when you ask about ur BF's past relationship

Me and my boyfriend talks about it. At first, he was really uncomfortable but because I was so irritating, he started telling me everything about his previous relationships. It would be nice if we'll have some conversation about our past lives for us to have some transparency. I don't really think that it's healthy but I don't think that's unhealthy either.

My previous beau yes, he also get irritated everytime I asked him about his previous gf. He would really not mind answering my question but instead diverted our topic. But as the days move by, he is opening his previous relationship pieces by pieces. It will just pop up and he would share those moments they have and once he shared it to me. I have a follow up question of what had happened why it did not work out or what seems to be wrong why it ended like that. When he feels like to say it he would open up and tell me those reasons. I guess we just have to wait until they are comfortable talking those previous relationship with us. We cannot force them to talk about it. Until such day they are comfortable in discussing it with us.

We girls are always so open to all questions because we are sincere enough and we want a clean and clear relationship too, I also asked my boyfriend and at first he was reluctant to say but gradually he told me all as I kept on insisting and finally I know his past now and I am happy so as to build my future with him is easier now.

With my recent boyfriend, I know all of his past girlfriends. He chose to tell me that and I am satisfied with it and I believe him. But I had one before who refuse to tell me about his past. Maybe he doesn't want to talk about it anymore. So, to your bf, I think he has reasons for not telling you what's behind the past. Anyway, what matters most is that you both have trust and you are being loyal to each other. Just believe what he is telling you, some people need more time to tell anyone about their past. Just wait and let him tell you without being asked.

Hmm... I hate it when my girlfriend asking about my past relationships. That's why I am stopping myself from falling in love again (until I am ready again). It's because I want to get rid of my past and want to start everything new with my girlfriend. When my girlfriend ask, I try to avoid it, but somehow, I can't but have to tell them since they always insisting me to tell them. Some of the reasons I got from them, when they are insist to know, is to know are they comparable with the past or are they better than the past. It's kind of annoying question to receive from girlfriend.

Hi, i only suggest, don't dig about his past relationship with anyone. May be u would feel offended after knowing how much close they both were before the relation broke. Yes i understand u r open talk about your past love. But sometimes it is better if somebody don't ask about past and focus on present relationship to make it better n stronger.

wat i think is that guys are so much different from girls. wen we enter into another relationship after ending one, we always carry the lesson we learn from the past. that makes us easy to talk about it. as we try to convince others that we have moved on, we are also convincing our own self that we really have. now for the guys they don't brag about their past maybe because wat matters to him now is you and his present.especially if he didnt have a nice relationship with his past.just give him time to let it sink in to him that you are his present and u deserve to gain his trust. eventually you will be surprised. he will talk about it with you and by then you will be asking wen will he stop talking about her.

Hi, it might just be something that he don't like to talk about. For me, im a fairly private person. I don't too much like to talk about my relationship concerning certain things to family. I know this might seem strange, but it is what it is. you know? Maybe the girl really hurt him. For me, my bf use to talk about his ex, which made it seem like he wasn't over how she hurt him. So our situation is just the opposite. Btw i didnt like when he spoke of her, so I wouldn't too much press the issuse asking your bf to talk about her. but anyway, this is my story. And good luck w/ your relationship!!

Maybe it brings back bad memories for him to talk about her and it still hurts him. I don't care about my boyfriends ex's because they are just that, his ex. If he wants to tell me then so be it but otherwise I don't particularly care, it is none of my business. The same goes for me, any of my ex's including ex husband is in the past and not part of my present or my future. I wouldn't get into a relationship if I was still hung up on an ex.

I think it's a sensitive topic. Something you can discuss when you are already in deep relationship with your current boyfriend. If you already gained his trust then it will come. Personally, I never had a problem asking this from my bf.

There could be many reason why he decides no to tell you about his past relationships. One, it depends on how long ago the relationship was. If it was just recent, then maybe its just not a subject he's ready to talk about yet. Another reason could be that maybe he's just not comfortable talking about his past life or relationships to anyone. Not everyone like you are comfortable talking about their personal life. He could also have some deep feelings for her still, but I don't think that, that would be a reason why he won't tell you about it. I think it's going to take some time and a deep relationship between the two of you in order for him to want to be comfortable enough to tell you something so personal. I hope I have been some help. Have a nice day.

If my relationship with my girlfriend is still fresh and new, I won't really have the guts to ask them about their past boyfriends or what they usually do, if their doing the thing always or once a week, or if she never did that and she's still fresh. I can't I really ask her all those thing because that will sound really very awkward, I will just wait for the right time to come. Like we are really having a great bond that we are able to share anything we want to say to each other. I think that's the perfect time to ask them, I am really sure that they will really answer and tell you the truth about their freaking history with their past boyfriends.

hmmm..i think we have the same issues here...i also love to know about my bf's past relationships.., but he doesn't provide me any specific answers... he wouldn't even disclose the name..he will just told me that he forgot the name because he is forgetful and such...but his excuse is very lame..i'm not that stupid to believe such excuse..would you? but i never pressed the issue after a few attempts of doing the same...what i find unfair is...he's been digging me about my exes and i've been really honest and open to him about it...because i've totally let go of my past already..and now i can't help but wonder..is there a specific reason why he wouldn't share any information about his past girlfriend???

yes I've tried to asked that kind of question to my boyfriend.and he doesn't want to talked about his past relationship because he don't want that I'll be mad or something and boys know that we girls are very sensitive. And when that topic open it will just end up to a fight so the boys just stay quite. And in you're situation it's not easy for him to forget that girl because that girl was his best friend and it's not easy for him to ignore that girl cause they were friends for so long. so why don't you ignore that kind of suspicious. then again he's still yours and it won't change.

Hi! To my mind past has gone. One can not change it or alter it, it is, therefore of no use asking about yr boy friend's past. What matters his commitment to you. If he deeply loves you, you should not bother much about his past.