my bestfriend
By clydeneah
@clydeneah (2)
Philippines
August 1, 2010 10:18pm CST
Hi everyone!
I had a problem that saddened my heart so much.
Its just a simple conflict between me and my best friend. The story goes this way.
One time we agreed to go to attend a wake of our neighbor who just died recently. We agreed that we'll meet at the plaza at 1 p.m.
I arrived earlier so i texted her to ask if where she was because i was already at meeting place. She said she had a meeting so i have to wait for her. Expecting that thier meeting will be finish immediately i still waited for her, 30minutes, 1hour, 2hours passed, she was not yet around. So i tried calling her phone, she said she's still in the meeting that i need to wait for her. So i still waited. After 3 hours i was so angry not with her but with myself bacause waiting is a tough work....and i need to wait for her.
She arrived, but i was so angry that i need to express myself to her expecting she will understand me.
I said next time please tell me the exact time we will meet so that i wont be wasting my time waiting. I dont have the intention to hurt her feeling but i guess i hurt her. My friend used to just keep quite whenever we have conflicts. But i want this conflict to be over.
I was sorry that i told that to her. but she just kept quite... Its as if its my fault... but please help me what to do to resolve this simple conflict. \
It saddens me so much...
THank you
3 responses
@ench815 (465)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
I personally think that to make a person wait for three hours is impolite and uncaring. At this day and age, people are just a text away from each other. She should have been the one to call you or send you a text message informing you that she'll be late instead of the other way around. I wish she just told you to go ahead and that she'll just follow. That way, you won't be alone.
On the other hand, maybe your friend was getting stressed already while her meeting was taking forever to finish, together with the fact that she knows you're waiting. Things must have bothered her so much that she was probably waiting for comfort and not confrontation.
If you want to resolve this conflict, the only thing you can do is talk to her. As bestfriends, it will make your relationship stronger, if you have an open line of communication. Maybe, if you both listen to each other's thoughts and feelings about the incident, you will both get a clearer picture of how it all started and how it ended up that way. Talk about it, sort it out and find a happy ending.
@m_perez (506)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Well first off you are a really good friend for waiting three long hours for her. Just apologize to her first and then ask her how she would have felt waiting 3 hours for someone. Tell her how you felt and then tell her how you feel about the conflict and how you just want it to end. Or if you want
just tell her that your saddened by the whole situation and that you want it to be over. But really I don't know why she's mad at you. If I were her i would be delighted that someone was still waiting after such a long time. Then I would keep apologizing because I would feel so guilty for making someone wait.
