... when you're trying to be okay but you're not (break-up).

LOL. Welcome to the club of emotional women, Laydee.:-) I can very well relate to this. This has happened to me several times under different circumstances.It is true that it is very difficult to just leave the habit of not thinking of him. Not because there's no one we can talk to but it is HIM WE WANT TO TALK TO. But, once we were able to open up our hearts to someone else, we will soon realize that there are sooooo many more intellectuals around us than our ex.Thing is, to get over him first. And you'll soon find out you want to discover other things than has nothing to do with him. Goodluck, dear...

Yes you do still love him and always remember just because someone does you wrong does not mean you instantly stop loving them. There has to be something about him that keeps you still caring, although it may not be healthy for you to do so. Give it time as you do not mention how long it has been since you broke up, but with time and other interests you will move on and unfortunately he would've lost the best person for him. Good luck to you and here on myLot you can talk to us anytime you like we all all ears and typing fingers...smile life is short.

I know you might feel that things and your feelings are getting worse instead of getting better. I understand that, its totally natural but not acceptable. Do you really enjoy torturing yourself? I don't want to sound mean but I am giving you facts, facts that you should start pondering on and making a move or responding too. Fact one. He cheated you. Don't be too hard on yourself. He is the one who cheated, not you, so he sould be the one feeling miserable because he lost someone as hot as you. Fact two. He broke up with you because of fact one. You got cheated and dumped because the guy cheated. It's totally crazy right? I suggest you start loving yourself girl. Go to the salon, get a hair cut or have a make over. Try your best not to waste your precious tears for people who do not see your worth.

Aaawww. I did feel that during my break-up but based from my experience, It really is best to suppress the urge to reply to his message because the best way to get over a breakup for me is to have no communication at all with the person and try to enjoy the time you have for yourself. When you really believe that it will not matter even if you see him happy with another person, that is the time that you can talk to him. Anyway, this is just my opinion and opinions vary.

Maybe we just feel that we are still searching for the right one to come but expecting to much about the first but in a mere fact that same things doesn't always happen the same way around for it is only there when we wanted for it to happen. you love him but you cannot put it back the same way as before so the least you could do is just hope for a better one to come along and keep moving on forward. have a nice day laydee.

You find it difficult to find people to talk to that will satisfy you intellectually because you are still longing for the conversation that you usually had with your ex. When someone we love the most is not there for us anymore, it doesn't mean we will stop loving and wanting him the moment that he's gone. We become used to having that someone around, everything routine that we do each day, we have that someone in there. As mushy as it may sound, that someone can be compared to the air we breathe, that when suddenly, it is blocked, the tendency is for us to gasp some of it,just like when that someone calls, even if you don't want to reply, you feel the need to do so, for you to have some comfort. Nobody said it's easy to get over a failed relationship, nobody said that in a snap of fingers, we can like other people the way we liked that someone. but just like the air we breathe, we should stop inhaling it if it's already polluted, and that is also exactly the right time for a breathe of fresh air...I think it will be hard for you to move on if you continue communicating. Time will come that you can be friends with him again, but that should be at the right moment when you already overcome the vulnerability of wanting him again...I wish you well...

because you keep remembering the old days with him. why try make a new memory, what are the things that you wanted to do in your life, before or during with him with out thinking of him at least a little bit.when i had a job i started to move on because i tend to forget the past, no matter how good or how terrible it was. you should find something that can make you happy.

Hi laydee, Come on, you are leaving yourself wide open for more heartache. You broke it off because the guy is a cheater, but you still want to talk to him. I have no doubt that you are hurting, but do you think the way to stop hurting is to continue to talk to the guy who broke your heart? That's like still having the splinter in your finger. Your finger can't heal until you pull the splinter out and put a band aid on it. Neither can you heal until you cut off the communication with this guy. You have got to stop thinking that this guy is the only person who is on your same intellectual level. Take a college course, you will find plenty there. You are a smart girl, yes? Then you should be able to see what road you should be traveling.

Well, I think its time for you to get out of your comfort zone. I think you are still so into the past that maybe that past you had was really something good for you but things changed and accepting it would help you more.

True love is trust without expectations.

Well, it's really hard to forget someone especially if there are lots of things which reminds you of him. Allow yourself a couple of weeks to mope and cry your heart out. But if you're really serious about forgetting him, maybe you should try hanging out with your friends more often than usual. That will help you at the least take your mind off him. Open yourself in meeting new friends and let the healing process begin.

Yes I agree with you , you love him that's make you talk to him most of the time even when you do not want. May be he cheated you for several reason but your felling are genuine so you just can't stop ..nothing wrong in that , he might know that how much you care and think about him...one day for sure, if that wouldn't happens then he might be the wrong person you are with !!

so..show your all think of you!!your motion!!you unhappiness!!do everything you want and you can

it's just alike me!I war terrible when i breaken_up with ex.I LAY ON HIM SO MUCH LOVE BUT IN THE END HE GO WITH HER NEW G-FRIEND.SO HURT,SO MAD BUT NOTHING WE CAN DO BECAUSE I LOVE HIM AND DON'T WANT TO HURD HIM TOO.I WAS HARD TO FORGET HIM BUT IN THE END I SUCEEDED AND NOW I DONT THINK ABOUT HIM.I FIND OUT THAT HE NOT SUIT FOR ME

hello laydee, Breaking up is hard to do. And moving on is even harder. yes,the hurt and pain and also wishing it would soon be fine makes it harder each time you feel that emptiness. I been into such situation and until i am still mending a broken heart. I had moved on and can talk with it without shedding tears anymore. Thu the pain still cutting but not too deep that i can even manage to smile when mentioning his name. We're trying to start as friends (hope it will be that way) we don't hate each other or we don't separate with anger (no third party involve just circumstances) I hope everything will be just fine,not to lost him forever. Love is not to possess someone,but to hold. Happy Monday

I know exactly what you mean! I just went through that whole thing and I think I'm past it now. It feels terrible. Like your life is prettyy much ending even thiough you kniw it's not and that you'll get over it...it still sucks. I always feel guilt and regret adn sadness and soemtimes irritation with myself because I know it's only my faulyt that I feel that way (not ebcause of anythign that happened but because Im allowing it all to affect me in this negative way.) I just spent like a week and a half on my last boyfriend who I've loved more than anyone before because I've prettyty much mastered the moving on concept. I spent over 2 years on another boufriend in the past. ( :O, :S ) Not good. Dont do that. It's a waste of your time, energy and emotions. You need some space before the friendship can insue, trust me. You cant always be at his beck and call becaue he's ready to talk to you. Need need some space then you can start the regualr converaatoons and just hanging out without feelings or strings attached. Honestly, you probally dont want to hear it (and have many times already), but any guy who will cheat on you isnt worth it (especially when they do it repeatedly), And staying with someone because of great conversations i s not a good enough reason. Missing soemone is normal if you lose them in some way, especially after investing so much emptionally, physically and such in the way of a romantic relationship...but you have to face facts and set yourself straight. Whatever works for you really. I wouldnt suggest burnign or throwing out anythign he gave you unless you feel REALLY REALLY strongly about it but you also shouldnt leave hos stuff around your house. Put it all in ONE reasonably sized box and put it under your bed or in your closet and dont look at it until you think you've completely moved ona nd such. I mean,. there's reallyno point to look at anything inthis box unless you're just reminessing. Get out of the house and such and meet new people with similar interests and start up those intellectual conversations you seem to lvoe. Tell yoursdelf whatever you need to in the form of inspirationsl quotes to help yourself move on. Clean out your life (liek your room/house, your work life, get rid of epopel who arnt true iny our life). Make it your life that you truly love in every aspect. Do thing s you enjoy, find old passions and new. Just enjoy life and you will realize that you dont need him and you will eventually find someone else that you lvoe. :) Good luck.

my friends have the same problems as your but think you live before you met him.. life is enjoyable.. just think of the good part like you have your family and friends.. time will past and you can moved on.. i guess you didnt meet the right one for you.. here in the phil. we call gurls with that attitude martyr..