Learning how to forgive someone without the resentment
By wgraham116
@wgraham116 (39)
United States
August 1, 2010 4:52pm CST
My pastor said something today that has really opened my eyes. He talked about learning how to forgive someone who has hurt us in the past. If we don't forgive anybody who has hurt us physically or mentally we are not forgiven for the people we have hurt in the past. I have always wondered when i get mad at my wife that all the bad things we have been through comes right to my attention. The problem is i had forgotten about what had happened but no forgiven her. This is one of the hardest things for me but if i don't let go of the hurt, i will hold her in prison and want her to be punished for what she did and that's not right. No matter how hard it is if you keep that person in your own little prison cell until you think they deserve what they have done to you then you are putting yourself into a prison also. We have to let it go or our future will be hindered because the enemy will bring something else into your life to make you remember about something else. Life is a constant battle and it's how we persevere thru own pain and hurt that determines where we go in life!
2 responses
@Luvers (170)
• United States
1 Aug 10
iv forgive what happened to me in the past i forgive the people who hurt me i forgave and moved on becuse no forgiving it's on hurting your self just let go of the past is what i do put the past will always be with you becuse the past is what made you who you are today.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
They also say that once we decided to forgive someone, we should also forget the bad things that they have done to us, because if we keep on remembering, it loses the sole purpose of forgiveness. On the other hand, I myself find it hard to do the two things at the same time. Even if we all know that it is more liberating and fruitful that we will let go of the ill feelings that we have towards someone who hurt us, it is difficult to do it, I guess that's human nature. Only time can tell when we can be free from that kind of feeling...and maybe the only thing that we can do is to pray to God that He will take away those negative emotions that imprison us and prevents us from the serene and happy life...