wanted: very accessible husband
By hushi22
@hushi22 (4928)
15 responses
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Perhaps you should stop dancing around the real problem. Go have a long talk with dear dad. Explain how you feel. How can you ever become an adult able to choose if your every decision is directed??? Plan what you will say ahead of time.Dear Dad wants the best for you.He'll understand. Remind him of his youth if he doesn't.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
I do not think marriage is the answer to your problem my friend. You may perhaps have a full of loving feeling with your boyfriend now and you want to marry just because you want to have freedom - think again...When you are married, you can be likewise tied up with an obligation. You are escaping from your dad's sight, but marrying is another hell. I think, you just need to talk to your dad. He is just being protective to you, but not being too strict. I guess, you just need to straightly discuss with him to trust you with what you do.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
31 Jul 10
have u had any man before?? 'cause u are searching for new man..
I think the possible way is to register in any matrimonial sites and u will get your search soon..Moreover u will get married in a month..
If u search for man by yourself it will take more time, so u cannot get married soon!!!
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
31 Jul 10
what would happen , if ur boy friend is gonna look at this??
Just do some simple maths ---- According to sir isaac newton, the gravity pull is playing a role here....If he witness this post he would think of break up
@avani26 (1518)
• India
1 Aug 10
This is really funny as looks like to want to dive into the deep sea to escape from FIRE. Anyway's not all marriages give you freedom and I personally feel that you should get married not because of any complusion and then looks like to are not in the right frame of mind at present just relax for some days and everything will be alright. Once again take care.
@masmelgar (98)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
Is the pay good?
Joke. Careful what you wish. You never know what you can get. If your reason is because you want to be free from your father's grip is not really logical. Marry someone because you love him and he loves you.
Think about your future.
When you get married, you will not be free. But you will have more time. Not for yourself though. But for your husband and your children. And believe me, you're better off being single.
On the other hand, it's very rewarding.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
31 Jul 10
i dont know if its him just controling or not. but as a father we do worry very much about our daughters. i was and still very protected of my daughter who's 25. but i dont tell her she's not allow to do things.
but if she goes out she still tell me where and who she will be with or at. and if she decide not to come home she will text me and let me know or if she goes out at night she will wake me up or leave a note to let me know.
maybe your dad cares, but take it alittle over board. be glad he do care some dads out there dont care at all
@hushi22 (4928)
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31 Jul 10
he's too much of everything. with negative vibes and too much DONTS. imagine, no going to Taiwan to work for my bro. What the ***? Why? because Taiwan is dangerous but he went there many times and said Taiwan is nice. How silly! all of us are professionals, have work, and stable relationships. Our neighbors thinks of us as a role model. As in the whole family. he's the only *we can't understand* always making trouble with all siblings. DONT wear this and that. DONT go there and there. DONT go with this person and that. TOO many DONTS we dont need. MOm even understands us. THe hell! So tired of him. Everyone is.
@crysontherocks77 (1273)
• United States
1 Aug 10
you shouldn't accept it just to say you need to be married. i want a marry and settle down but I'm very happy where I'm at
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@pmbhuntress09 (1608)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Make sure that you pick a husband that wont be the same way as your dad, I have had the pleasure of being married to 2 men that are about as bad as your dad. I am still with the second one, and trying as fast as possible to get the money up to leave. The good thing is that I have found that soul mate, its just getting to where he is. some one that treats me like a Goddess rather then a punching bag or even trash. I hope you can find someone like that as well.
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
31 Jul 10
I think you should elope with your boyfriend. But that way you will have more difficulties i guess. Try to figure out who you are and what role could you play. Then maybe you will know the reason of your existence.It's the ultimate quest.
@princesslawyer0515 (270)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Whatever that is, it is never right to marry someone just to escape from something. Love should be the only reason.
Pray. Everything's gonna be ok.
@Bellapop (1279)
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31 Jul 10
I don't think marrying a man would bring you freedom - maybe freedom from your current situation, but then you would be locked into another prison. If the man is good to you and treats you decently then you would be in heaven. If you marry, always make sure it's for the right reasons, everyone deserves a good happy fulfilling marriage and each individual should treat each other with respect.
@shockrayz (199)
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31 Jul 10
So you want husband to escape from your DAd? Lol. Maybe you just need someone whom you could burst your feeling out. Some shoulder to cry on, I think.
@donnelly (86)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
You seem to have big problem with your family so you are looking at marrying a man as the best solution. Marriage is very complicated actually because there are a lot of things to consider. The family background and financial stability of the man is of course the top priority. There are more problems if you are not compatible with the man and he can't provide you with financial support. Much more problem if you got kids. However, if your husband-to-be is a good man, there is great possibility you can find happiness in a family set up (but not freedom, lol!). Good luck to you anyway.
