have you ever run away from your parents as a child?

@redphile (2264)
Philippines
July 28, 2010 9:30pm CST
Have you ever tried to run away or not go home for a few days without your parents knowledge? I have never tried that, but I just want to understand, why some kids do that. But then I just thought that whenever there are confusion in the home or any kind of disagreement between the parents and children, the child tends to run away or go to a friends house for awhile, making their parents worry too much. Your thoughts my lotters?
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18 responses
@john_ai (26)
• Portugal
30 Jul 10
The only time I've ever run away from home was when I was around 8 years old. I got into an argument with my mum, packed a small suitcase and told my mum that i was running away, hoping to scare her. My plan failed. My mum didn't get scared, instead, she told me that she didn't really care. Annoyed that my plan had backfired, i walked out the front door. It was then that i realised i had nowhere to go, so I hid im my back garden for about five minutes before asking to go back inside.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
you were a kid and you really dont know where else to go. But I dont think that its right that your mother told you that she doesnt really care. I think that words are so powerful that it can come true and it can really kill your feelings. But its go that you went back inside your home and patched things up with your mother.
@rejin_rob (394)
• India
29 Jul 10
If they call the police and a search is put out for you, you might be held accountable for "wasting their resources" and whatnot. I disappeared for 4 days when I was 19 because my father was abusive and all I did was leave a note saying something like "Be back in a few days, I'm fine".
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Its sad that there are fathers or mothers that are abusive, maybe they didnt receive that parently love that they should have when they were kids, and now that they have their own children, they dont know how to deal with it and dont know how to lead you to be better when they didnt even learn that from their parents.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I was very attached to my parents as a child. Thoughts of running away never really entered my mind. Sometimes children will say they want to run away because they are angry over a situation. they don't always mean it. I guess i never thought of running away as a solution.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
Its like running away from your problems which is not helpful to your problems really. Its good that you have a good relationship with your parents.
• India
29 Jul 10
yeah! i did that many times because my parents does not want me to go any where, they don't let me to go with my friends. i has to stay always with them i even don't get time to meet my boyfriend also. so i use to go away without permission. i feel better when i go away than i enjoy a lot and i feel more comfortable being out rather than being with my parents.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Its a sad thing to say that you would rather go out than be with your parents. I felt like that when I was a kid that I wanted to run away, but now that I am older, I have realized that everything they did in the past was for my own good. They dont just do that just because they want to, but because they want us to learn and know from right or wrong. I know that experience is the best teacher, that we should go out and have fun and then if we make mistakes then we learn. If I become a parent, I will not be too strict nor lenient. Just make rules that will be amenable to every member of the family.
@sunilpaul (173)
• India
29 Jul 10
This may sound strange...I ran away when I was an adult...believe me...all the time being accused of being a burden when I was not earning...and being accused of being bringing home blood money when I finally started earning the "other" way....
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Well, it happens. NOt really strange. But then there are always other ways to earn money in a decent and legal way. It may be tough at first but I believe that with hardwork and dedication, something good will lead to that.
29 Jul 10
I have thought that run away my home and my parents once ,but I repent my choose when I really have left home and my parents. My parents is older than before ,I should take care my parents at home ,instead of going to a distant place.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
I agree that our parents are already old and we should take care of them like how they took care of us as their children.
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Jul 10
I did attempt to run away from my parents as a child. I tried several time. However, I have to admit that I never really succeeded.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
Oh my, how did you feel then? Its fine, because if you runaway, something bad may happen to you on the road or somewhere else. Good day.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
i never tried to run away from home even though they are strict to me specially while i was still studying. i understand why they need to do it. besides when i graduate they already let me go and live alone specially when i already got job. its just for my own sake i know. no need for me to leave my home coz i know they love me and i know they just want to protect me.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
I know that parents just want to protect and keep us safe from harm. Thats why they do the things they do. Sometimes as children, we may not understand but believe that there is always a good reason for everything.
@T_Diamond (965)
• New Zealand
29 Jul 10
I've felt like this a few times, but everything tends to get better before it gets worse.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
THats good that it always gets better for you, means that you are not meant to run away and should stay with your parents. :)
@rose005 (254)
• India
29 Jul 10
I have never done this but my sister did it. She did this because my parents wants her to get married with one of our neighbor boy but my sister is already in love with someone. My father is really stick he don't care what we want to do. My sister also really loves her boyfriend and she don't know the boy arranged by my father so she ran away with her boyfriend without informing to parents.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
That is one sad story. I believe that we should still be given a chance to choose how we want to spend the rest of our lives with and not dictated by anyone even our parents of family. We all have our own freewill that God gave us and so we should decide for our own when the time comes.
@george000 (166)
• India
29 Jul 10
I have also not done such thing when I am with my parent because I love my parent as they always care me .Where ever I go and they always concern weather I am taking food regularly and I can't leave my parent.Being a child we should not hurt our by doing unnecessary thing.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
I know that we should all love our parents, family and we should not add fuel to the fire. If there is a problem, lets go find help from friends or from themselves, your family. There is always that time and ways to get help from someone. I believe that theres always someone ready to help especially children.
@pwnson (150)
• India
29 Jul 10
Well when i was young i tried to run away from home, all the time i use to stay at home and my mother not allow me to go out side. when my mom go to friends house i use to call my friend and we use to roam here and there at last when i reach at home, my mother use to bit me and scold me a lots but i never use to keep in my mind because as being a mother, she have a responsibility to look after the child and to my family. So, just know i am grown up, i am reg rate a lot because there is a reason to scold and bit me, its all about me.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
that is true that a mother, parents for that matter is responsible for all their children and mostly concerned for your safety and wants their children to be away from harm. There is always a reason for everything and why parents do or sometimes are strict with us. they are just careful for us not to make grave mistakes that we will regret.
• India
29 Jul 10
I do have experience on it. When I was young , one day my mother scold me and my sister because we return late at home from school. She start to shout at us and we ran away from home when she went to toilet. We went to forest, Our parent were so desperate and was worried. Everyone searched us. They were searching everywhere, we return back and looked from far distance and saw everyone was putting question to each other. suddenly my mom saw us and called us, we promised her not to scold again.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
Thats scary that you had to run away and go to the forest. It must have been scary for you too and please do understand that your parents are only concerned and she was mad because she dont want you coming home late from school and of course to prevent bad things from happening. She just wants to know that you are always safe and away from harm.
• China
29 Jul 10
Yes,I have one time for that.In my memory,I feel very wronged that time,I think my mother isn't concerned me at all.So I come out alone,and fool around with our village,didn't go home.Until get dark,I also didn't go home,and then my famliy began to search me.At last,they succeeded in finding me at our basketball court in our village,and take me home. Then they let me have the dinner and washing.My mother asked me why I go out. I feel very wronged and said you didn't love me at all.But when I said out I feel comfortable.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
AS long as we were able to belt out or say the things that we want to say, I believe that we can relieve ourselves from the pain that we have inside. Sometimes, some children are not open to their parents and family, and I believe thats where the miscommunication begins and leads to misunderstanding.
@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
29 Jul 10
When I was a teenager I tried to run away. I told my mom I was taking the dog for a walk. It was in the middle of winter in Alaska. It was freezing outside. I took my rottweiler outside for her walk and we got to the end of the road and then I stopped. I started to think I don't have any money for food and I don't have a place to stay I guess I'll go home, and I did. I ran away cause my mother growing up never listened to me, I always had to talk to my friends and they didn't always give the best results for answers. Teens run away in frustration and they need their parents to talk to them, not the parents saying" I'm busy". I hated that.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
Oh thats sad but I know we always learn from our experiences, and its still the best thing that you went home because theres always that time that will come that you and your parents would need to face all the problems that you may have or any misunderstanding that you may have. Its really sad that there are parents who always say that they are busy when in fact we are the children that needs the caring the most.
@paulybg (126)
• China
29 Jul 10
My younger brother has also done such things several times. He left home just because he was afraid he would be beaten by my uncles. Most of the times he left just because he had done something wrong and avoid being punished. I think my unlce should partially liable for the run away, he should change the way to teach my younger brother.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
Oh my gosh why is he being beaten? THat's one thing that should never be done to children, it may bring trauma and instill fear as well. I understand why your brother would do such a thing. There are always ways to find help and corporal punishment is punishable as well by law. There should be no one who deserves such.
• Jamaica
29 Jul 10
I did it many times because my life at home was a living hell. I think for all children that run away there is a deeper root to the problem. A lot of people see runaway children as problem kids but as far as I can see it half the time that is so far from the truth.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
Its sad that you had to do that and that you feel that life at your home is a living hell. I understand and know that there is always a reason for everything. I think both sides have faults too, or maybe just a misunderstanding.
@romania2 (237)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
I grew up in a nice home, with loving (but kind of strict) parents. I never really ran away and went missing. But I do like and make up some excuse, and I'd be gone for days at a time. "I'm going to stay at a friend's place." In reality, I fly to other countries or cities for fun. I've done this several times, not because I don't like my parents or because they wouldn't allow me or anything... I guess I just like adventure and having a secret life.