Feeling Ugly

Philippines
July 31, 2010 3:45pm CST
I have just attended a high school reunion . We have not seen each other after 20 years. We have fun catching up what happens with each others life . There are some who made a great change. Since we are an exclusive girl school . We cannot help to envy those who still look good and young. Why do women feel insecure about their looks. Specially, if one gains a lot of weight . Are we really obsessed in looking young ? Was this just an ugly feeling ?
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8 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
31 Jul 10
Probably just a feeling sweetie. There is no such thing as an ugly person. Each one of us are unique and beautiful in our own way and right. Looks are not important, it is the inner beauty that makes us such special people. TATA.
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
Then why do we have this feeling to hide and feel bad if we know we don't look good. Specially, if we used to have that good looks , and now ,,not a trace remains..
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
1 Aug 10
Because we are human, sweetie. Those feelings come naturally, we just have to know how to deal with it. Just tell yourself you are beautiful, that normally helps a lot.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
You are so positive , saphrina...Hope more people are like you. Thanks, I admire your positive attitude...
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
31 Jul 10
I don't know, some people affect you the way that you feel like you're unattractive.I think it's just the lack of self-confidence that makes you feel so.Especially if you keep comparing and analyzing.I think the most important question is who are still happy with their lives and not who's still looking good.
• Lithuania
2 Aug 10
I have a suggestion for you - try to make a little improvement.Massage, healthy diet, new style of clothes or haircut,more sleep,relaxation,a new hobby maybe.A simple change can do miracles sometimes.You start love yourself again. :)Come on.Get to action.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Got your point , Silvercoin.. But, there are those who are happy with their lives , but then came a point where they are not happy with their looks.. Thanks, for sharing...
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Oh? don't tell me you don't want to look young? hahaha I really do want to look young and feel young. Yes, I agree to that. most women if not all but most, want to look sexy and young. It is very complementing when you hear somebody says, "wow!! you still look young and sexy at your age now? I can't believe it".. hahahaha
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Of course I do ...:)
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 Aug 10
Even the fact that looks are not really important, it is really normal for women to be conscious about their looks especially in weight. We can't really avoid the inequality and discrimination on this world in terms of appearances.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Again... Reality Bites ... Ouch!!! Thanks, Metatronik...
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
1 Aug 10
Hi cajimenez! How you guys have led each of your lives for the past 20 years is beauty enough, special in every way. Ugly is just a feeling as what the other respondees have said too. And you are lucky to have a high school reunion. I've only attended once years ago. I don't mind going for more. And the friends I miss alot are those I met in my elementary school, honest and sincere. It's strange though that we live in a very small city but we have never met again. Our lives' paths have never crossed.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
That's a very positive outlook , tomitomi... Thanks :)))
• China
1 Aug 10
I think the appearances are important for everyone , but not the most important for people . Therefore you should donot care about it so much . I think the human spirit can make us be more happy in life . Do you agree with me ?
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
I respect your opinion , woodman321123...
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi, cajimenez. Because many women want to look and feel pretty when they go out. It is a natural instinct. They feel like they don't fit in when they are not pretty or fit the description of being nicely slim.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
I agree to that.. Thanks, cream97...
• Australia
31 Jul 10
I don't think anyone is truly ugly because true beauty comes from within, so unless you are a really mean spirited person, you are beautiful in your own unique way and I'm sure the people who love you would think you are a beautiful person. Me personally wouldn't go to a school reunion purely because I did go to school with girls who always looked down on everyone else so that they did feel ugly and inferior.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
I guess , the moral lesson here is Stay away from people who'll make you feel bad... Thanks Laurelle11...