can you stand a boyfriend's refusal
By Wonderful523
@Wonderful523 (174)
China
July 29, 2010 8:23pm CST
hello, recently i have a big problem with my boyfriend! you know now i'm working in the capital city of China, and he is in the other places of China,and he is not working these days, but he has something else to do, surely these things are not so important. Therefore i hope he can come to see me, but i was deneied, and don't have the time to come to me. I feel extremely sad and annoyed. I don't want to send message to him any more, nor any calls. I THINK it is the end of our relationship. Do you think it is a right choice?Do you think I'm not a good-tempered girl? What will you do if you were me?
5 responses
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Depends greatly on the reason. If he has a really good reason, then perhaps you are judging harshly.
On the other hand, if he has no reason, then maybe he is trying to tell you that he is not interested in the relationship anymore.
It's the same if you refuse a boyfriend. If you have a real reason you can't see your boyfriend, you try and make it clear, this is what I am doing and this is why I can't leave. I want to, but I simply can not.
On the other hand, if you really are not interested in seeing him, you say "I'm busy sorry." You don't go into great length to explain why, because you don't have a good explanation other than "I don't want to see you". So you say, "I'm busy".
If that is what he is doing to you, then I would move on.
@Wonderful523 (174)
• China
3 Aug 10
hehe, yes, may be there's some misunderstandings. but it really not that...thank you andy77e.
@Wonderful523 (174)
• China
2 Aug 10
the things is not serious like that. he just said he has time, but he don't want to see my families. i don't know why, maybe it's because he thinks that now he is not sucessful enough,he is afraid of being refused by my parents or something...
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
1 Aug 10
i dont think you are not a good girl. i think you are right bcs if he is not working why cant he go to visit you? if he loves you he could spend with you some days while he doesnt go work again. he must call you first now. dont call him just wait he contact you. if he cares he will do that. also i understand what you feel. a guy said he loves me and was showing it in a very sweet way but now he acts so different is like he doesnt care for my messages. also if im not online he doesnt even send me any message :( this is not a true love. in a true love both care always. so wait he contact you. you already called and texted him and told him to go near you showing you love him now is his turn ^^ and if he doesnt care for a long time you better talk with him and solve things.
@Wonderful523 (174)
• China
2 Aug 10
thank you sweetloveforeve, you are really my honey, what you said is just i am thinking. i have already done my part. the other part is to be done by himself...have a nice day...
@Wonderful523 (174)
• China
30 Jul 10
thank you med889. i will have a better concideration before i jump to any conclution.
@saifulbabe (74)
• Indonesia
30 Jul 10
hey i'm a boy. i don't agree with relationship. Because it will start in period. If there is a start it means there is end time. So i don't involved my self into relationship. I have a close friend she is a girl. I don't want relationship with her, I wanna make our friendship keep exist all time. I call her, I message her what ever I want it. So it more than a relationship like another couple do. Enjoy your life. Keep spirit!!! Haha...
@Wonderful523 (174)
• China
30 Jul 10
Hi, saifulbabe. thank you for your reply. you know what, i'm also think that there is true friendshp between boy and girl in the past. but now, i can't agree with myself. he and me are close friend at first, but later, we ...you know, at that time, we often call each other and sent message to each other and we never have words with each other. but now, we always quarrel with each other just because of some unimportant things. Honestly,i'm really regreted to involve myself to this relationship. if it is possiple, i hope we can come to the past.
At the same time, i also want to know, if your good friend(the girl)have a boyfriend already? if she does, will her boyfriend feel unhappy?
@Wonderful523 (174)
• China
2 Aug 10
this is the problem of me. i really should think for him and have a talk with him. but sometimes you just can't know what was going on...i'm afraid that i was cheated and i also afraid of lossing the one which really loves me. i don't know...what should i do? it is really quite a sticky question,isn't?
