how can i be a good wife?

I'm so sorry for your trouble. It must be hard for you to be in that situation. Have you heard of the book called "Five Languages of Love"? It talks about different people having different ways of expressing and receiving love. You maybe expressing/showing your love in your own way but that's not what your husband wanted. For example, you would spend most of your time cooking for his favorite food to show your love to him, but what he actually expects you to do is to just sit with him and keep him company while he watches his favorite tv program. Sometimes, too, we wives think that a clean house would make your husband happy but actually he just wanted a little back rub even though the house is in a mess. Sometimes we tire ourselves being a good housekeeper but what he really needs is a wife who is dressed and made-up even inside the house. These maybe are far out examples but the point is you need to know what your husband likes to make him stay at home. Perhaps, making your bedroom a more romantic place, or give you children a space where they can do their things without disturbing their dad. Maybe, he needs a more quiet place at home. Or it could be also that your husband just need to be reminded of his responsibility being a husband. Prayer changes things. And God can change the hearts of man. Pray that you can have a good heart-to-heart talk where you can express how you feel without hurting his ego. For some men this could be a sensitive issue. Ask him what would make him stay at home. If I have something sensitive to say to my husband, I need to pray first that I would find the right words to say to him. Also, when it's really difficult for me, I would pray for him while he sleeps that the Lord will speak to him or enlighten him in area he needs to change or that the Lord will use another person or situation to bring this matter to his senses. tbmoin, I would not wait for more years of struggle. This is something you really need to pray for seriously. Marriage is supposed to be beautiful because it is designed by God. Go back to the Great Designer and ask him to repair whatever wrong is in your marriage. God loves it when people come to him and ask for His help especially in the area of marriage. He is a miracle-working God. He can do miracle in your situation. Hope this helps answer your questions. will be praying for you, too. Blessings!

If your husband is not giving any respect to your efforts then it is better that you stop making your hard efforts for fetching him on right path.May be your non possessive attitude draw attention of your husband towards you and childrens Start making honest prayer to God.Only God can turn your husband towards you now.Make demands from God is not a last option as we all thinks.So please never forget the power of God.

I don't think there is anything you can do. I'm in the same boat only my husband is off with his girlfriend this weekend. I've pretty much given up trying to make things work with him. Now I'm trying to find ways to leave him. Maybe that's something you might want to think about doing yourself.

Oh my goodness are you asking the men? I can relate a little to you on this one. I have been with my husband for 17 years now. There was a time when I felt so alone, we have 5 kids, and it seemed he always found pleasure in others than the one person who is at his side. Anyhow I prayed alot about it but after years I felt it was senseless to keep thinking about it. Somewhere along the way my focus just was on the kids. My son is 11 yrs. old now and my youngest is 5 years old. We, my kids and me, have this relationship that fills me up. My gift to them is keeping this family united. My husband wants more attention from me now than he did when I was younger but now the kids are bigger and demand more. I one time told him to rough it up like I did when I wanted his attention. Bad thing to say but honestly sometimes I feel sorry for him because he seems lonely. I think he feels he's lost out on his kids years and mine. I don't ignore him because that would be a "bad wife". Face it my bones hurt at times, I'm maybe going through pre-menopausal at times, and my beauty has faded some. Those things just don't mean much anymore to have him look at me like I wanted him to. I pray to God that he keeps our family together puts love back where it used to be, which don't get me wrong we love each other but we're older. At times I see the changes in him but then a friend calls and he seems more happy talking to him than me. He has kids from a previous marriage and they call and he gets more worried about them than what is going on around him. His mom calls and he seems more concerned about what she is feeling than my own feelings. I just shake my head because he still doesn't get it. If he is not careful time will pass with us and he will miss the years. I have all the years of watching my kids grow up. There were times I wanted to call it quits especially when you are alone but God kept me there, and believe me women at times can have more patience than a man. Just put your life in God's hands, he will not leave you or make you feel unwanted, he is always there.

You can do small things like cooking his favorite dish. It's the simple things that makes life wonderful.

give him a good massage and you need to really be sweet to him. Because guys love sweet women, talk to him about the stuffs you want or he wants and the stuffs the you dont want or he don't want for the both of you to find the problem that you are having and for you to understand each other and have a great bond. You need to really show him that he is everything to you and you will do anything for him, I mean anything. You can really make him happy in many ways, I know you can because your a girl and your his wife.

Plan a half day with you and the kids, take them out for breakfast then out to a park, take them to a relatives for a sleepover at lunch, your husband can have half the day by himself, and then you two can have the night for yourselves. You can rekindle the romance, go out to dinner at a nice restaurant and sleep in until noon the next day. It sounds to me your husband is just stressed and tired and all he needs is a little alone time.

first, I want to tell you that I so sorry what happen to you, but in a family always have a problem. as a husband, I can understand what do you feel. here some my idea try buy some his favorite drink and put in your house try to tel his friend (if you know them) do not be too often out with your husband invite his friend to your home for a dinner or what and the last thing is always pray to god hopefully helpful

I am a single mother of 2 kids.. i was separated with my husband almost 6 years ago. Our relationship was okay during the first year but the attitude of being with friends and drinking and gambling never go away even when we have the baby. Since he is always out , he was able to meet and text and talk and call other ladies without me to even bother because I'm home with the baby. This gives him the opportunity to cheat. I hope this problem of yours will be okay as soon as possible. I can give any advice because as i have said i wasn't able to sort of my own marital life. I hope both of you are still young because there's still a chance that the kind of attitude your husband has will pass when he gets more matured. But believe it or not, ladies are really the most responsible in a relationship...!