Will you marry the one you love or the one who loves you?
By SimpleBB
@SimpleBB (1329)
Philippines
July 30, 2010 7:51am CST
Being romantic, of course you would love to marry the person you love.
But there are cases that if someone follow her heart, some says that is a big mistakes especially when they turned to end their relationship for some reason or what. I met this girl and become friend who soon to be get married for the second time. She said that her first marrieage didn't work for she is the one who loves the guy more. Now she's saying that she turned it the other way. She chosed someone who loves her more than she loves the guy. Considering such situations, often than not, some people come up to a resolution of being practical?, to marry someone who love them more.
What about your thoughts on this? Will you marry the one you love or the one who loves you?
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43 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Jul 10
Its too late for me to get into this but I feel life has been kind enough to give me the chance to get married to someone who loves me more that I love her.
I always thought that it is better to get married to someone who loves you instead of getting married to someone whom I love. Maybe this thinking worked for me.
But now, after so many years, i think that it is always better to get married to someone who loves you instead of getting married to someone whom you love. The reason for this is that if you love someone, you may not be lucky enough to have that someone love you too. But if you are getting married to someone who loves you, chances are that you would start loving that someone soon.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Nice comments Thesids. It is only when you got married and live together in one roof you will know your betterhalf, and from there, you will fall in love more in discovering her lovable traits. Lucky you to find a betterhalf of your life. Thanks for sharing and commenting on this post.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
between the choices, i'd certainly go for the latter... as most oldies would surely agree with me...
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
It is not easy to choose between love,the one you love or someone who loves you.
When things went wrong ,people says' the next time i fall in love i would choose someone who loves me more than i do.
But still they ended up loving someone who doesn't love them more than they do.
It is very hard to fight with our hearts.
We cannot deny what we feel.
So,it's not easy to choose who to love and who to choose.
It is always sweet to love someone who love us in return.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Hi Jaiho,
Very well said, if it heart that attacks us, that comes the saying "Love is blind". And really falling in love is a wonderful feeling. We just have to be ready for whatever it will bring to us. Thanks for finding time to comment. I appreciated it very well.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Don't mention it SimpleBB,
i always try to respond to topics that i can related with.
And love is one of the most interesting topic that i love to give responses.
Have a good day always and happy mylotting 
i always try to respond to topics that i can related with.
And love is one of the most interesting topic that i love to give responses.
Have a good day always and happy mylotting 
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 10
HI,
It is very difficult to make this decision....quite confusing.
For me, I like to have someone who love me more than I do.I like to
be pampered.I believe most girls like to be pampered.
To marry someone,it is very important to choose the RIGHT Person.or else,it
may jeopardize your whole life.
I am glad that I have a lovely husband,who cares lot of me and I love
him very much.
We love each other and our love is not able to measure.
We just share our happiness and sadness together and protect eash other.
The most important for a marriage to stay stable is TRUST.
Without a trust,the marriage may not be successful.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
yes Shia, your're right. When it comes to hear issues, it really creates confusion to us. But true enough, Trust together wih communication are vital to a relationship to work. And congratulations for being one among those lucky people who found true love that brings happiness into your lives. Wishing it to last forever. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
@sincerelyne (156)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
as a woman, i believe that a woman could easily fall in love with a man,if a man is worth enough to love for...so i better go with a man who loves me more, than i love him more,
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
hi sencerelyne, you're right, women are fragile and very transparent when it comes to their emotion, easily to fall in love than men, so it would be harder for woman to please a man. Wish you could find your loveone who would not cause you pain. Thanks for your views.
@sincerelyne (156)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
to add,if a man love you more, he is willing to do everything, what his woman can make happy and satisfied, but if a man don't love a woman more,it's harder,man is stronger and it's hard to teach them or to force them to love you back. a woman will suffer more.
@aevans (255)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 10
I will marry the one who I love. I think marriage should be just for couple who love each other, it is another further stage for two persons and it is not a "must" for everyone. If you don't like a person then what for you plan to spend your whole life with that person. I love her that's why I marry with her, and because the reason of love I will do whatever it takes for her. Of course, I will not forcing someone who doesn't in love with me for a marriage, such marriage won't last long.
@atv818 (1980)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Aug 10
It has been said "Don't marry the one you can live with. Marry someone you cannot live without."
Love is a two-way street. It should be mutual and there must be cooperation. If pushed against the wall and you ask me to decide whether marry the one you love or the one who loves you? I would choose the one who loves me more so that I know that regardless of anything that will happen, he will stay with me for life.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
14 Aug 10
Sincerily when I find both wich I believe I had, but it wasn't easy and I thought about giving up years ago. But someone that we care about that would do everything for us exist, I believed it did but so many times I was full of doubt, it does. Someone is always out there for us when we can wait.
@weisz_84 (26)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
It ia like you're diagnosed with diabetese but your favorite is chocolate lol,try to follow what you want not your needs,what I mean is you don't need a lover but waht you want is a good husband with the best intentions for your future family.It's not on what you choose but on how you choose,lol,choose the best,don't let me choose you.
@chefjo (13)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Why do so many people speak of love as if it is the most common thing is the world. Love is more than just a feeling. It entails commitment, a decision. When you decide to marry both person must have decided to love each other. Together they work for it, to norture that love. When you say I love you that means you commit your self to the other person and promise to let that love grow. It is a two way action for both of you. It doesn't matter who loves more who as long as you commit yourselves to that love you planted together for if not even with the slightest of understanding you would say goodbye. If you ever fail it means you never did love each other at all. You just have a liking to for each other and not love.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
No one will deny that love is really a common topic for love makes the world go round. And yes, saying I love you for someone means commitment, but some feel they are really in love but not ready for commitment, and no one can hinder one's emotion. It's nice to know your thoughts on this issue. Myloters will learn a lot from different views on this post. Thanks chefjo. It's well appreciated.
@dudsdoojaxi1 (166)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
I go for someone I love but If he doesn't love me I will not push myself to him. I've been through this situation. I choose the one I love and marry him. In his part he choose the one who love him and marry me. We're happy now with kids.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Hi dudsdoojaxil,
Wheww, that was really a nice combination, matched up by two different beliefs. It's really the opposite that attracts and works well. Congratulations and wish you to have long and lasting relationship. Anyway, thanks for sharing on this post. Happy mylotting.
@jefontejonB (19)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
If I will be the one to decide, I will marry the person that i really love. It's not good to marry the person that loves but you don't love because if it will happened, you can't experience the happiness for all of your life. It's better to marry the person that you love and that also love you.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
hello jefontejonB,
You're right, no one wants to have a failure lovelife, we all want to live happy with out loveones. The one we love and who love us as well. But not all were rewarded such perfect love experience. People of course wants happiness, it's just that we have different ways of finding it. Thanks for your shared views on this post. Happy mylotting.
@junior07 (972)
• India
31 Jul 10
My Dear Friend,
Always marry to one who loves you, because if he/she really loves you then he/she never let you down at any moment of your life. And if both loves each other then there is no meaning of discussion that's the best thing. They have to marry as soon as possible.
But when you say "I love you" to anyone then you should mean it.
@Handayani (27)
•
31 Jul 10
Really it's a difficult choice, if I can choose another option I will choose the one I love and he loves me too. But in this case maybe I will marry with the one who loves me. Why.... coz love will growth if two persons often do something together. Begin from friendship, learning together, watching movie together, he remember my birthday and celebrate together then he invites me to dinner together. Then he says that he loves me too much, maybe I will be surprised, I can't answer at the time he say "love". But women like attention, even just little attention if he often gives attentions to me, I believe I will receive his love. And of course I will say "Yes, I will" if he ask to me "Will you marry with me?"
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Thanks Handayani,
You're right with your point, bonding together would make love to grow and strong and soon will end up to marriage. Both of you invested emotion to your relationship that make it strong. Wishing you to find your right love. Thanks for your comments.
@alpesh1410 (52)
• India
31 Jul 10
Dear Friend,
Love is not a thing which we can give and take. Love is a feeling. If someone loves you then only you will marry with him or her that is not called love it is called selfishness.
