If you don't receive a gift
By meeksilent
@meeksilent (514)
Philippines
July 29, 2010 3:47am CST
Have you encountered being in a relationship with a boyfriend who never give gifts? Does this mean that he doesn't love you for real? I have this boyfriend and was concerned coz he never gave me any gift on our monthsaries or other special occasions. I understand that he doesn't have that enough budget to buy me stuffs but I was just hurt because for me anything he will give are valuable even if he will give me something that's not expensive.
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10 responses
@chiplex916 (140)
• India
29 Jul 10
When we are in relationship, people become so much of possessive and concerned.In fact we have to be because we love that person and we do not want to loose our love.But when it comes on gift, its not necessary that the person whom we love ,we have to give to give gift.Some guys don't know how to show love,but they love from their inner heart.Same way, some boy friends, they wish their g. friends from their inner heart. And their love remains the same.
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@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
hello chiplex!
i agree with you, it's not a ground or basis ot a lack of love, when your other half doesn't give you gift on special occasions. There are people who may have no budget for it or is simply not built like most of us, who gives gift during occasions.
These people are not simply romantic and we should not take it against them if they find the idea of giving gifts to their loved ones, against their nature.
On the other hand, there are males who just need to be reminded and urge to give you gifts. They are those who can afford to give you one but find the idea of finding a suitable gift to you as tasking and very feminine or they just don't think about it, unless you remind them or request them to gift you a gift and they willingly obliged.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I was going to reply to the started discussion but then after reading your reply I wold have duplicated your response.
Yes a gift is not a sure sign of Love but a sign of appreciation. 
@maui_gomez_lim (1017)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
I don't thing giving gifts is the basis whether he loves you or not. Though, I must say that my husband, when we're not yet married, especially during our first few months together, he normally gives something like chocolates, concert tickets. Even without those material things, I would still say that he truly cares and loves me. You can see if he really loves you or not by checking whether he values your opinion, he cares, he's happy for your achievements, he cries when you cry.:) I just don't use material things as the basis.
@meeksilent (514)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
That's nice of you. I really longed to get married soon. LOL but its true
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
30 Jul 10
Hi, meeksilent. My husband is kind of like this too. Before we got married, he would buy me things and give me money for no reason at all. Now, he does not do this at all. He may buy me a gift every now and then. I don't get gifts on my Birthday either. But he shows me that he loves me from the heart. And this is a better gift than a material gift alone.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Some people are not material gift givers. That does not mean that person does not care for you. Some people show their gifts from the heart instead.
@sweetneelu (259)
• Mauritius
29 Jul 10
gift is not important but on certain occasions like birthday or date it is important.when you see something, just tel him that's beautiful and you love it. start with something not expensive like rings or necklace or petty things that you like, I hope it works.
@Beautyfactor (1512)
•
29 Jul 10
Yes I have..well I guess I still am in a relationship like this. My Husband and never exchange gifts on special occasions. It was our 10 years wedding anniversary recently and we didn't buy each other anything. We are the kind of people who appreciate gifts but prefer to just spend time together.
To answers your question I would have to say that in my case the lack of gifts does not mean that we do not love each other. I don't honestly think 'monthersaries' should be gift giving occasions anyway, particularly if your boyfriends budget does not allow for it.
@rose005 (254)
• India
29 Jul 10
Don't worry, I also didn't receive any gift from my boyfriend. I think gift is not important for me if he loves and cares me. I don't expect anything from him other than care. If he cares for me than I don't care whether he give me gift or not I consider that he loves me.
@george000 (166)
• India
29 Jul 10
If boy friend does not give gift to me ,I will not feel any thing and it does not happened to me but now all of them were interested upon those thing .I don't think that he is not loving and caring me .It might be because of shyness that both them were having.
@pirate451 (152)
• India
29 Jul 10
Yes,I have never received gift from my boyfriend,I don't think giving gift by your boyfriend will only love you but those who don't do expenditure to his girl that doesn't mean he not love.From my boyfriend I didn't get single things even than he love me very much and now we two were marriage.Still we don't exchange the gift because I don't feel good myself by exchanging a things that is my vision but for other I don't what will they do.What will to get love from boyfriend will you give a gift?
