How do you deal?

Hi bslovers, I can sense your frustration. I don't know how long you have been dating this guy, but it doesn't appear to be going too well. Maybe he has known these roommates a long time and feels very close to them. However, you two have a very different relationship where he should be making you feel welcome and comfortable,especially now that you are living with them. Moving in with your boyfriends sometimes isn't a good idea, especially if he has roommates. I hope it works out in your favor. Maybe you should have a talk with him to let him know that he is making you feel like a third wheel instead of his girlfriend. You can't keep things that are bothering you all bottled up and getting mad and sad at the same time. Communication is very important in a relationship. Even if it does not turn out the way you want, at least you have let him know how you feel. Maybe he is not aware of what he is doing or how he is making you feel. No fails but a try.

I hope your liking mylot so far sis You know my opinion on this, I think but I am going to give you a response anyway. I would be mad too and you do need to have a real discussion without fighting like crazy over it. Say it as calmly and patiently as you can. That's the key, calm. If you say it a different way or make him think about how he would feel if in the situation maybe he will listen more... Feel better and I hope the rest of the weekend goes well for you two.

Hi, belovers. Welcome to myLot! Your boyfriend should include you into his schedule. Have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him how you are feeling when you are neglected. He can't base things that the married couple does towards your relationship with him. It is different. You are not married yet, and you are still girlfriend and boyfriend. Tell him how this makes you feel. Hopefully, he will start paying more attention to you. And if he does not, then you may need to flip the switch on him. Place your relationship on the back burner, so that he can decide on what he wants to do.

Welcome to myLot Oh so sorry and yes this is not right for him to do. I understand that he feels a sense of loyalty to his roommates, however your relationship with him should be his priority. I am assuming you and your boyfriend have already discussed this in great length and for some reason he is listening but not paying attention. Dear you need to find a way to get his attention regarding this subject or it is going to draw a distance from you away from the relationship. If you have spoken to him and it is not making a difference, perhaps a different approach. Sometimes men just do not like the you, you, you conversations. So perhaps next time you speak to him say we really need to discuss about my problem regarding our relationship. If he doesn't ever take the time to gradually divert all his attention towards you and not the roommates you may have to really dig deep about the situation, as it is so easy for people in relationships to be taken for granted. I surely hope you the best of luck with this and anymore venting, we at myLot will surely be here to "listen" , although there will be times you many not agree, we absolutely do not get upset. Have a wonderful Weekend!