everything.it's better if you can talk only to release what ever pain you have for what he did to you.
• United States
29 Jul 10
i dont think there is any thing wrong with answering the phone to talk to him. if you never want to be with him again maybe its just a good idea to wait to hear his voice until you truly get over him. then when you do, if you still want to tak to him thats fine. however if you are over him then answering the phone the next time he calls is not a problem. i think its kinda cool when 2 ex's can be friends and know that they are not meant for eachother.
29 Jul 10
I say just move on or you are in danger of getting hurt. I'm assuming you broke up for a reason. Do you still have feelings for him? I think you'll be doing the right thing by rejecting his calls. It's time for you to go out and meet some new people because as the saying goes there are plenty of fish in the sea and if he's already off and living with another girl which I assume is his girlfriend shouldn't you be moving on too? If your feelings are so bad that you can't help it and he feels the same you could give it another try though it's up to you, decide what is best for your situation as I don't know you well enough from the info you've given, you haven't said why you broke up with your ex. Whatever happens, good luck :) and don't let anyone hurt you ;)
• China
29 Jul 10
No,I don't think you should answer his tel.Since you are ended the love.You should let him leave you in your life completely.And then try to start the new life...It will be better.
@wejdan (1)
• Jordan
29 Jul 10
I think you should move on with your life too,answering his calls will make you weaker and sadder,and will make it even more difficult for you to gain your strength back,and if he could start a new life and have a new girl ,so can you,do not waste your time and be strong,I know it will be hard for you,but you will get over it
• India
29 Jul 10
see friend....its only you who can correct him because no other than know him as you..talk to him evryday and make him realize that he is no one without you. also talk to his new GF and mould her by saying u are the best ppl on this planet.....its all how u do it to get him back..its becoz u still love him u feel to attend his calls....all the best...have courage...dont break reltions which hurt you
@grayxenon (1313)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
If you plan to move on without him, then answering the phone will mess the entire process, not If you cant live without him and there are no complications going back together in each other arms, then answer it right away and forgive everything and move-on again with him towards a fresh start and hopefully this time it would be much sweeter and better.
@george000 (166)
• India
28 Jul 10
You can answer his call because he may have regret and remember about the past and he will be shame and don't make him flop and we should not make others unhappy and let them to hurt as we were living for uncountable and unremarkable days only, so let us live happily .
• China
28 Jul 10
first,i think you should know what the purpose he called is.you said he had already lived with another girl,so maybe they quarreled these days and he was in a bad mood,so he called you just for some consolation.after that,he may desert you and get along with her gf again.there is another case yet,maybe he really regret what he was doing,but as your love ended yet,and you intend to have a new life,you should not answer the phone as well.in a word,i think you should not speak with him.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
If you have decided to start a new life, and if he is already living with another girl, I think it will be wiser for you not to take his calls. You shouldn't accept any means of communication from him especially now that I can say that you will still be vulnerable around him. When we still love someone, the tendency is for us to be blind about the things we should see, and listen to the things we want to hear only. Having a communication with him again will be detrimental to your desire to move on. if the two of you are really meant for each other, fate will find the way to bridge again your lives...you should be firm with your decision so you can have the chance to be happy again
• India
28 Jul 10
i would only suggest that forget the past and don't answer his call. Let him be.... u just move ahead with life and i m sure there will be someone deserving guy of urs in ahead.