scared to be alone

I'm really brand new here...maybe a half an hour ago I signed on. Your post touches my heart. First, let me ask how old your kids are? That gives an idea how long before you might have to face your fear. Is there a husband or significant other that you can depend on to be there for you? I think the best case scenario would be for you to start taking some steps that help you to decide that you are good company for yourself...and that's not an easy thing to do because you've been traumatized. For me it's easy to say that I hand my concerns over to higher power...perhaps not so easy for you. I'm a Christian. I don't know what your beliefs are...but perhaps, that is an area to consider. It's sounds as if you've had a long time with little peace. You can certainly contact me here if you want to talk...I'm not even sure how some of those features work on this site!

Not every wants to be with someone. i myself dont like relationships much. im not looking for anything serious i dont like to have company over all the time. i like to do my own thing and relax. some people cant stand being icolated from others, ive always been a solo person. whatever works for you!

Hi sincerelyne, I enjoy some time alone but like most people I don't want to be alone all the time. My first wife passed away in 1995 and since our children were grown, I spend much of the next three years alone so I know what it's like. I finally decided that I'd had enough and started looking for a companion for my later years and now I'm happily married once again. It is difficult for someone else to give you advice because we do not know your circumstances or thoughts except what you have told us here. It had to be terribly traumatizing to lose your parents at such a young age, and only someone who experienced it themselves, would really understand how you must have felt or how it has effected your life since. How old are your kids? It's very important to have a good relationship with them and don't be afraid to let them go when the time comes for them to leave home. I could say that it would be great if you would get involved with something new but for you that may be easier said than done. Many towns and cities have 30 plus clubs and there may be one near you. I hope that you have at least one close friend that you can talk with about this, as friends are very important. Somehow you have to find a way of dealing with your phobia about your parents. You must let it go and find peace, that is surly what they would want for you. Your situation has touched my heart and I can only wish the very best for you in the future. Blessings.

Well you should be brave enough..everyone is alone in this world! at some point. So try to fight life and believe your parents are with you always!!

Hi sincerelyne! I'm so sorry to hear that about you. With no intention to offend I think happiness or sadness is a choice. It's worth being happy because you would make your family happy as well. Being happy doesn't have to go against your values. The first thing to being happy is to think of being happy. And you deserve it.

just think about how you can help others in any way......if you happen to please read a book THE POWER OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND by dr Josef Murphy youll definitely come out of loneliness.......try to find out the purpose of this life which God has blessed us with..... GOD BLESS EVERYONE WITH health wealth and happiness regards

ya i too scared to be alone especially in night... even though i have grown up still i have fears to be alone in home and i will take long time to sleep when i m alone...

hi sincerelyne!!! being alone is good too.. but not all the times my dear. me myself doesnt have too many friends i am not that friendly but i have few best friends that i can be with. start having few friends you could talk anything. you dont need to be the darling of the crowd you just need to have a good company to hang around. to have good conversation. :D good for us we discovered mylot!! we could get friends here where we could discuss our interest. and sometimes we get good advices.. and we could be able to speak our mind.. :D take care of yourself sincerelyne!! have a happy day to all!!

That is something you should overcome. If you feel ur alone then find time to get along with other people or go out with friends. It is always a reality that in the future your kids will have their own family and the possibility is that you'll be alone so accept it, as of now you have many things u can do like getting along with ur relatives. MAke the most of ur time.

One of the elements of loneliness is that it makes someone think deeply about oneself. It also makes it seem like its a final thing. But the first step to escaping that loneliness is to reach out. Lonely people tend to isolate themselves. Try to resist this. Reach out to others and don't shut the door on those that genuinely want to enter into your life.