my mom don't like my boyfirend what do i do?

Life has stress, regardless of what kind. The panic attacks are separate issues you need to deal with. You don't want to spend the rest of your life having panic attacks. I'd see a counselor to learn how to deal with stress. Start with your church, go there and ask for help. I've seen girls in their 50s still having panic attacks, their whole lives, and it's rather sad. Don't go that way. As for your mother, and boyfriend, and living at her home... You are living with your mother in her house. As long as you live in her house, you should abide by her rules. That means if she doesn't want your boyfriend there, that's her right in her house to have her rules. You boyfriend should stay away. Go meet him somewhere else. The best solution would be to get your income up by getting an extra job, or finding a better job, to earn more money and get out of your mothers home.

Hello! First you have to listen yor heart...even you will be disapointed.....and try to discuss with your mom....

no dont leave your bf. if he is sweet to you dont leave him. he loves you and even if your mother dont like him she has to accept that you love him like you accepted her bf even you dont like him either. if you have panic attacks and are so stressed you should talk with someone. talk with someone will make you feel better. also talk with your mum and tell her that you really love your bf and you wont leave him. if he is sweet to you you shouldnt leave him bcs she doesnt like him.

My mom never likes my boyfriends. Noone of them, so keep going with him (if you realy love him) and don't pay attention to your mom. She is going to get used to this situation. For the panic attacs - try to calm down, but if they still keep appear, please go to a psychologist - he knoows how to help you.

Hello! I think you should tell your mom the best things about him. You should present and describe him only from a positive part.

you should flow your own way since your 19 and can make your decisions now.

Hi persona_touch, First, I am sorry that you are having so much stress, especially because of the relationship between you and your mother; that has got to be uncomfortable living in the same house with her. Just know that it is normal, for a mother or father to not like the children's choice of boyfriend or girlfriend. So, don't make yourself sick over something that most of us have gone through. My mother didn't like my boyfriend either, but we stayed together and the only two children I had came from him. My mother eventually came around, because she saw that my boyfriend was a good person. I think what our parents want is to make sure your choice of friend will be good for us. Maybe for right now your boyfriend should keep his distance from your mom, if he is not living there too, that would be bad. Just continue to try and talk with your mom and find out just want it is that she doesn't like about him. You need to listen if she is willing to talk about it, sometimes parents can see what we can't and they do have valid points to be considered. As soon as you can, you should get your own space back, because this would probably solve your problem. Yes, your mother will still dislike your boyfriend but you would not have to be so stressed and you wouldn't have to take your boyfriend with you when you see her. Stop crying, believe me I know girls that are going through the same kind of situation, in some cases the parents were right. Good Luck Good Luck

No offence, but tell your mum to back off! because you like your boyfriend right? so listen to what your heart tells you, if you like him then you have a right to stay with him. And besides your mum also has a boyfriend and you don't complain right? so i suggest you tell your mum that and tell her to back off or support you because it's your life anyway. peace.

You must really defend your boyfriend of how come you like to be with him for the rest of your life? It is important to know or you have the right to know how come your mother does not like your boyfriend? Sadly speaking we can't please everybody even our parents.

well i think you should talk to your mom first about the situation, as i see you are just enjoying your younger year it is nothing serious yet, soon enough i know you will be able to meet other guys, but we can never tell right?

If you wanted to settle all then try to talk with your mom or have your bf visit you more often so your mom can get to know more about him and maybe later on she can accept him after realizing what you like about the guy. If this can't solve that then ask your mom what's the reason why she dislike your BF in that way you can view her points and might just make you change your mind. Parents knows best and don't get panic.. It just worsen the situation.

You should tell your boyfriend to exert extra effort to be liked by your mom by giving her things that your mom enjoys. it's like courting your mom to win her heart as well just like what he did to you but with limitations of course. You should also tell your mom that you are already a grown-up and will be able to take care of yourself. So whatever bad she is thinking about your boyfriend, assure her that you will be ok for whatever the future will bring to your relationship with him. Good luck!

Wow, You have your strong heart of your boyfriend than your mom said you things what she wanted.

Hi, persona_touch. Your mom should sit down and talk to you. She really should. I hope that she can tell you why she does not like your boyfriend at all. Maybe she sees something in him that you don't see. Call it, a mother's instinct. I see your point in not liking her boyfriend either, but yet you don't care if they are together or not. Have a talk to her, let her know how this is affecting you. I hope that everything works out for the best.

I think you should show your mom the reasons why you are with your boyfriend, so that she can she him the way you do.. My mom also didn't like my boyfriend at first, but now she is totally okay with it, I think she realized in the end that my boyfriend was a good guy, and we really love each other.. I'm sure in time you're mom would soon get over her hate. Relax and breathe deeply.. don't worry too much.

For me be calm and pray to Jehovah God that he can heal you heart wounds and ask him that the heart of your mom became and willing to accept your boyfriend and tell you boyfriend about that and he also take the action that you mom would accept him.

When i was 20 my mom was trying to give me the best advices for my life. I thought i'm so smart that don't need her experience and advices. But now, 5 years later, i know that she was right. About her - she was only trying to protect me, trying to give me some of her experience in life. My mom wanted the best for my future, to study, to have good life, as every other mom in the world. And for me - i just wanted to try everything. If i was you, i would tell her that i'm not child now and i need her support, so i want to know why she doesn't like my boyfriend.

You must listen to your heart, and follow what you think is the right way and what way you think will make you happy. If you leave your boyfriend because that is what your mom wants, you will never be happy. But if you stay with your boyfriend, yes she might get upset and may kick you out or whatever, but eventually she'll come around. You are her daughter and there is no way she would ever stop talking to you for being with a certain man. She will have to accept the fact that you're with the guy you're with because you like or may even love him. Your mom has no right to take that happiness away from you..

If you are happy with him and vice versa then I think nothing should stop you two being together. You have to get your mum to approve of him somehow but even if she doesn't don't ever let that get in the way of your happiness with him because a lot of people would kill to get what you have there ;)