What would you say to him?

I have never experienced that for the reason that I am still single...hehehe... well your in a tough situation there, I guess respect should matters. Respect for your parents and in laws, respect for your boss. I guess if they learn to respect one another everything will be fine. I don't know what's really happening between your husband and Dad, but I guess if they learn how to respect one another in terms of their position in each other's life I guess things will be settle. You know what one of the teaching in our church is when you want something to change it will start on you. Though I know its easy for me to say because I m not in your situation...but you can do it, and prayer works best than anything. Just trust God and never get tired of cheering and encouraging both your dad and your husband this is the time that they need you most the same person who understand them best and the one they really trust to pour out their inner thoughts and feelings. God bless you and your whole family. May God bless your heart and mind of his own strength and wisdom God bless.

Yes, and it got to the point where I told them that I wanted nothing to do with it anymore because I was tired of it. They can settle their problems between each other and leave you out of it.

Hi Lilangelspreschool, I would have just let him go on but not really say too much either, if his bosshad not been your husband he would have still had to get it all of his chest but yes awkward when you know both parties so closely. When I was married my parents never liked my partner and I used to go round to see them on my own when he was working on a Saturday morning as it just made life easier for everyone. Huggles. Ellie :D

I would very politely tell my daddy that my husband does a lot of things too and he is excellent in this or that field and well I personally find him very good and above all we should accept a person the way he is when we love him just like mom has accepted you no matter if you talk much so this is life dad! I would tell him him that and eventually I have told him him when he was complaining about what my boyfriend does not do.

Hi, I can understand your position,set in the between of your husband and also your father,really like in the sandwich. You don't want to hurt both of their feelings,and also feel confused of what to do. Get yourself stay calm and stay positively. Listen to what your dad said to you about your husband towards his attitude and works. Try to get a nice time to chat with your husband and get to know more about his company and how is he doing well with his business. From that conversation, you can add him some points to highlight to him on certain things he may consider to change. NO forcing,but just a suggestion to your husband. PLease ensure your husband that you just want the best for him .

Many times hun, many times. But I always end up with defending my husband of course. But still, your situation are much worse than me. If it's me, I would reply that I don't have a clue about the company, and that my husband dont share works problem with me. So, it's no use to share his thoughts about that.... Well, at least that's what I'm gonna say...

It is kind of like being the adult child of divorced parents. When he crosses the line, you have to remind him that you love him, but you also love your husband. Tell him that it hurts you for him to talk badly about your husband, and that he needs to stop. You also must make sure that hubby does not talk to you about Dad. Tell him work is work, but family is family.

hi lilangelspreschool oh myyes that would be so hard, you do not want to hurt your dad but still you love your hubby and do not want to hear him being picked on. I was there once too, as my dad did not even want me to marry the man I loved. I was 32 believe it or not and yet my dad felt he cou ld stop me from marrying so he wrote me out of his will, lol. that backfired as I married him any way. then he started trying to get on my husband good side when I became pregnant with my first child and when he was made a grandpa whoa Nellie, he adored our son, Parents and hubby and me in the middle. its a tough row to hoe. but I was not as close as you I don't think, i was closer to my mom. surely your dad must realize that it hurts you tov hear him run your husband down like that.Why don't you tell him that he is hurting you when he does that as you love both him and you husband and do not want to fight with him but you cannot let him run down your husband either. He might not realize that hes going way too far for your comfort. talk to him and tell him just what you have said to us here;it just might do th e trick.

Isn't that just lovely putting you in the middle trying to force you to take sides?? If it were me, I would hand the ball back to him. Dear dad, if you feel so strongly about all this, I think you should speak to my husband about it. Oh, by the way. I love you very much dad!!You are only stuck in the middle if you allow it. Love them both but never be a go between. Make them communicate with each other.

Hi there, Lilangels.;-) That must be very hard for you. But the best way to deal with this is to not entertain or encourage your father to speak furthermore about your husband's ways by not commenting or answering him back.Just listen to him and never to agree nor disagree with him. Just be the listener. If he insist of asking for your opinion then tell him that your husband knows what he is doing. And that you trust his better judgement about handling his company.You are now a wife and no longer that little baby girl of your father. I'm not saying that you take side but as a wife you have to make ensure your father that you have full confidence in your husband. Your Dad is acting like that because he thinks in a personal level and not in the professional level. Well, this you have to endure and try to not let your husband be aware of it. Goodluck.:-)

I think you handled it just fine. Many times men just want to vent and really don't want advice or anything like that. They just want an ear to listen. Perhaps daddy may have also disclosed to you considering that you may share your father's ideas about the company and maybe support them to your husband. Your husband on the other hand is grown and really does not need you to defend him. The success of the company will prove or disprove any of your daddy's concerns regarding the company. Let Daddy vent, listen, give him a shoulder if he needs it, and try to stay emotionally detached and don't comment. If he asks your opinion tell him you'll think about it and get back to him later. I think most of us allow ourselves to get caught in the middle because we dream of that perfect family where everyone gets along.

Jen I love you but you need to grow up and tell him to stop putting him down. Tell him regardless of his opinion of him you chose hm because you love him, he's your husband and the father of your children. He either needs to respect him or your not going to be around him until he does. If family is real and true they will love and respect you no matter what decisions you make! You know there's something's that used to drive me nuts about Johnny but he's keeping a roof over your head, bills paid and he loves you even if he's not the most romantic all the time! I love you sis and I hope you can sort all this out!