How do you Deal with childrens tantrums ?
By Muteki
@Muteki (114)
Japan
July 29, 2010 5:14pm CST
My daughter is close to 2 years old and will look around the room asking and searching for objects which she is not allowed to touch. I usually remove her and take the object away which is usually followed by a 3-5min protest. I ignore her and walk away. Do you think she will learn this way?
My wife will try her hardest to engage her in another activity.
4 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
18 Aug 10
When my children were small and in the age of throwing temper tantrums I would usually stop whatever the offending behavior was and then I would ignore them. The reason that children tend to throw temper tantrums is because they want attention, and at that age it doesn't matter to them if it is negative attention. My not paying attention to them they aren't being rewarded in the way that they want and that means that the period during which they go through temper tantrums won't be nearly as long.
@pastigger (612)
• United States
29 Jul 10
My daughter is usually pretty easy going but she has her days like today. Tantrum every 5 minutes it seems. If it gets to be a lot I usually put her in her room for a few minutes as she just needs a minute. But yes I also walk away, which is not always easy as sometimes she grabs my legs. She will learn and get better as she gets older but right now they are just too emotional. No is not a horrible word and something she needs to know. It won't be easy buy stay strong and dont cave in. When my daughter is in a full blown tantrum there is not point to try and redirect her as she is not listing and can not reason at that moment. If you want to explain later after she is calmed down that would be the time to do it.
@shiquitatw (442)
• Jamaica
29 Jul 10
I think that you are doing the best thing by ignoring her. Some parents will give to much attention to the child during this time and that will only stress you out.Ignoring the tantrums and helping your daughter to learn how to deal with anger and frustration are often good ways to deal with tantrums.By paying attention to her undesirable behavior, you are actually encouraging your child to continue her performance. Giving in to temper tantrums and other demands will only causes her to increase in the future. Pay attention to what starts the tantrums. Knowing what triggers the tantrums can help you act before her emotions get past the point where she can control them. It will get better with time.I have three children and I went through it with all of them. Good Luck.
