wasted relationship

I also waited for him to approcah me first but he just sms me for asking sorry. I didn't feel the sincerity on that so I asked him for us to sit anf talk personally. The damage has been done and it will not bring back the bonding we had before. I was just worried because I told my mother what happened and I do not know how she will handle that. She has so much trust with my brother and betraying that trust surely hurt her.

This comment for the both of you, it is unfortunate that we can quite easily forgive and forgo friends mistakes quite easier than family; maybe perhaps because of the relationship between family is deeper and the errors hurt more profound. I have no one in my family that I have spoken to for well over 21 years, they have a lifestyle I just cannot approve of. I can tell you that at first I was quite hurt and wished they would apologize for all the things and troubles they have put me through. As time has flown by, reminder 21 years later I still to date have not heard from them, and mind you they are the ones that hurt me. I did not think it would be possible but I have absolutely no feelings one way or another. Meaning I don't hurt or feel sad about not having a relationship with them. I suppose I have become numb towards any feelings. Funny thing I went to a wake just his last January and as I walked in to my surprise there they were. As soon as I walked in they immediately walked away as if they have never met me before in my life. It is an awful shame that life is this way and how could my own mother not care that her only granddaughter by the way now has a child, making her a great grandmother. It is hard to figure people out sometimes, I suppose I gave up a very long time ago and well leave it to God to decide whether their decision was correct or not. So the moral of the story is; if you let it go you too will have absolutely no feelings one way or anther towards them and well perhaps such in my case this was a good thing or perhaps you choose never ever to see and or speak to them again as long as you live.

I am still hoping that this strained relationship between me and my brother will be mend in the future. I know it will not be the same way again but at least we treat each other in a civil way. I still have a room for forgiveness but not at this point in time. But what I am afraid of is that as time goes by, we might get be drifted farther apart that reconciliation will be impossible. Still, a part of me is hoping for the best. I am not a heartless person and I know he's not either, we may not be in good terms right now but we will be in time.

I totally agree with you. As the popular saying goes, "Blood is thicker than water". I know I cannot be stranged with him for long. Like you, I just want to make my point that the thing he did is not tolerable. At least next time, he wil be more careful and considerate for his decisions especially when it involves the whole family and the family's reputation.

Yah, It got me thinking. Maybe what I needed are space and time.

It's not a petty issue that I will just pass. I know in my heart I will forgive him in time but not now. I hope like what you said, when the time comes, it's not yet too late.