I'm hurt!

It's best to confront him and re-evaluate your relationship with him. If I were in your situation I think it would also be hard for me to let go. To clear things up, whether you're in doubt or not you should talk to him regarding with that matter for the last time. If he still does the same thing, then it's up to you to decide. Sometimes we have to find out if we are still valuable to the one we love.

I would trust your instincts if you can honestly say that you were not an especially insecure person in past relationships. Definitely talk to the guy - seems to me that something is going on. Could be substance abuse, a financial problem he doesn’t want to reveal, an old girlfriend who is stalking him, or maybe outright infidelity. There’s no way for me to tell.There could be lots of reasons for him to hide things from you, and not all are necessarily bad. Maybe he just doesn’t feel comfortable about something and can’t bring himself to talk to you about it.

Hiding things from a significant other is not a good sign. I think that it is time to re-evaulate whether or not you want to stay in a relationship.

Hi med! It's probably just him who doesn't know how to express quite rightly to you which to me doesn't construe anything as a cheat. Perhaps you need to give him the time as much as he needs to. If you trust him, support him I'm sure he would.

I know what you are going through. Being a guy i spend my nights crying for the same reason. I have been away from my wife and one fine day she call me and tells me that has an affair with her childhood friend and is asking my support to marry her. I did call the guy to know his opinion but he says that they are just frineds and does not want to marry her and he has stopped talking to her after that. i told my wife this and she blames me for breaking their relation. She does not want to come back to me as she is feeling guilty. I have told her that we all make mistakes as we are human beings. I have promised her that i will never remind her of the past and will never speak to her about it. She said ok. But now she has stooped calling and chatting with me. She does not speak properly when i call her. I just have kept my trust in GOD and i know things will be fine. But i still have the pain inside. I have asked for suggestions and all say that i should forget her and carry on with life. But our was a love marriage and i left my town and family for her. I have not given up hopes. I advise you too dont give up hope and think positive and things will go fine.

No matter where you place it, hiding things from your partner can damage the relationship. No matter how you love or trust each other and no matter how secure you are with each other, eventually it will be replaced with doubts. If your partner tend to keep things from you, regardless of his/her reasons, the issue of trust and doubts are already there. Because if he/she fully trusts you with no doubts at all with your reaction or whatsoever, the he/she will not think twice in telling you stuff.

hi Med, 5 years for me is long enough for two people to know each other especially your significant other. Probably you were that comfortable to share whatever you have even your weaknesses, and that you expect it from him also. Did you analyze his way of saying his respond to you? Did he say in a sarcastic way or just he is that comfortable in saying that for he knows that you know him that well? It's only you who can decipher his character or even his moves. There are people who even with their spouse or family members couldn't share their inner thoughts. That "something" he is hiding probably could worry you or what. Clarify it first with him not in a tone of confrontation, but rather say it in a way he will feel that you are not only a girlfriend but can be a confidant. Don't waste your tears and don't let pain get worst for something unknown yet.

It sounds to me like you want him to act like a husband, when he's only a boyfriend. He's not going to share his life with you like you both are married, because... you are not. Also, it depends on the type of things he is hiding as well. It's possible he simply doesn't value your opinion, which is a good sign to move on.

For me don't stick in that kind of person because when you get married the worse thing is happened so be not blind in him he is not the good guy I know.

Hello there. Maybe as he says he knows your answer is not exactly that he is hiding, I think that he might be collecting information, you know seeing people's opinion before to make his own.

The best thing always is to talk him personally and privately. Heart to heart conversations is always the best!

Truth is very important to our relationship.if we have trust to each other there won,t be any problems in relationship,if we lack trust to our lover relation may break up in short period of time because of hiding things too.............never try to hurt feelings.think positive.....to life

I'm sorry about your pain med889. It's really obvious that boyfriend was not honest with you. And to say to you that it's because he knows your answer would be, then he doesn't know you at all. In a relationship, whatever you are if you are both willing accept each other's good or bad sides then you'll be okay. I think you really have to tell him how you feel and you need to talk, whether you are going to continue having relationship with him or not. Less communication will only lead to more secrets. Or perhaps, it's not really love for him, it may even be just one sided. Cause, you are supposed to be his girlfriend, to be trusted with. you are not his enemy. Hope he can give you more respect than what he had already done. Good luck to you.

good eve... trust is the most important of a relationship. many break-ups are happening in a relationship it's because of hiding things. it happened to me once, and it really hurts.. but if you love that person so much you should face that challenge. be strong...

He might have done that hiding, because it might hurt u if u have heard that news.. Because most of the men in my neighborhood do hide things from their girlfriends, not because of that they want to hide, because they don't want their girlfriend to be sad after hearing this hidden thing.. They do share every happiness and good things, some tell everything to their partners, some hide some things, this should not lead to mis understandings and break ups.. Just talk to him and solve the problem..

I empathize with you.Being in love with someone also includes giving 100% trust to the person and that includes telling everything under the sun hoping that the person would accept what we are. they say that love is blind and lovers can't see.However there are also people although madly in love reserves something to themselves thinking that it might affect the relationship or feeling of the other if things are divolge. In your case just think that those secrets hidden is for the betterment of both of you.

That is a very complicated and sometimes sad situation you find yourself in. I think that couples need to understand that men and women communicate differently. Many times for example, when a man is speaking to someone about problems, he simply wants to vent. To disclose makes him feel good. Men most of the time just want someone to listen and not to give advice or judge what they say. Women on the other hand are nurturers. Women want to solve the problems of those they love. They disclose to their friends and expect emotional connections with their disclosures as well as advice. It is something that is not very easy to deal with since our communication skills are developed over long periods of time and not easy to change. Most of the time those people we find that are easy to disclose to are those that lend an ear when needed without judging or stating their opinion. You might want to examine if he is really hiding things from you or is it that he just doesn't feel comfortable disclosing to you?

Guys don't share all of their experiences.It is like their secret zone. If Girls have Girls Talk but doesn't want to be left out, they also have "Guys Talk". Some Guys have this certain attitude. They don't want Girls to invade their privacy. Try to understand here more.it takes time ...=)

I see your feelings. It is so disappointed and painful when the boyfriend who you believe and share everything with can act like that. I think that you should reconsider the relationship with him

in that case,you should tell your boyfriend that what he is doing hurts you a lot..he must share things with you cause your committed to each other.