Can you Love someone, and not respect the person?

Seems like you are being too possessive of her..? She might be feeling this way.. It could be the reason for this reaction of hers..

I'm going through the same problem. I mean, we've been together for 5 years, and she still does the things she did before. And that's disrespecting me. I know she really loves me, she just doesn't know how to act in circumstances that push her to be disrespectful of me. If your girl is like that, and you've already talked to her about it, maybe what we need to do is to just accept the way they are. It might be that it's their nature and it's one thing you can't change no matter how much you talk about it. Acceptance is also part of a relationship. We just have to accept the way they are and love them for that.

It's possible that this woman doesn't feel respected by you so she is not being respectful, in return. You say that she does the opposite of everything you "tell her to do." I don't know the circumstances of your relationship but, in my mind, both partners are equals. If she feels that you are trying to "parent" her or dominate her, rather than being her loving partner, she may be rebelling against you or trying to take a stand for herself. It sounds like a difficult dynamic between you. I hope you can find some mutual ground where you BOTH feel loved and respected in your relationship. That's your best chance for success. Good luck! :)