I hate the word "BUSY".

Philippines
July 28, 2010 8:58pm CST
My boyfriend is always busy. He rarely sees me. He never ask me a date. He never give presents to ease my pain. I don't know if he'' be free from something he is busy of. I hate him and I feel like losing interest on him. I am bored and i am depressed. There's no one who can comfort me. there's no one who i can rely on my worries. He should be there. But he isn't . Spending time with someone even just a minute is ultimately necessary. I miss him. I am so sad.
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@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
That's really terrible!I don't think a boyfriend would make an excuse not to date his love and worst "busy" for anything. Maybe there must something wrong already with the relationship. Try to talk to your boyfriend about the situation before it's too late. Being busy is not a normal excuse, he should make it a point to set aside enough time for the two of you to be together. It's ridiculous to think that every now and then he would throw a "busy" dialogue in you. I don't think it is fair in your part.
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@Fireheart (683)
• India
29 Jul 10
Yea like me but i dont use the word busy at all, i have lot time for my girlfriend, i cherish each and every moments with her, i wonder why your boyfriend left, be more concern to him and tell him how you feel, then you might able to get your attention, every man should confront his lady even though he is busy..thats my policy. being busy is a reason for something to get away.
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@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Sorry to hear that. Love is spelled by time so I agree with you that spending little time with him is necessary. What about texting you? did he?..hmmm... If you are in a relationship even though you are busy you have to get time to see how is your lover doing. It is renewing your feeling all the time especially if you are in the early stage of relationship.
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@joyce318 (139)
• China
29 Jul 10
I am sorry to hear that. If your boyfriend always ignore your feeling, you should communicate with him seriously. you should tell him your feeling, your worry and your thoughts, not just complain all the time. If he does not cherish you any more, leave him and find another one who really love and regard you as treasure. Of course, if you really love him very much, pls communicate with him.
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• Philippines
29 Jul 10
You must understand that men sets their own priorities. You didn't mention on your discussion how your BF kept him busy? Does it because of his Job? Family? Friends? or others? We all have priorities to prioritize, being busy doesn't mean he didn't love you at all.
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
his busy with his work and his religious organization.. sometimes, he's busy with his family.. i don't know if i'm important for him.. i always have tears in my eyes if he doesn't bother to send me a message.
• Jamaica
29 Jul 10
Relationships are one of those situations in which actions speak louder than words..... Other than time that is not his own (due to work, school, or commitments), does he spend his time (his 'free' time) with you ? If not - is he spending it with out people ? If he's spending it with other people, it looks like he may 'love' you, but he prefers to socialize with other people. If that's the case, I'm sure you could find someone who wanted to spend their 'free' time with you....Or, you could accept that he spends time apart from you, and develop your own social life apart from him..... those seem to be the choices.......if the things he's 'too busy' doing don't seem (to you) to be more important than your relationship with him, it may be time to move on. Also happiness starts with inside of you.
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
29 Jul 10
A busy man will find time for everything, make him to find some time for your pusy too, so that you wont miss him at all.
29 Jul 10
Females as my Dad says has got the technical know how of handling a male....example is the scenerio in the bible @ the garden of Eden. Adam was busy running after animals, giving them names while Eve was busy thinking of how the right fruit can be eating in that garden. Common lady...you are the one with the password to his heart...if you do what is right he'll find your time you needed without question.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
there is always reason if your boyfriend is like that. i don't think it is worth it to stick with your boyfriend. it is better to be single at the moment and be open for possible relationship with other people. just learn how to choose well next time. i don't think he was just too busy at all. no one is too busy if he wants to do give time for something.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Always and never, are pretty strong words. If that is really true, maybe he's giving you a hint he is no longer interested in this relationship. You should move on. I would.
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
Hmmm. Well, if he doesn't have time for you, then I guess he's really not being your boyfriend isn't it? I think you should confront him with what you are feeling, and if he doesn't change, then I think you should move on. I'm telling you, don't waste your time on a guy who seems like he doesn't have any time for you.. It's not worth it, and I'm sure you are going to find another that will take care of you, that will give you all his time, and that will make you smile when you feel sad..
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
If a person is important to you,there no such word as BUSY.You will find a time just to see him/her.Sometimes is just an alibi, maybe he/she doesn't want to see you anymore or maybe he/she is loosing interest.It's for you to know what really happening and why he/she had always an alibi.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
it's you who only knew your boy friend better,it's you who can tell if he is telling you the truth, like that he is always busy,feel it into your heart if he is sincere with his words,or he just have an alibi,just be sensitive enough, then make a move for yourself.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
I agree with sincerelyne. If he is really telling the truth, he will find ways to make-up with you. And you should also know in your heart if he is still wants to be with you, if not, you really should do something, else you will end up hating him.
@jose431 (164)
• India
30 Jul 10
I does not hate it totally because most of the time we are engaged in our own work,those who are saying they are always busy I don't believe so.But do not be worry about your boy one day he will come to you with lots of time.
@tweetbird (161)
• United States
29 Jul 10
In my opinion, you're giving him too much control about how YOU feel. Your feelings should not depend on another person. That's a recipe for trouble down the road. For what it's worth, it's time to find a new boyfriend. If you're boyfriend is too busy for you, there is probably a reason why. If you're bored, get active doing something you enjoy. If you're depressed, find something to entertain your thoughts with something else and go out and help someone else. If you do, the depression will go away.
@youless (112595)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Jul 10
I am sorry to hear that. It is not a good sign for a man to say that he is busy, especially to you. A man who is in love always can find time or squeeze time for the one he loves. According to your words, it seems that he doesn't care about you. If he can't treat you right right now, situation may be worse after marriage. I don't know. But perhaps you can figure out whether this man deserves you. I love China
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 10
wow....it like my experience....i always want to share my feelings with her but she is always busy...busy and busy...sometimes i understand with all of her activities...but sometimes make us fight because of that
• United States
29 Jul 10
If it bothers you that bad you should talk to him
@maikeruk (405)
• Germany
29 Jul 10
been busy is a way of laziness, those people that are always busy, beside been super unorganized they unconciously just want to not focus in other stuffs. there is an arabic expresion that says "those who really want something will always find a way, in the other hand those who dont will always find an excuse". you should evaluate that relationship, if he dont want to find time for the relation he will always be "busy" in something else. that is the simple and plain truth
@meirhu (363)
• Israel
29 Jul 10
I haven't seen the other answers to your post. I'd just like to add that the polyamorous approach to your situation would be - just find yourself ANOTHER boy friend WITHOUT leaving HIM. If HE IS interested in you he will do something about that. If he asks you to stop and to be only with him then you can tell him what's bothering you. If HE doesn't change then DON'T give up on the additional boy friend(s). You just might find someone else MORE suitable to you.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
You gotta talk to your boyfriend about this. It should be resolved before it comes to worst. All you need is an open communication to keep him & your relationship. Do not leave yourself on a silent mode. Tell him how you feel & your hurt. If he does the effort, the better. If not, maybe you deserve someone else who is worthy of your time. Good Luck!