I'm kind of Attracted to my Cousin is that wrong?
By agito121
@agito121 (176)
United Arab Emirates
July 31, 2010 4:06pm CST
I know it is wrong we're basically family but i really like her, even when we were kids i really fancied her, and now i can't control my feelings, i know this is inappropriate but i cant control myself, i don't know what i'm going to do.... SOMEONE HELP!!!
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4 responses
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
1 Aug 10
Hi agito, Did you know that cousins sometimes marry? I certainly do not encourage it and it was much more common a hundred years ago than it is today. Most people are opposed to it because it can cause both mental and physical problems for children from such unions. It may be difficult for you but it's best that you stay away from your cousin and find happiness with someone else. I know this sounds harsh now but it will get better with time. Blessings.
@agito121 (176)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Aug 10
yes, i did know that but i'm not that attrated to my cousin to perform something like that, but thank you for the advice, i haven't been spending that much time with my cousin anyway and i only see her a couple of weeks so.... yeh. thank you for the advice. Peace.
@cadguy08 (1224)
• Canada
31 Jul 10
I had experienced also what you are in now to tell you frankly it's really wrong to be in relationship with your cousin, but if you can control it like I did we didn't get married to each other but I do have relationship but not for long so just control yourself and look for another lady, you can do it as I did.
@agito121 (176)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Aug 10
It's nice to meet someone with the same struggle, as i have, thank you for your support, i'm gonna try to control myself urges one step step at a time, of course i won't get married with my cousins, it's going to be wrong and there might be a family problem when that happens. So again thank you.Peace.
@parrot2010 (812)
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31 Jul 10
I think it's quite normal to be attracted to cousins. If I were you though I'd probably direct my attention on another girl. Maybe you shouldn't see her for a few months and try and find other girls. I know it's easier said than done but there's nothing much you can do about it if you fancy her. Just grit your teeth and bare with it for a few months without seeing her and see how it goes. Seeing her too often can make it harder for you.
Personally I don't care what people get up to, you could marry her for all I care but she is probably not going to be ok with someone who is her cousin to be thinking of her in 'that way'. If she's the type of person you can tell anything to and if you're very close to her you might want to share your feelings I don't know your choice on that one but maybe she can help you and tell you that nothing can happen between you and her, that might be the starting point of trying to get over her and she can do you a favour by seeing you a bit less until your feelings subside. Time is your friend on this one. Oh and it's not likely but if she had feelings for you then I'm not sure what you'd do, I guess you'd be together. There are some cultures where cousins are married off together, a lot of the time it's arranged marriage which is what I'm against other than that follow your heart and be careful what you say to her or it may put her off you, then again I have no idea who she is so only you can guesstimate her reactions/feelings on this.