Help?

@hushi22 (4928)
August 1, 2010 5:41pm CST
I have been sad and depressed lately because of some personal or family issues and i plan to move out just to get rid of someone i could no longer handle. but the words from my bro who just left to work abroad is stopping me to move out. he told me to look after my mom and make sure i am always there to comfort her and listen to her esp when dad is again annoying her. But that is I could no longer handle dad's attitude so i wanna move out. *sigh I wish my wish will come true that he will change and be sensitive to people. I wish he stops being selfish and acting like a spoiled brat.
5 responses
@xal154 (42)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
It wouldn't be right to move out. Parents can sometimes be annoying especially when they are against your decisions. But they're here to guide us. What i do if i get mad with my parents is go to my room , read a book /watch dvd's , play games then just go out when everythings back to normal.. sometimes, ignoring them would really help.
@hushi22 (4928)
2 Aug 10
our mom was a parent who guided us but our dad was never a parent to us. sorry to say that but he was full of negativism, badmouthing everyone, discouraging us, and insulting us. that is why we all wanted to get rid off him. if only he's not our dad. =( we just stay and take care of him because after all he's our dad. we have no option there. but deep inside we don't like him around.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
hi again.. it is easy for us to give you advices because we are not in your shoes. but i think you dont need to say those words about your father. just like you said. "after all he's our dad". you will never know how you will feel if you lose your dad. and i dont think that will be a relief at your side. just think how your mom will feel about the idea before you say those things. if things doesnt change.. make this experience as a lesson in your life. and be sure when you have a family own your own this wont happen. take care hushi22!!
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
It could be frustrating the the seemingly mature person who we expected to act maturely isn't acting as expected. Hold right there, dear. Do not make a decision that you will regret later.Leaving your home because of your selfish father is also selfishness from your end. You are leaving because you couldn't take it and because you are young. But what about your MUm? She has no choice therefore she can't leave your house just like what you are planning to do. She's now old and probably she needs you to be there for her since her better half isn't dependable enough. Your brother is right, your Mum needs you and you are the only one she can depend on right now. Now, are you going to be selfish to her? Be patient with your Dad. That's all you can do...
• India
2 Aug 10
Oh i do wish your wish comes true but that is really difficult because if it were then life would be so easy no? Even my dad gets little angry sometimes but he knows that whatever he does is for the good of us and so do i. Well if you plan to move out make sure you take your mom also. Your dad seems a little too harsh on you and your family. Maybe it's time you and your mom explained things to him but if he is not the listening type then maybe you should just leave him as he is. Sorry.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Hey there friend! I realized we might have the same situation. My dad is also moody and has a very short temper. He gets angry very easily and the rest of us try to live with it. My parents fight a lot about different things and there were even points in our life that they planned to separate and move out from each other. however, thank God that never happened. There were also a lot of times that I wanted to move out but I never did. I realized that we can never give up on our family. I'm continuing to pray for my dad that he might be changed and his heart will be touched. Friend, don't ever give up on your family. It's the only one you have. If you have a friend who treats you badly you can always be not friends with them and find other friends but it doesn't work like that for family. Either they're there or they're not there. God bless you and I hope you work things out with them! :)
• China
2 Aug 10
Hope you are in good status right now.Would you have a talk with your father?Sometimes we need to negotiate with our parents,especially at your case.Share your opinions with your father,make him understand what you need,this will depend on your words,your sense.If he be touched,you will be successful.Hope you can be good friends with your father.This will be true in some way.Good luck to you!