Problem with Nosy In Law
By Soraya428
@Soraya428 (26)
Philippines
July 30, 2010 7:35am CST
Hi, we just moved in with my mother in law who happens to be the nosy type. I find her questions too personal and it irritates me a lot.
I try my best to let her questions pass out of respect for her but it's really becoming unbearable. I have told my husband about my delima and he said that he will talk to his mom and meanwhile I just have to let her question pass and not mind them at all. But as I have said it is becoming unbearable. She also has a tendency to tell me "stories" about her neighbors and relatives which I believe is non of my business.
Can anyone please help me on how to deal with her. I want to tell her to leave me alone but I don't know how to say it without hurting her or my husband.
Thank you in advance
2 responses
@marriedman111399 (1207)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I have the same problem in a way. My mother in law lives with me and my wife and kids. She is always telling my kids what to do when I am right in the room. I try and tell her that I am right here and I can take care of my own kids but of course she does not like that and then goes and tells my wife and of course my wife is always on her side and I am always the looser. She Also talks down to my kids which of course I do not like, but then again my wife does so it does not matter to her. Hope things get better at your house.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
30 Jul 10
Welcome to myLot! 
Living in someone elses home can be quite difficult as although we do not like their set rules we just have to remember it is their home and well we do not have much say.
I am sorry that this is quite difficult for you but you have to tolerate it as much as you can and try really hard to disregard her noseyness, until you can save enough where you can move on your own. Reacting and making a quick decision to leave can be quite challenging.
Tell yourself over and over this is temporary compared to a hasty quick decision, one that you will end regretting and having quite a difficult time with. Therefore, as soon as she starts up with her two cents excuse yourself and remember your objective.
Hope this helps. 
Living in someone elses home can be quite difficult as although we do not like their set rules we just have to remember it is their home and well we do not have much say.
I am sorry that this is quite difficult for you but you have to tolerate it as much as you can and try really hard to disregard her noseyness, until you can save enough where you can move on your own. Reacting and making a quick decision to leave can be quite challenging.
Tell yourself over and over this is temporary compared to a hasty quick decision, one that you will end regretting and having quite a difficult time with. Therefore, as soon as she starts up with her two cents excuse yourself and remember your objective.
Hope this helps. 