Talking to a brick wall

This is a personal Mylot pet peeve of mine too, and you are right it's not just new members who have done this! You take the time and effort to respond to a discussion then NOTHING! As though you are being ignored. Your opinion is not appreciated. If you start a discussion surely you want to see it through, you know respect people for taking the time to respond, Mylot is a discussion side, so discuss! It does seem to be one sided. I have principles in that I endeavour to reply to everyone when possible, especially if they have taken a lot of time and effort in their reply, however one or two liners I don't always respond too, or the inane, or responses that have nothing to do with my discussion and even the rude ones I ignore, but failing that it's only courtesy to respond to anyone friend, old member or new alike. That's what makes this site friendly. Personally I wouldn't bother responding again if someone kept ignoring my responses, their loss, not mine!

It does... and it doesn't. Let me explain. Most of us come here to discuss and we know that by doing so we will earn. We expect a comment on our response but often that doesn't happen. We responded so we will earn. The original poster ignores us? Not only will they earn nothing but they will NOT see us on their next discussion. Now comes the best part... This month I intend going to discussions where the original poster did not comment back and doing it for them I certainly don't get het up about it because it is their loss not ours - and I love turning a negative siuation into a positive one so... where shall we start?

Yeah I feel the same way. I don't expect responses 100% of the time, but if a person never responds back, I'm going to notice and stop visiting their discussions. Really the only time I don't respond is if the person's response is so off, that I just don't know what to say. Occasionally I miss one though, ie I just didn't see it...

Hi AutumnGold, It is nice to answer back, and I do. I think the email notification from Mylot is a great helper. When I see that someone has responded to my discussion or responded to my response, I get back to them right away. The thing is, I am responding to try and make a quota, so if they don't respond it is okay with me. I will answer the ones that come in my inbox and I forget the rest. I guess that is why we choose our friends here, to have support. So, you can look for me if you are responding to one of my discussions. Just do what you are doing and don't get offended if you don't get an answer back.

I am a new member and I have seen what you are talking about. I can't explain the lack of responses from other users, I can only speak for myself. When I post a discussion I want feedback. I am putting my thoughts out there to gain the insights of others. I do not reply to every response...mainly because some of them do not relate to my topic or add to the discussion in any way. I do however, respond to all of those who bring a meaningful perspective. I appreciate those who take the time to share their thoughts and I do my best to let them know I care. If nothing else I try to reply with a simple thank you as a gesture of respect.

Hi Autumn, When you have been here awhile, you will soon identify those who always responds and those who never do so. Personally I like to hear feedback from people and I try to always give an answer back to everyone, so if I identify anybody who just starts a discussion and then "disappear", I probably wouldn't reply anymore to his/her future topics. Well, I can say such people might have their own reasons for not replying but I think it's at their own loss because they will lose the opportunity to (1) learn things (2) earn more (3) make good friends So, it doesn't really bother me much, I would just skirt to others.

I comment on the responses of others, but there are some that I dare not do. There are some discussions I start and some I respond to that no matter what I say it will always be taken the wrong way. I had responded to a discussion and I told what i thought and almost right away I got scolded for even giving my opinion. I tried to explain myself and it did not good. She or he was determined to take what I said the wrong way. It is getting that I cannot really get into a good discussion anymore and I do not want to go to the boring little discussions about shopping, saving money, etc. I want to get into something with meat in it without getting my head chopped off figuratively speaking.

Perhaps I may feel sorry about it, or I feel sad... but we could really assure ourselves that we would get the reply we wanted every time we respond to a discussion, it's up to then whether they read it or just ignore it... all I wanted now is to respond and write what I wanted to write... in my post, I do all my best to answer those who come in... sometimes, few weeks ago, it seemed that I lost my time in here, so I prefer it not replied, but my latest post---I make sure all of them are read and responded. Thank you and God bless!

For most questions I don't mind that much but if I am offereing advice on a problem or something like that and I really throw myself in to the question and I write a couple of paragraphs then I would really appreciate a response from the person who I took so much time to help. If I don't get a response for that kind of answer I get frustrated, but if it is a simple question about my own tastes then I don't mind if they dont respond.

I always try to respond. Sometimes it's difficult to find something to say if the comment is only a few words, but I at least say thanks. And yes, I'm a little disappointed when I get no response to my comment. I figure those who don't respond really have no interest in the discussion they started. They just did it for the money, not realizing that responding to a comment earns them more.

I rarely leave lenthy answers, but when I do, I do expect a reply in return. As someone who's started a discussion, I feel the need to reply to those long answers to avoid the guilt. Even if I don't know what to say, "Thank you for your responce" usually does it.

I think to every discussion you make,you get answer rite.The work will never be done well due to disturbance if we stay in a group.So we have to stay far with each other and feel as if we are talking to a brick.If i don't get a response i will not think that i have wastage my time but i will think one day or other i may get response.

Yah I think it would not be a waste of your time if your have posted a response to discussion and yet you didn't got a reply. I think giving your opinion on something without waiting for a reply is just like you writing a book with no intention of who you are writing to. Of course there would be someone who might be decent enough to reply you that would be a considered a bonus. As long as you have imparted what you are thinking I think that's fine.

I think quite a lot of people talk to themselves. I know I do sometimes. Just happens. Yeah well it could get annoying and possibly a bit upsetting for some people if you were to put a lot of effort into an answer and no one says anything about it. But I think of it as just doing my job for helping somebody with something and getting a little bit of money for it. Soooo yeah. :) $-MrDollars-$

I reply if I have something to say which I usually do, but not every time. I do understand your point though, giving someone an honest and well thought reply and they don't even acknowledge it is rude. Plus these are suppose to be DISCUSSIONS... Hereis what the dictionary says: an act or instance of discussing; consideration or examination by argument, comment, etc., esp. to explore solutions; informal debate. Sounds like at least a two person job for that..lol

I saw that, too. Members posted a discussion and commented on the first response only, some don't even bother to comment at all. Now, before responding to a discussion, I will check if whoever posted the discussion gives comments to the responses.

To be honest, sometimes it bothers me and sometimes it doesn't.It depends on the discussion. I tend to respond to whoever replies to my discussion, but sometimes, I'm either too tired or not feeling well enough to respond. The worst is when I don't know what to say--and that's happened a bunch of times. It's not like I don't appreciate and welcome their responses (then I wouldn't have made a discussion). Just sometimes I can't respond--and I feel bad about it.

It depends, if the good answer is something that can be replied to, sometimes the best answers don't need any replies as all you can do is agree with them :P I don't mind if someone replies or not if I just put out my view but if I am looking for replies in my answer I will mention it and if no one replies that's when I'll think I spoke to a brick wall like you put it.