What to do If your smaller Brother starts to Show Attitude towards you?
@sahilpadhiyar20 (532)
India
August 1, 2010 10:36pm CST
We all are very Close specially to our family Members with whom we had Blood Relations with 
Mom,Dad,Brother or Sister Specially.We Love them so much that we even can't take a little Insult done by others to them.We can fight the whole world for them.But What will go on you If one of them starts to show his\her Ruthless Attitude towards you.I had a Problem of my smaller brother who use to be my Best Brother Few Years Ago where we both can't accept each others insult done by anyone.We love each other very much that I use to Treat him as my Friend.But Now the Whole Senario has changed.
Now He don't want my Love,Suggestions infact being more severe to me by his Hurting Ruthless Attitude towards me.I Don't know from where it came probably his friends but Now He is no caring of Elder smaller Relationship even He Shout on Mother Just Fear from father.He Shouts on me sometime it seems like he come to me to Hit me his Elder Brother.Its So Disgusting and Hurting.I Know Attitude towards life is Great but a Good One not to Accept our Faults and Shout and Speak Badily to the Elders is not a Attitude Surely.I Fear He may produce something Big bad situation in near Future.So Please Suggest Me the Ways to Change his Attitude and make him a Great Guy who Respect and love his family Members and Elders.You are Free to suggest If I have done something wrong I will accept it and work on it.Keen on your Replies!!
Mom,Dad,Brother or Sister Specially.We Love them so much that we even can't take a little Insult done by others to them.We can fight the whole world for them.But What will go on you If one of them starts to show his\her Ruthless Attitude towards you.I had a Problem of my smaller brother who use to be my Best Brother Few Years Ago where we both can't accept each others insult done by anyone.We love each other very much that I use to Treat him as my Friend.But Now the Whole Senario has changed.
Now He don't want my Love,Suggestions infact being more severe to me by his Hurting Ruthless Attitude towards me.I Don't know from where it came probably his friends but Now He is no caring of Elder smaller Relationship even He Shout on Mother Just Fear from father.He Shouts on me sometime it seems like he come to me to Hit me his Elder Brother.Its So Disgusting and Hurting.I Know Attitude towards life is Great but a Good One not to Accept our Faults and Shout and Speak Badily to the Elders is not a Attitude Surely.I Fear He may produce something Big bad situation in near Future.So Please Suggest Me the Ways to Change his Attitude and make him a Great Guy who Respect and love his family Members and Elders.You are Free to suggest If I have done something wrong I will accept it and work on it.Keen on your Replies!!10 responses
@phoenix867 (182)
• India
2 Aug 10
We are very close especially to our family members with whom we have blood relations with mom,dad,brother or sister.We love them so much that we cant do any thing to them.If some does any insult to my brother we don't feel nice.We don't want any insult done to us because we love them so much and we care them a lot and we don't want our family to be insult by some one.
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@sahilpadhiyar20 (532)
• India
2 Aug 10
Yes Phoenix I Do Agree with it a love and Power of the Family members make us live like in Heaven.
@greygoo (795)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
hi there~
uhm, how old is your younger brother?
i think the his change in attitude is probably attributable to the 'teen rebellious stage'. i'm sure you've gone through this yourself, though maybe you might think that you were not as 'rebellious' or something.
i have an older brother and we sort of hated each other when we were younger (he was a teenager and i was a stupid younger sister. haha^__^). now we're both in our early 20s and things have changed a lot.
maybe you can try talking to him and, most importantly, listen to what he's got to say. he must be going through all sorts of pressure, those from people around him like friends and family. he needs support, not resentment. he might continue to dislike you for some time, but with your help he can to come out of that personality crisis as a better person.
goodluck at being the considerate older brother~!(^_^)
[i do hope your brother's somewhere near his teens. if not, everything i said would be nothing but a futile attempt to help.m(_ _)m]
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@sahilpadhiyar20 (532)
• India
2 Aug 10
Thanks Greygoo for your Wise Advice I Think you have almost sort my Weak Points out there.I Will now Try to Listen and Help him from any Pressure He might going through in his Teen Age Rebellious Stage.
Thanks a lot might this may Help me to Understand him lot Better.
@med889 (5941)
•
2 Aug 10
It is important that you tell him some facts about keeping one's feet to the earth, as this is very important no matter for whom. Sometimes friends become more important and even their suggestions seem vita but I would say that this is short term as he will see by himself also.
@akopoaysi (739)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
hi!
i think your brother is just facing some adolescence problem. maybe he has problems in his school or being bullied. or just having a bad day because he got dumped. or he got new friends that you dont know who is like that too. or he discovered a secret that makes him so angry about.
but i think the best thing that you can do to him is tell him that he is wrong. make some punishments but tell him why he is punished. but if he still do this attitude. made him realize that you and your family is hurt from what he is doing.
another is. do things together. make him remember the good times. :)
@sahilpadhiyar20 (532)
• India
2 Aug 10
[b]My Friend Akopoaysi I Already tried down your Suggestion Before Posting this Discussion.First I used to Punish him he Just Accepts Now He turns on me to fight with me.Which Hurts me more.I also Tried to made Realize Him But it also doesn't seem to have any impression on him lastly I tried to take with me on Movie or Walk or any place.He doesn't wants to come with me.
So What to Do for that?
I Can't see my brother in such Bad Behaviour which is probably taking him to the Dark Side.I Just want my brother to be good and Nice to People not evilsome.[/b]
So What to Do for that?
I Can't see my brother in such Bad Behaviour which is probably taking him to the Dark Side.I Just want my brother to be good and Nice to People not evilsome.[/b] @captain534 (177)
• India
2 Aug 10
Is not a very amazing problem that small brother starts to show his attitude towards you.In every one family same type of problem face but we have deal in such a way that its should not hurt each others.If my small brother start to show attitude towards me I will think that he is small and innocent.I will advise him, I will listen to him what he is saying.If he show bad attitude its really disgusting and hurting me but I will so my good attitude.
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@sahilpadhiyar20 (532)
• India
2 Aug 10
Hello Captain Thanks for your Suggestion.you have shown a good way to deal this Problem I will behave as wise and Forget his Mistakes but whenever I Advised him He Rudely Behaves with me as I am Just Talking Foolishly.That Hurts any suggestion on that?
@pirate451 (152)
• India
2 Aug 10
Yeah we are close specially to our family members with whom we had blood relations with Mom,Dad,Brother,or sister specially.May you would give more attention to your brother and he show attitude toward you but is the spotlight has always been on the prodigal son,but you should give some advise which is most wanted just now and hope you scold too much to your brother,if you do good I never believed that your brother will show you attitude it is base on you how you do for him.Hope you have given more care to other than your brother.If you want to make your brother great guy and who love his family Members and Elders than you give more attention to your brother by giving love,care,and sometime advise,if he is understandable person than hope he will catch up you what says.
Thanks Pirate.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
2 Aug 10
As we go through life relationships change, all people change. you may just have to let your Brother do his own thing for awhile, make sure he knows you love him no matter what and then just let go. If something comes up be there with no regrets and accept him at that time. Remember in no way are you responsible for his life, we each have to go our own way.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
2 Aug 10
HI sahipadhiyar20,
Sorry, about your beautiful relationship with your little brother going wrong. I don't think that you have done anything wrong to cause this change. I say that because I can sense how much you love him and how much this distance between you two is distressing you very much.
Your brother's attitude change may be coming from the fact that he is growing up and hormones changing in his body. Sometimes when a child becomes disagreeable, someone in another environment like school or just in the neighborhood, could be bullying or taunting him and he brings is frustrations home and take them out on you.
Have you tried to talk to him about why he has changed his attitude toward you. Maybe he thinks you don't like him as much as you used to. Do you have any new friends that you spend more time with than with him. Something definitely has changed and only your little brother can clear the air about what is eating at him.
Good Luck
@sach143_u (859)
• India
2 Aug 10
I am also have a brother means younger to me. He use to follow my words and i didn't tell him to follow but usually he use to do it. And he is really good and we are like friends rather than brothers. We will share our feelings and as of now i think we didn't hide anything.
So coming to your matter, friend may be he wants some what freedom, so leave him alone and off course you didn't do any wrong thing. But it may be your brother thinks that you might be rude on that moment. So give him chance to improve and try to be closer to him and give all the happiness he want then again you people will be the same as you were before.
@hongocha (63)
• Thailand
3 Aug 10
there is probably some misunderstanding here. you guys used to care much about each other then suddenly, your younger brother changed, showing his Hurting ruthless Attitude towards you. you should find way to discover the reason like: ask his friends, if he joins social networks like facebook or twitter, just visit and see what he's thinking, or you can try to figure it out yourself. what did you probably do to hurt him, maybe humiliate him in front of his friends
good luck
