Are you afraid of getting married?

My husband and I knew we wanted to get married, we waited two years before we did get married though. We did so for family though as we knew they wanted us to wait. If you feel like you are right for each other, and he feels the same way he'll wait until you're ready. In the mean time enjoy what you have now and save save save. My husband and I are still living with his parents, and we appreciate it, but we want to get out.

Good question. I was afraid that some day i'll make the wrong choice for my future and specially that i'll marry someone ... in future won't be happy with him. But that fear changed when i met my boyfriend, who i live with, now. I'm so happy and feel so safe with him, that i'm sure i want to spend all my life with him. I know that he is calm and adult person, we talk about our problems and fix it together. We are not couple from long time now, but we live together since we started this relationship. I lived in other city and it could be hard for us, if i didn't move. But if u have some plans for your future, before marriage, don't be fast. Think about it and talk with your boyfriend. I'm sure he will understand u.

I am only 18 . Haven't yet decided. But I can only say that i will marry the girl whom i love. Because marriage is successful only when there is love between both the partners.

You should listen to your heart. If you really love the person beside you, there's nothing scary wedding. After the wedding thinking for both of you change, you start to think about each other, not only for themselves.

If you're ready to manage thefamily expense and matured enough to run good family. Then its fine. But i can say after marriage you cannot achieve your goals, cannot study well. so if you are interested only in marriage, then do it. Otherwise still you've time. Dont waste your younger days. Achieve something then plan for marriage. All the best.

Stop worrying about marriage if things go wrong between you, you can always divorce just be careful if you end up having children though. Marriage is a choice and you can get married whenever you want, don't give in to anyone pressurising you to get married like family. You do what you want. You can still do the things you want after you've married but kids are an even bigger responsibility so before having any just make sure you've done everything you can that can't be done when you have kids and good luck in your future.

actually it is really a hard decision to make.Because marriage is a lifetime commitment. You cant just drop it anytime you want or because your not okey with the situation. i can try to talk to your boyfriend tell him straight that you dont want to get married and your not ready yet coz it my just give you troubles during marriage when you do it not according to your will...and beside not marrying him too soon doesnt mean you dont love him anymore..just explain to him the reason why..and i think your still you young try to enjoy life first so when you get married you are already prepared...you should prepare yourself physically, financially, mentally and most especially spiritually..so it will make your marriage life a happy one...try to talk to him..by the how old is he now and he is so in a hurry?

Try to talk with him about that matter and have some plan for the future for the best of your family when you're married. He will understand it well as I know. How old is he? if he is really secured and sure for the future then probably he ask you to marry him as soon as possible.

Yeah,I agree with your opinion that it is too early for you to get married.You both should have more social experience in society and build sufficient and strong financial foundation right now.You should tell what you thought frankly and honestly to your boyfriend.You should try your best to explain the sensible reasons why you shouldn't get married now.If he is mature enough,I think he will understand your thought and agree with your argument. Wish you good luck!

A good rule of life is, never do something you don't want for the sake of someone else. Do it only because you want to. A girl I used to know, told me a story about how she bought a car that her parents had pushed her to buy, instead of the car she wanted. Instead of it being a good thing to her, she was constantly reminded of how she really wanted car X, and not the one she got. Instead of it being a blessing, it was a curse that caused her to resent her parents. Equally, if you marry this guy because he is pushing and pushing to do so, you may end up regretting it, and resenting him, and that would be a bad marriage. However, you should know that life is a long series of trade offs. It doesn't matter what you choose to spend your time on, no matter what it is, there is something else you can't spend your time on. That's simply how life is. You can't do everything. So if you choose to not marry now, does that mean he'll move on and find another girl? Yes it might. That's the trade off. Just like you don't want to drop everything in the world to become his wife, nor can you expect him to put his entire life on hold, waiting around for the next 5 to 10 years for you to do everything you want. Now that doesn't mean he won't wait. Maybe he will. We don't know either way. That's the trade off you have to figure out for yourself. But no matter what your choice, determine which choice you'll make, and then make it. Either go with him into marriage and never look back, or go pursue the things you wish, and if he leaves, so be it.

Married has lots of responsibilities. It should be consider as one of the most crucial choices and part of our life. It is a beginning of all new beginnings. From building a home and caring our own child and teach them to become good person. If you think you are not yet ready for all those responsibilities you should not consider marrying by this time. Give yourself some more time to find what you really wanted or make some of your dreams come true now that you still had the time to pursue your dreams. Marriage can wait,but opportunity doesn't come along everyday. Have a wonderful weekend ahead

Yeah, as far as Ia concerned, I think I am not afraid of getting married in my life now.I am a person who usually wants to have a marriage with the person that I loved so much in my life. If she is willing to marry me, I think I will try my best to have a marriage with her and try my best to give the best love that I have in my heart. have a nice day!

I read in one of your responses that you're not sure he is the man for you. In that case, you should definitely not get married in the near future. You say you love him very much, but I think you have some doubts. You are both very young. You know, our tastes, wants, and needs change as we mature. You may look back in a few years and wonder what you saw in him. Although marriage at a young age can work, most of the time it does not. People change. Young people change the most as they learn and grow mentally. You need to wait. If it's meant to be, it will come about. If not, you will go on to find what you want and need from life and love.

marriage is a lifetime commitment, getting into this kind of thing requires physical, emotional and spiritual preparedness besides you're still young try to accomplish first something for yourself don't get pressured, if he loves you he can wait until you are ready to say i do

If you think you're not ready then don't do it. Marriage is no joke. If you are unprepared it will only bring you trouble. I suggest you enjoy your freedom as much as you want because if not you will just regret it later. Think a thousand times or even more, think of all the things that you're going to give up in exchange for it. If at the end of the day you still think that you prefer a married life over being single then that's the time to tie the knot. But don't be in a hurry.

Hi Wonderful523, Tell your boyfrined what you thought and worried,I think if he believe you,love you,he will wait you until you are prepared to his bride. Both of you are so younger,you can first doing work harder and then get married.

I'm the other way around, I always give hint to my BF that I really wanted to get married with him sooner. LOL but I know we can't do that bcs we still have our own respective families to support. But if I were to choose I would love to be married at my age of 23. But in ur case you should confront ur BF so that both of you can plan well.

Perhaps you should ask yourself either you are ready to be someone's wife and fulfill the task good enough soon. Marriage is not a child's play. It's the matter of full commitment, building a family and loyalty. Have yourself a long and decisive thought about it and don't rush in. It's the best way to valuate yourself with check list which examine yourself either you are good in house works first before heading to another list of evaluation. That way you can relax a bit and having fun in the process of deciding are you already in the right time to get married.

I graduated two years ago and now im working for two years too. I'm 23 and i have a girlfriend whom i love more than the world has known. I have job but still i ddnt get what i wanted to. It's not important to me whether i get or not what i want in life, i have my GF now, my everthing so i would not ask for more. Hopefully this october, we're getting married.

You need to see if its the right time for you, and if its not you need to tell him how you feel. Marriage is something that can't be rushed and you need to feel that it is time for it. Its just like kids, you need to be ready for everything in a relationship. You also need to think if he is a perfect match, talk to him about the future. Tell him that your going to wait until your ready, and he will stay by your side.