I seldom go out with my friends coz my husband don't like it.Is it right?

Simple...He doe not trusts you and wants to control you. When a husband does not allow his wife to bond with friends is a man who is in control. What is a problem if you bond with your friends at least once in a while? Worse, if he bonds with his friends while he does not want you to bond with yours. Does that happen? If yes, he might be doing some thing you do not know. Too bad because he is isolating you from your friends. That is not actually right.

I think you started off on the wrong foot already by getting into a relationship with a possesive man. Possesive relates to property. It is a behavior that reflects ownership. If on the other hand you want to feel like you are owned, then that is up to you. We all need space and time away from the toils of everyday life. Friends are a way that we can innocently relax and have a little fun. If your happiness is not important to your husband, I don't think he really loves you as much as you should be loved. It means that he does not trust you, and he is insecure with his possessions. If your husband asked to go out with his friends, do you trust him? What do we do when we want to protect a prized possession? We usually stick it in a safe where no one can steal it. Is that what he is doing to you?

gracielle a normal husband does not try to stop a wife from seeing her friends but a controlling , abusive husband does this to start with, then he will push you or shove y ou if you do not do as he wants fast enough from there he will go on to hitting you as you try to assert your rights as a woman and a human being. Rage is not something that ordinarily occurs between two people in love, I think he needs anger management and you both need marital counseling as he is not a normal husband. His interragating you like a police officer is not normal its the behavior of a wife abuser. It is not right and I am sure your really know this. Either you get him into anger management and counseling or ask for a divorce. you do not want to be another battered wife. read the symptoms of a wife beater, you will be scared but it will convince you he is wrong in the way he is treating you.

This is so very wrong. Why are you allowing him to do that to you? Yes, both of you are married but it doesn't mean you can't enjoy your life anymore. If my husband is like that, I'd probably divorce him and get a man who is better than him. You don't deserve to be treated that way.

Since you feel you cannot change your husband's thinking it is better that you sacrifice a bit for peace in the house and do other things that make you happy. But do not stop convincing him for your need to be with your friends when he is in a good mood. If you have some common friends may be you could discuss this issue in their presence

No this is not right. It is a form of abuse that is wrong. He is trying to control you by controlling who you can and can't see. You have the right to see who you want and he should accept that. You should stand up to him and go out with your friends anyway just to prove to him (even though you shouldn't have to) that he has nothing to worry about and that he can trust you.

I get your point and if i may suggest, you need to consider and take into account that you are now in a married life. You have your responsibility to your husband, to your family. Your friends knows and understands your situation being into that way. Yes, definitely its true that you'll be missing them once and for all, taking into thinking all the good things you had with them. Putting myself into your husband's shoes, I would rather say, I need you more everytime and anytime. I want to go home and sleep with my wife at night. YOur friends will always be your friends forever.

it's not at all right. I suppose he's allowed to spend time with his friends? this is controlling behaviour, and not only that, it is also abusive behaviour. a lot of domestic abuse begins with one trying to control the others behaviour. it may be a warning sign of worse to come. and if you back down now, and stop contact with your friends, he will see that he can control you, and he will control other areas of your life too. abusive partners often isolate their partner from their friends or family, so that when they abuse them, they have no one left to turn to, and they have power over them. not only is his behaviour unfair, untrusting and unloving, it's also a warning sign of a personality that often leads to physical violence too.

Your relationship with your husband is very important in your life. Relationships with your friends are also important. Your husband should have respect for your friendships and not deny you time with them. Perhaps he is just jealous of the time they spend with you.

Okay, first of all, not all the women in the world get the 'ideal' husbands. There are things which might be different depending on the individual you are married to. We all do compromise, whether the husbands or the wives, because no one is perfect in this world, but the Almighty Allah. Your husband doesn't like you going out with friends, and he is possessive about you; for me it is a good thing. Why? Because he cares about you. He doesn't want your attention diverted, and to be honest? It is a degree of true love. Your husband loves you. Secondly, why is he not concerned to those thousands of women out there? Because he is not related to them, but since he is related to you, he will show his concerns, possessiveness and everything. Just imagine for a minute, if your husband was the sort of a person who didn't care about anything that you would do, how would it feel? Wouldn't you feel left out? Wouldn't you feel as if nobody cares about you?

maybe you should talk to your husband first about your problem, as for me, you still have your right, you should mingle with your friends from time to time i see nothing wrong about that besides, being with friends is one way we interact with others. or better yet ask your husband, maybe he is really looking for a maid rather than a wife.

it's not just the husband even only boyfriends doesn't like it... I have so many friends having the same situation as yours... and it's a given fact already... I think... but you don't have to stay away from your friends just to please your hubby, maybe you can ask permission sometimes to be with your friends...:)

being a girl you seldom go out...But being a male i never go out with friends my wife does not like it and i dont want to see my wife angry or in pain. She will feel unloved. I dont ever want to give her that feeling. I dont mind her going out with friends as she has lots of friends and she has to keep herself busy when i work.

I really really hard for me to advise you . I think that you should have the without restraint conversations about your friendship . Because you can't live without your friendship . Friendship never end . But because of your husband was a very possessive man . So it very difficult for you to decide . in short you have to have think carefully about your husband vs. your friendship :D

Yes, i think your husband is a possessive man indeed. He doesn't like you go out with your friends. He want to grap you in his hands. Maybe you can bring him to see a mental doctor. At the beginning of your relationship,you will feel very happy with his beheavior. After a long time , you will be not happy with it as you don't only need love , but you also need the friendship . I guess you can chat with him to let him know what you think and what you feel.

Oh my gosh do I know this well. I was married at 16 to a man ten years my elder and well I can only speak for me and what I have experienced but this is typical in Hispanic men. I do not want to be turn into generalization but I know this type well. I loved my ex husband and did all he commanded, to avoid such fights as you have mentioned. I have no idea what it is like to celebrate a 21st and or 25th birthday as so many do as I was home sulking while my husband was with his friends. As I grew older and wiser all I could think about was I have a son and this is not the way I want him to treat women. Things don't stop their honey matter how hard you try as he will always have control of even the air you breath. I am not advising you to get up and leave your husband, but what I am asking that you ask yourself at age 40 if this is the way you still want to live. Because once you are there, there is not turning back so things need to change or you need to re-think your situation. Good luck to you with this as I know how we have a tendency to fool ourselves that it is ok but they are really not.