Is it called love if you are always on the losing end?

Philippines
August 1, 2010 2:05pm CST
I always wonder if love is really hurtful sometimes, I always see people around me bursting in tears and sometimes i myself gets hurt by the people i love.... Is it really love if we are always getting hurt by the person who declare undying love for us or are we just a necessity that the society dictates that a person must have. I know life is not black or white, just ad love in not love alone or hate is just hate alone, but i do wish that it would be often that our partners would realize how fragile our feelings are.
2 responses
thedataminer
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
1 Aug 10
I think if hurtfulness is happening in a relationship much to often you should leave the negative relationship and find someone who will treat you good. I wasted years of my younger life in a very painful and hurtful relationship. And I can tell you one thing if I had to do it all over again I definitely wouldn't. Life is to short to stay with a mean, no good person.
gladeez
@gladeez (63)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
That comes to my mind sometimes but i guess i still can't let go of this relationship. If you are asking if im still happy, the answer is not everyday but i hang on maybe for the wrong reasons but i still want to believe that if i saw something good in that person before maybe that is the reason that is keeping me holding on. I wanted to start a life with new perspective, maybe in due time. I still think this thing that i have for him and he for me is good. Maybe if i don't feel any desire to see him, that is the right time to let go. thanks anyway cause your comment helped me in some ways.
xio shi
@simonelee (2715)
• China
2 Aug 10
If we are are in love it is always accompanied with pain. Why? because we have the capacity in hurting that person because we do love them. Love drives us in different types of pain and as long as there is love we get hurt again and again. Unconsciously or consciously you'll get hurt or hurt your partner no matter how you love each other.