Have you ever hurt someone without the intension of doing so

@reploid (1371)
France
July 30, 2010 1:09pm CST
Have you ever hurt someone without the intension of doing so? I have hurt my girlfriend who I love unconditionally. I am so sorry now and it seems that my effort to make her understand me is not working at all. It just happened so I put in my trust in our relationship because inside I know she loves and she knows how much I love her. She's the one I share the most things in my life but still I can't share some things with her. Most of the times it's things of no importance to me. I am willing to make effort because I know I can do a lot of things for the person I love the most.
17 responses
@ynalane (105)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
Sometimes it really happen,give her enough time for now,when all the aches faded,the love will still remain.Just show her your sincerity .Give her some note because Im sure she doesn't want to see for now. a little notes and text message will do,for now. After a quite some time,try to see her again and explain your side personally.
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@reploid (1371)
• France
31 Jul 10
Thank you for your response. It's very encouraging. Thank you a lot. Have a nice weekend.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 10
Hi, Sad that you have hurt your girlfriend and she might be still in angry mood. Let her cool down and then only go and talk to her face to face. She may need more time to forgive you, it is depend on how deeply you have hurt her. Try to explain to her why you do so and you have reliaze your mistake. Don't force her to accept your apologize.When she is ready for it, she may tell you that she has forgive you.
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@reploid (1371)
• France
31 Jul 10
Thank you for responding to my discussion, this is what I will do. Thank you very much for your support. Have a very nice weekend.
• India
31 Jul 10
yes i think so. but i m not sure they would have hurt also i never hurt with intensions. if i know thar i have hurt them i would apologise immediately..
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@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 10
Hi Reploid!. The answer yes I did. When I am really in bad mood I usually tend to act really bad especially when I wanna leave alone to think and calm down. My family usually the one who got my tantrum but luckily now they understand if I am in bad mood its better to leave alone until I am ready to share. I believe I tend to hurt my parent most because I usually made my own choice in my life thats they hope I will not take and I can be really stubborn if I wanna something.
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• Philippines
31 Jul 10
yes,i have hurt someone who do loves me.at first i just fooling him,but now i realized that he's the one i wanted to be with.
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@STILLETO (46)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
yes, with my brother, i really don't expect i shouted at him. it's because he's unreasonable sometimes. i have tried my best to become a good sister. but in the end,,,it's still me who's wrong. the best thing i did is praying that someday he will understand and see me as his sister and not as another person.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
2 Aug 10
I think we all have hurt someone without the intention of doing so. I don't know to what extent you are talking about because that may make a huge difference but we all make mistakes.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
I admit i did. And that's one of the most painful experience when it comes to a relationship. Hurting someone we love beyond our knowledge(unintentional) may caused pain that could lead into more serious complications. That is why there is a question "why do we always hurts the one we love". Have a great weekend ahead
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@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
Yeah I think it's normal to have this every once in a while. i mean we are just humans. we cant please everyone. the least we can do is to say something bad that you have to say in a nice way (since its really hard to not say anything at all). Sometimes, there are also instances when you meant something good and yet you were misinterpreted and I dont think it would be anyones fault.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
30 Jul 10
I had hurt someone without really knowing it, sweetie. To realize what i did, was the most painful i ever went through. Not even to mention the pain i have caused. We need to try and think before we talk or do things. TATA.
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@hushi22 (4928)
30 Jul 10
i think i did. maybe sometimes i didn't know i hurt them. sometimes it would depend on the person's mind or emotional state on how they perceive the message being delivered even if it was nicely done.
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@dsrp82 (676)
• Brazil
30 Jul 10
I think all of us have. But I'm not affraid of saying "I'm sorry". I think is such a beautiful sentence! =)
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@unseenzy (171)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
Yes, I did... And the sad part is, I did hurt him a couple of times already and the fact that he's still there accepting and understanding me over and over again, that's the most painful. Usually, unintentional mistakes are the ones that are more painful because there are tendencies that you will commit the same mistakes over and over again. Given the fact that you did it unintentionally, you might unintentionally do it again. One example is our attitude... Sometimes we cannot control it to the point that we are also unaware that we are already hurting our loved ones. Or just some words that we say because we are angry, this can really hurt people. So I agree that we have to be careful in all our words and actions to avoid any unintentional mistakes that may hurt our loved ones.
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@msnoreen (108)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
yeah..
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jul 10
hi reploid oh yes I think we all have at some time in our life, but the thing is to apologize and be truly sincere as phony willnot cut with a girl who has been hurt. I think you need to talk to her just like you have talked to us.Also tell her that every person has some things that they do not feel comfortable sharing with even the person they love. So do make the effort as she can be won back if you really are sincere and maybe she is just waiting for you to really open your heart to her. good luck and God bless you both.
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jul 10
Yes i did. I have been harsh on some and i have doen things they didnt like. Now i take the opportunity on my bday and during christmas or new year to email all in my email list to say sorry if i have hurt them unintentionally and also thank them for forgiving me.
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
Yes I have...:D Uhmm, I hurt my mother unintentionally and 3 friends of mine because of my blunt attitude... But I explained my side and was able to patch things up immediately.