hmmm...does it bother you?

I signed on and got three this morning from the same person. I politely declined saying that I am too busy to do more than I am doing now and I thanked the sender.. Then a few hours later, I got another one, same sender, same message. This time I went to their profile because they had a 0 next to their name and sure enough, they never started a post or replied to one, but had signed up 5 days ago.. So I replied back and told them what I found and told them they can put their referral link on their profile, but this is a forum, a place to discuss things, not to get referrals..And I asked them to not send me anymore messages..If they do, I will delete them because after a couple denials, you'd think they would get the hint..

I guess it bothers me too. The first time I got one I didn't mind but then you realize that alot of people make offers like that if you accept them as a friend. I really don't have much time to join all these websites. I know whoever tells you to join gets something and good for them. I guess it's all business to the person who added you on.

When I first started using myLot it bothered me immensely when someone sis a friend request just for gain. I approved every request no matter what and still do. In a short time however, I learned that the majority of people are on myLot to gain exposure elsewhere as well. Realizing that was a big help. I see it now as networking first and friends second. After some time friends categorize on their own

I can't say that I have had a problem with that here on MyLot. I am still new and I just got my first MyLot friend today. However, I do experience things like that on other social networking sites like Facebook and MySpace. I just ignore these things. On other sites people play a lot of games and there are rewards in the games for increasing the amount of people who play the game with you. I do not play the games so I do not respond to the requests. It just shows that we aren't all here for the same reasons. The requests don't bother me, but they do tell me what a person is interested in. I just like to talk to people, that is why I am here.

I don't think its right for users to spam their friends with referral links in PMs, I wouldn't send anyone a referral link unless they're interested in a website that I'm on, but to just do that to your friends is annoying, and I wouldn't send people referral links because I don't want to annoy people and possibly get in trouble with MyLot for being a PM spammer.

lol... i just had this experience. i just ignored the invite to visit the link they gave me anyway. call me a snob but i think that people who could not even care to say hi or something equivalent to that are users, users who cannot wait for you to become their referrals. am i being mean? lol! did they just invite us so they can earn money? wink wink ****

I added lots of friends here but never received such invitations.I think you are right, don't trust those people or websites

Lately, I have been getting a bunch of friend requests from users with ZERO posts. I am (naturally) suspicious of these requests, but I accept them anyway. Several of them have followed the FR with a spam to join this site or that site and included their referral link. There have even been ones that have put their e-mail, so that I can e-mail them and they will give me more information regarding other sites. I have reported all of them, and I hope this sends a loud and clear message to them that this is NOT acceptable. It is bad enough when I have gotten spammed by users that I have interacted with on the boards, which I did not report but told them that I did not appreciate it either, but somehow I think that the ones that do not even bother to post on the boards and yet just spam everyone are even worse.

It doesn't bother me at all...why should it? This is a networking site...we can socialize in the discussions or through pm's. I guess maybe I look at it differently as I have been earning online for many years and have always had to deal with this. I really don't see the problem...there are so many discussions on how to earn on myLot everyday...you may open your messages and find your dream site....if it really bothers you just delete them. Or you could change the situation into a win-win situation...reply politely with your website or blog link at the bottom. People need to realize that in order to build your networks...you need to be friendly...I have found you get much further with open arms....

I normally delete and ignore such messages, sweetie. I add them as friends, but i only tolerate so much in 3 months. Either you work with us on mylot or you get deleted from my list. I only have so much patience. TATA.

When I read a similar discussion as yours here before, it did not really bother me cause I had not experienced it. I just got three messages yesterday from the same member asking me to join, this member point is zero (0). Yes, it bothers me now, but I just ignored it.

I was in your shoe gurl. yeah! your right mostly I asked that kind of question because it should be reasonable enough to send something like that and it will caught you by surprised but for a reason at all they should have been sensitive to ask the person they are sending if its alright for that matter well at least asked first. anyway people are not alike in perceptions and opinions that's what we are in many ways the differences that some sort of things will be discuss. have a nice day! take care.

oh, i feel sorry to hear that, people usually care aout what they can benefit from you than about yourself. because maybe they think everything here is just virtual and there is no need to be friend with anyone. so, don't let it upset you, ignore them. good luck

I know exactly what you mean. I have not even been a MyLotter for long but I have experienced this. I don't even think this is a good line of work, because I'm paranoid and assume most places are scams or ridden with viruses. Establishing a relationship with me would get me to join under someone's referral link, not a message with a link it in. For all I know, you're trying to scam me! I've never been won over with those things, and I've never done it myself. Perhaps that's why I always have trouble getting referrals.

It doesn't bother me, as I just end up deleting the message anyway. The thing of it is, I think in a way it is very rude to do that. I think they need to ask first before they post a link to their site in pm's I don't do that to others, but I sure do get it done to me. You are right though, that it is basically the new users who are doing it, as they are trying really hard to get referrals I guess. Now, there are some sites that are okay, but others that I wouldn't even consider. I will just let them know if I am interested or not, and if I am I will join, otherwise I won't. The best thing they can do is just post links in their profile and if users are interested in joining, they will, I would much rather check profiles and join that way, instead of someone messaging me to join a site of theirs. Good luck to you and happy mylotting.

No it doesn't bother me at all because I'm not really paying attention to the invites to join. I just accept their friend's request but that's all to it. (Opps! Sorry to my 'friends' who did this whom I have ignored...) Thing is, I don't want to offend them and I'd like to believe that they add me in good faith but I don't want to join anymore sites.... I hope they will not take it against me if they don't receive any reply from me.... Have a great day, Mac.:-)

I am always happy to accept a new friend here. I get a little discouraged when I get a message to join another site under my new friend. I have to wonder if i was only added for that reason. We should accept friends because we wanr to make new friendships here. isn't that what it's all about?

I have been receiving those emails for many times already but not offense to those who are sending them, I think I have joined so many sites already and i think joining another will be bothersome for me. Anyway, as of now I am not interested in those messages and i dont have enough time to read it.

Hi Mac!. I had many PM like that, At first it really big matters because only one or two people sent me message like that but the more I got friend the more I got PM like thats. Its tend to bothers me a little bit, I learn to ignored and I rarely open my message box at mylot.

Maybe it's just me, but I don't let it bother me. It's not worth the time to even think about, so I just move on knowing they are not doing themselves any good and it won't take more than a second to forget I ever saw them. It could take several minutes to report them and it won't change a thing, so I might as well go do something worthwhile.