Have you ever felt like you have been used and thrown away?
By anobel1984
@anobel1984 (75)
United States
August 2, 2010 12:53pm CST
I could really use some advice and support on this one.
I have known and liked this guy for 3 years. In the past few months we have been spending a lot of time together. I felt like things were moving in a really great direction, and he would say things that made it sound like he wanted us to work out. The other night I gave in to temptation. I thought I could trust him. I was wrong about that. I haven't heard from him since that night.
This situation is painful. I feel like he told me everything I wanted to hear until the moment he got what he wanted. Then he just cast me aside like I meant nothing. I haven't heard from him since then and I don't think I will ever hear from him again. I feel like I have been used.
This isn't the first time that this has happened to me. In fact that is all that has been happening to me for the past two years. I keep getting used and abused. I am starting to think that's all I'm good for.
4 responses
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
4 Aug 10
Well, well. Here you need to change your interpretation. I think you should consider yourself fortunate for you've got rid of a person who had every potential to ruin your life. I know how it feels. It hurts badly. But lets look at the positive side here. The reality would never have been revealed to you if you hadn't have that thing with him that day. If you are planning on being intimate only with someone you wish to have a long term relationship, then you need to dig deep into that personality. Try to understand the intention first. We often blindfold ourselves in such a way that even the most conspicuous signs are ignored. No matter how crafty a person is, he will hint about his intentions. If we confine ourselves within our own preconceived ideas, that will only cause more frustrations.
@anobel1984 (75)
• United States
6 Aug 10
That is really insightful. You have a fresh perspective that is welcomed in a time like this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I will try to look at the positive side of things and reflect on the signs that I must have missed. Maybe, if I can figure out what I missed then I will be more conscious of such behavior the next time I think everything is great. They say love is blind...I think that really liking somebody is a little blinding too.
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
7 Aug 10
Hi there,
Love ain't blind, but passion is. We often wrongly relate these two things. But if passion comes as a companion of love, then it is welcome. But as human beings are imperfect no one can guarantee you peace. You are the sole person who can provide that to yourself only if you can learn the skill to detach yourself at will. This is a very serious and well-beaten matter and we will discuss more about it over time. Let's have faith in God. Always remember that everything happens for a reason. May God always be with you.
Take care
@chiplex916 (140)
• India
3 Aug 10
No , I have never felt that I have been used or thorn away fro life.I have never done such things in which i regretting or felt shame in front of any one.
@anobel1984 (75)
• United States
6 Aug 10
I am glad that you have never had to experience something like this. You are truly lucky and I wish I could say that something like this will never happen to you...but I can't make a promise like that. I hope that life continues to go so well. Thanks for your response.
@crizjordan (108)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
I have a great advice to you. I feel really sorry for you but if you really want your life to be great you need to pray and ask God the guy that you really want. Don't give yourself to other people that easy. You need to make them work hard first for you to know that they are really serious about you. YOu really need to pray always because prayer is a very powerful gift from God that can help us in times of our troubles, he=ardships and heartaches.
Be okay angela. That guy is a jerk and stop thinking about him. It's not worht it.
@anobel1984 (75)
• United States
2 Aug 10
I definitely agree that he's not worth it. I just wish I hadn't found that out the hard way. Life is full of lessons and I just had a learning experience.
@anobel1984 (75)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Thanks. I am the kind of person who likes to take action, I don't like to sit back and wait for things to happen. You are not the only person that has given me this advice and I'm starting to think it might be a good idea.
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
4 Aug 10
We all have our idea of ideal mates. Its just that we often get confused and beguiled. We often ignore a few opposing features considering no man is perfect. This is a blunder. Meeting with the right person feels like magic. You will readily know it when it comes. It is not something that you rediscover after seeing a person for years.
