Do you contact you lover every day?
By l415565972
@l415565972 (36)
China
August 2, 2010 9:19pm CST
Do you call you GF/BY every day? Do you chat her/him online every day? Do you think it is the best way to keep the feeling? Why I feel that is boring and disgusting?
I desire a loveship when I was single. But, I desire free when I have a lover. I don't know what happen to me. damn...
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23 responses
@rhea_41084 (88)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Of course I did. He is working abroad and we chat everyday during our free time. You will not get bored if you really love the person, you will enjoy what you're doing, you'll love to share each other's stories everyday.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
How many hours do you chat/ communicate to each other? It depends to both of you how to kindle your relationship. It doesn't need to communicate longer everyday. It is better if it's short but substantive. Keep something surprising to your lover.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
In a relationship must set a balance.If the gf and bf always together i think it will be too suffocating and cause more anger to raise when tension .Human also need space and also other people company once a while and not always gf bf. Chat with her daily online is ok i guess as long as each other have understanding sometime i need space and alone time. I used to chat with my gf daily using skype voice and also webcam, later reduce to msn only since i busy multitasking while chatting and she is multitaksing studying and such.So it ok.
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
3 Aug 10
Yes, I do contact my boyfriend multiple times a day. I usually call him, but sometimes, I'll stop by to see him for a few minutes or to hang out with him the whole day. Luckily, we're on summer break, so we can see each other more often. Fortunately, we're both going to same college as well. I love him so much.
@colorfulseafish (82)
• China
3 Aug 10
i have the same trouble with you.my bf works in another city,and he usually gives me calls 2 or 3 times every day.i know he loves me very much and so do i.but i can't bear so much phones calls.because we hardly have anything to talk about,except"did you have lunch?" or "take good care of yourself".it's really boring.but i don't know how to speak it out to him.if i tell him what i feel,he may think i don't love him any more.it's so difficult.in my opinion,if the two are confident about their love,there is no need to contact each other too often.they have a right to have their own free time.
@gfyy1990 (25)
• China
3 Aug 10
As far as I can see..what you are experiencing is not love,you have misunderstand love.Love is something you will never feel that it's boring,only if,you have out of love.If you really are fall in love with your lover deeply,you will want to be together with her all the time,that's a feelling of sweety and happniess,not boring and disgusting.
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
Heheheh. Maybe you just haven't found the right one for you... I talk to my boyfriend every single day. and we send SMS daily, almost around 100 text messages every single day. Hehehe. Sometimes we talk and sometimes we don't, only because I don't have a phone line in our apartment and cellphone calls are fairly expensive so we stick to texting, although sometimes when I'm in the office I would call him, specially during lunch time.
@malihat (216)
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3 Aug 10
My boyfriend and I do speak everyday and as cheesy as this sounds, my day feels incomplete if I don't speak to him. I like to know what has happened in his day and he likes to know what has happened in mine. Neither one of us ever feels bored or disgusted by this. You might feel this way because you don't really love your girlfriend/boyfriend. In previous relationships I too have gotten bored of my ex boyfriends because I didn't love them and so I wasn't really interested in what they had to say.
@spazz435 (322)
• United States
3 Aug 10
I think that it is good to talk to your lover frequently. Maybe not twenty-four seven, but about at least once a day. I think that talking to them all the time makes a relationship boring. But if you don't talk to them every minute of the day, it makes it better because then you have something to talk about. Something to do. But I feel that the story is different for married couples. If your married you guys have to do the exciting part of life as a plan together. But if you're just dating, make them a priority in your life, just don't make them the priority in your life until you are ready to make some big decisions in your life.
@koditza (235)
• Germany
3 Aug 10
When I was home for the holiday, we talked every day online, and sent sms on the mobile phone. This was only for 2 months. And now we are both back to college, and we see each other every day. Otherwise, we call each other/chat when we can. the feelings you have are quite normal. That happens a lot, but they should go away when you realize that your lover really loves you, cares about you and it's worth your time, trust and love.
@chiplex916 (140)
• India
3 Aug 10
I do not contact my BF every day. Though he is very far away from me, but we some times only come on line.This has been happening with us since from last one year.Some say that, if we don't stay in touch then there comes a distance in the relationship.But I don't think that it is true. As far as we have trust with one another, the relation will go smoothly.
@JuanPearl (11)
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3 Aug 10
Yes,we do call each other every day even we have been married over 10 years. I think comunication is very important to keep good loveship.However,we also need some freedom.Try to have own hobbies.
@jeanieous (107)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
We communicate everyday because we believe that communication is the key for a successful relationship.Though, there's no perfect or standard formula for every relationship, you just have to figure out what best fits for the both of you. If you are fine with chatting every now and then, do so. And if not, try something different that doesn't piss you off and that doesn't make you feel bored. If you feel so disgusting, just tell your girlfriend about that. Maybe you both could find ways on how to manage your relationship well.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
My boyfriend and I live in different parts of the country. We text each other many times in one day, most especially when we wake up and when we go to sleep. How many times we text each other depends on how busy we are. It makes us feel connected with each other despite the distance between us. Also, it makes us feel good because we know we remember each other in the middle of our busy lives. Before, when we used to live in the same city, we didn't text that often because we saw each other everyday. I don't find it disgusting because we like to keep communicating with each other.
It's understandable how you would want to be in a relationship when you're single. Who doesn't? I think you just haven't found the right partner for yourself. I believe it comes naturally that if you're really in love with your lover, then you would want to express that love in any way you can, including texting/calling/chatting. You would want to make your partner feel your love for her. Even if you're not the type who likes to text/chat/call, if your girl is, then you would adjust. Because you're happy when you know she's happy. Maybe you get into a relationship for the wrong reasons or with impossible demands that's why you think about getting out of the relationship. Like, always feeling that "the grass is greener on the other side." You don't appreciate the "green grass" of the side you're in.
@Handayani (27)
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3 Aug 10
Maybe some people think as like you. I have married for 7 years, and I had had a special relationship with my husband before married for 4 years, so If we sum, I have been together with him for 11 years. It's enough a long time. I have felt boring with him, I have also liked somebody else. But if I see my children, how deep My love to my children, I will remember that's our love's proof. it's so wonderful to have two lovely children from him. I think it's important to keep attention your partner, just a little attention. Like us, we often make an appointment to have lunch together, just we both without my children. or maybe send him a short message from handphone just to ask "Hello honey, what are you doing now?, Are you busy? etc. You know, women will feel happy just because you often give her little attentions.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
3 Aug 10
I contact my love sometimes not always.to contact always is not very necessary by knowing each others feeling.I trust him and i know that he won't cheat me after all.We too chat on line sometimes not always.When i am online,i call him and start chating with him.We have to understand the problem as understanding the problem is very necessary in this situation.
@phoenix867 (182)
• India
3 Aug 10
I do call my boyfriend not all the time and I do chat some tome because always cheating is boring but I call him some time and have a talk for few minutes.If we are talk and keep contact with our boyfriend to increase our love to him.If we keep distance and no communication between tow lovers there is chances of forgetting each other.So it is very important to call them not each and every day but need to call frequently to make our relationship more strong.