Do you think it's alright if I want to go abroad to work?
By czanwell_30
@czanwell_30 (717)
Philippines
August 3, 2010 3:08am CST
Because of what I'm experiencing right now that I'm jobless and I can't do something if my budget for the month was not enough. and now my husband won't send our monthly allowance because he needs to pay the bank first. He said I that I borrow money from loans or lending and he will pay it next month. I don't want this kind of situation that it seems our life depends on him. In want to work because I want to pay our house so no need to amortize it monthly. But I will leave my kids to my mother and that is the saddest part.
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10 responses
@laylakanda (30)
• Vietnam
4 Aug 10
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but i hope you can think really hard about this.If you have a chance, you can find a job abroad, and if it really solve problems and the most important is your family would be alright, I think you should go.However, children need MOTHER than everything in the whole world.Why don't you try harder to find a job in your country? Working is good, necessary but think about the empty hole in your children's hearts when you gone.Good luck to you.
@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Oh... you made me cry... I was touched by your words... it really struck my heart and I can tell you right now... it's really hard to go specially if you are not sure what will happen to the children if they will grow without me on their side. I will miss every single moment that I'm not with them. I really must think very carefully about this.
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@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
You know i really get your point. Because I raise my self alone. My mother went abroad and left us he 6 siblings. I'm the eldest and I was only 14 years old that time. I miss a lot of my childhood because I take care of my brothers and sisters. And you are right I've been thinking for days about what you said that's why it's just now that I replied to you. I think being a mother we should be selfless. We must think of raising our children well. Since I have a husband who is supporting us, it's my role as a mother to take care of our children. I think I will make some ways so I can earn here in, having a business. Thanks for the enlightenment.
@juryse (752)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. As mom's we gotta do what we have to do right? Yes, it's going to be hard to leave your kids and be far away from them. But you will be doing this for them. Use that as your motivation. I'm in a similar situation so I understand. The guilty feeling of leaving your kids will not go away but knowing that you are working for them makes it a bit better. Just make sure you communicate with them. Good luck~
@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
That is my problem because I tried to tell my husband about it but he just replied a big "No". He told me that he value our family so much and he don't want our children growing without their mother. He told me to be patient and wait for he is doing something about our present situation. He ask me to trust him because he is the pilot hehehe.
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@laylakanda (30)
• Vietnam
7 Aug 10
Absolutely I agree with you if you sure 90% that you have a job already (that means you got a labor contract or working invitation at this time)and the salary is worthy for letting your family stay.Don't forget to check time for vacation you have to come back home a year.I think your family love you, they will understand if you have to go.However, I really hope you can find a job there, let's discuss with friends or someone else .^^
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
It is really hard to be financially dependent to your husband. You can't even buy the things you want sometimes because you still have to inform your husband about it and even just the bills, you still have to depend on your husband. It's really hard and sad to leave your kids just to go abroad and earn money. But why don't you try to work for local jobs and be able to help in your financial situation so that you won't have to loan. Even if the salary is not enough, at least you have a money of your own and be able to help in paying the amortizations and everything. Because it is still different if you as a mother will watch your kids grow.
@juliusports (274)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Yeah its so difficult to be out and far with your family especially with your kids, but somehow if family crisis arises specifically when financial problems arises we tend to look for a better avenue to be able to solve this problems once and for all, so i guess we have to sacrifice and move on pursuing what you're thinking since I think its the best way to solve such crisis.
@mabey1 (334)
• Romania
3 Aug 10
it must be verry hard for you to do this, but if yu don't have another choice. you have to provide to your family, you can't let them be without a roof above their hed. i sort of in the same situation the day i have to go back to work is aproching and it's goin to be verry hard on my son. we have a verry close relationship, but somehow we have to get thrue this to. life is not always easy.
@rhea_41084 (88)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
It's okay to work abroad to try many opportunities there but if you're kids were too young it's really hard to leave them. You need to be sure that you'll leave them to those people that you trusted so much and can be responsible enough to take good care of them. But still you will have that guilt feeling of leaving them on the contrary it's for their own future.
