Would you want to Understand People or to Be Undrestood by People?

I want both. Understanding is what makes this world go round. But there are times, that we need to argue first before we understand.

i neither want to make other people's life miserable, nor i want them to have a hard time understanding me. it is true that to understand this whole thing is a talent of a mature individual, and i think i am mature enough to choose the thing which could make other people happy. i want to understand people.

i try to understand people, but sometime when they say or do certain things i dont even worry about trying to understand why they say or do the things they do. because it would drive me crazy. most people understand where i come from, but there are a few dont understand how i can be the way i can be at time cold. like i can cut all ties with people easy. if someone is just driving me cazy or treating me bad i will cut ties and say oh well screw it and screw them

I try to understand people to make situations better and to have more understanding on how to have peaceful environment.

Wanting to be understood more than to understand others is quite a villian's treat, but if that's you're question I should answer properly. That being understood is better. Maybe you can be understood for your deeds.

Both. One cannot exist harmoniously with other people if you do not know how to understand others and at the same time exert your effort to be understood as well. Life is just like that. Your relationship with other people is always a two-way process. Your relationship, be it personal or otherwise, can never be successful if only one side gives in to understand the other.

Can't we just simply co-exist? I mean it would be nice to be understood and to understand all but it's not very practical. I have friends of many culture. I ask a lot of questions, I want to learn about their thoughts, beliefs, religion but I don't always understand 100%. To each their own. There is no point in arguing and try to make yourself, your own set of belief, understood and the only way to go.

When I think about this seriously I come to realise that I'm not that bothered anymore! For quite a few years I lived my life trying to understand others and when I found this quite challenging I became all hot and bothered and I would cause myself undue stress! What's the point of that? I neither try to understand people nor do I seek to be understood by others! I have my peace of mind by living in this way. I wish to live a life that is free of stress and I don't want to worry about what others think and I certainly don't want to change my life in anyway to suit their needs. Andrew

well i guess that should work both... to make relationship last, it must have the process of give-and-take relationship. no one will ever understand a person who always wanted to be understood by others. a person like that is a self-centered person. on the other hand, too much understanding others is also dangerous. you might be abused by them so we must know how to place ourself in a situation. stay balance...

I always like to study people but I don't want people to know as much about myself. When I meet people, I look and watch their choice of words, their mimics, their gestures and their poses. Knowing other people better makes me easier dealing with them and I can carry myself easily around them. Sometimes, I think I like a chameleon, though.

I want to understand people, so that I can deal with them in the right way,and so that my actions will be careful that they may not hurt or get angry to me. Also I can know what are the meanings of there actions so that I can react easily. And if I can understand people doing business with people would be easy and in term of relationship you can easily understand your partner.

yes there are some self centered individuals,they don't care other people.to become a good citizen, we have to be sensitive of others needs and emotions,not in a personal level, but we have to care surroundings and the people around us.

I like to understand the people rather than to be understood by the people.To understand by ourself won't take time but its very difficult to make that person understood.If my friend is loved with a guy and she wants to go out lieing to her mom and dad.I can understand her problem and sent her out.If somebody can understand me i am ready to understand them without any fail.

Generally, I would like to be understood by people. we should think positivily to everyone around us.We should always proof good for society and give hope that they may understand us. So without understood by other , we may not able understand other.

I am a people watcher. i am constantly amazed by the the things people do without realizing. I would definitely like to be the kind of person who understands someone else. You can learn so much about other people through their words and actions. I like to keep a little mystery to myself. I would rather understand someone else than to have them completely understand me.

Most people enjoy the attention of being listened to.They like to tell funny stories,jokes or something else to hold the interest of their listeners,and maybe they will get more opportunities to be successful.I am a little shy,so most of time i make myself a listener,i try my best to be interested enough to listen and honor the speaker.I think caring to hear what the person says affords the talker an opportunity to get his story told and his needs met. Of course, i want to be understood by people, but i am not very ease at strangers,so i share my opinions?thoughts and feelings with my friends.I think i should try my best to be more ease at myself,just speak out what i'm thinking about to others.I think i can do better and make a difference!

I guess I would like both you know to be understood by people and also to understand people. I think that if I had both then I would have lots of friends right now.

Hi incus! If one's wish is only to be understood by people then I think one is going to have a hard time realizing it. Understanding people on the other hand would only make you understood by people. And that would put things into a more realistic perspective.

There is a saying that goes if you want to be understood you should learn how to understand. It is indeed a difficult task to have your self understood by a person who himself can't understand.

I would rather want to Understand people.It pays for you to be able to understand people because you will be able to relate with them easily.