Negative chain reaction - stop it before it's too late
By silvercoin
@silvercoin (2101)
Lithuania
July 31, 2010 2:26am CST
I've been analyzing a chain of negative reactions and emotions.So, the boss fired the man and said the worst things his ears ever heard, he comes back home and beats his wife.Wife too, being sad and depressed turns her anger on her teenager son.He goes to school next day and beats his classmate to death.Sorry, this is not fiction, it's a real story.Now this young guy will go to jail.Who's fault is that?His mother's who's a beaten wife, his jobless father or the angry boss who ruined the life of his worker?Or society or media?Where does this thing start?What o you think?
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11 responses
@subterfuge54 (207)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
Oh gosh! This goes to show that we are all responsible for each other no matter what. What we do and what we will do affect everyone and not just our lives. That is why we really have to be careful on dealing with others and always treat them the way human beings deserve to be treated. :D
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
31 Jul 10
Yes, I see that we are part of the mechanism.If something goes wrong somewhere, it can affect us too.People feel responsible for their families, pets, but we are responsible for everyone, I guess.Unless we live in the jungle or desert island.
@ruth98 (106)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
Well, if you are going to think about it, just like you said negative chain reaction. When a person could not handle him/herself in a positive and more diplomatic way, there is a war. A war of frustrations that lead to anger and to violence whether it maybe physical or verbally. It will still hurt and anger a person. And if the person that's been hurt is already thinking of negative things and insecurity...it blows into ugly attacks. Who's fault is it? I can't really tell, perhaps it's already with in those people in your story the feeling of hatred and no comprehension of anybody's feelings. Because the good people will think first before speaking so as not to hurt anybody!!! What a sad world we live in.
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
31 Jul 10
It's not the whole world, thankfully.Only a sad part of it which reminds how important the love and the care is.I think that indifference to society problems is what leads to these tragedies.It's because people forget to share some warm words and actions with those outside their families.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
31 Jul 10
most humans react to negative energy, at this time in our history due to the increase in communication there is more available then ever before. If we do not set our minds to combat this influence we will gradually destroy our selves. For each of us it begins with the little things. The simple act of being aware of each small step each day where we ignore things like the waste of water, the impatience with each other over day to day living, the hurry where we forget to be aware of each other and don't thank someone or hold the door for another, All the little things that say I am aware of you and I care. Blessings to each of you.
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
31 Jul 10
Yes,impatience is just incredible.People don't have time to listen and sometimes it seems that words like please and thank you are too expensive to be used daily.
This negative things, we have to fight them each day, or turn them into positive if possible so that such events won't occur in the future.
@bubulizzz (508)
• Latvia
31 Jul 10
We can't to escape from evil things in our life, but we are responsible for our own reaction about these things. Whatever happen we can choose how to overcome this. The situation about father and son - yes, father is guilty for his bad emotion flow at home, but if the young guy wouldn't bring further his bad mood to school he hadn't done the murder. Only person who we can blame in this negative chain reaction is ourself, we can't to change other actions and viewpoints, but we can control our own. So to stop the chain of negative reactions can everyone if he will hear what his heart will say to him, and will'n react according his ego wills.
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
31 Jul 10
I think the boss was too hard on the man.You can do the same thing with anger and in a polite manner too what hurts less.And, the biggest problem is that the family choose hatred and isolation from each other instead of support and team work.
Well, I agree that anyone can stop it at any time, but only a few manage to do that.
@nina_khan (749)
• Pakistan
1 Aug 10
i think the FATHER has the problem.
that is the part of life, some times you get good jobs and some times you lose them because they are going to have a good one again.
our elders say that if one door closes 100 doors get open for you. so fater must have absorbed his headache and he must have come to home with good mood. also Wife should have done her part too. when she knows that her husband has got this problem and man dont like sitting at home for long period of time. she should have talked to him in polite manners and should have taken care of his husband for few days.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
1 Aug 10
Actually, losing job isn't the end of the world, but for some men the job is like life itself which isn't right.Wife, if she understands her man, shouldn't pour salt on the wound,who knows what kind of words were said in their house.My guess is that they started blaming each other, then blaming the son who has nothing to do with it and maybe they made him feel guilty and unwanted in his own home.And that poor classmate was the last drop in the cup.
@nina_khan (749)
• Pakistan
1 Aug 10
so i think the main problem is both with the father and the wife i think
there is no need to handle in each other in such a way
@ynalane (105)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
Honestly I can say each of them commited their own mistake. At first why you have to turn your anger to other, that was a wrong doing at first, and second if you are a God fearing person you will not hurt anyone brutally. All of us are responsible for our own mistake,don't turn it to others.When you are mad, keep it into yourself,if you cant keep it anymore, go nto a place where you cant hurt anyone such as your own room.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
1 Aug 10
Sports help to release negative energy,sometimes long walk in a fresh air.If only people use these methods when they get angry!
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
I believe about negative chain reaction.
There are times that we become angry just because there was somebody who got angry at us.
I wopuld prefer to have a positive chain reaction.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Aug 10
The problem started with an abusive home, but the ultimate responsibility for the murder lies on the teenage son. You reach an age where your upbringing can no longer be blamed, and you need to take responsibility for what you did.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
In my opinion, all of the adults were at fault. Just because someone treated you cruelly doesn't mean that you have to take out your anger at other people. And if the parents of the boy weren't very cruel, he wouldn't have been cruel to his classmate too. We have to set good examples to our children.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
1 Aug 10
Yes, because children learn from us who are closest to them.If parents show example of hatred, they will take this example and used it with others.
@qianyun6 (2067)
• China
31 Jul 10
Oh, my god. It really sounds like a fiction and I hope it was too, but the reality is not. How unfortunate it is!
Anyway, a person should not abreact his bad temper on a innocent third part. All the family are cowards who only dare find weaker persons as punching bag.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
31 Jul 10
I wish it was unreal.Using family members or anyone else like emotional trash can is just unforgivable.
@sunilpaul (173)
• India
31 Jul 10
Frustration management...close to anger management...the employee is to be blamed...if you had done your job on hand the way it was supposed to then you would have to take the wrath of your boss...even if the boss was a bad manager...the subordinate should have reached his inner-self to reason with the situation and NOT let it out on his family...that's is not acceptable...you don't pass on your anger in a way that it shows the aftermath effects of your professional life on your personal life...IF you are incompetent deal with it...don't vent the frustration on the family..
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
31 Jul 10
Yes, that's true.Professional life shouldn't affect the family life because it has little to do with it.