will you please, BACK OFF!

That is the best idea. If there is someone you unintentionally hurt or embarass, the best move is talk about it so any misunderstanding can be resolved. If one is avoiding one, then it will only prolong the misunderstanding which is not ideally happening when two friends became close. One can respect one if he or she cannot talk about it for a while, but if he or she is not talking to him/her anymore then maybe the misunderstanding lead to anger, or maybe the other one is still hurt and has not move on. Moreover, the other one can deny it nor confirm, but it is obvious that he or she is avoiding the problem instead of solving it. I have no courage to tell my friends to back off, I tell them sometimes I do not want to talk about it, but they can still talk to me about anything else except that. My reason is that I am hurt deeply however I do not want to lose a friend that is why I still communicating with that friend who hurted me. I value the friendship more if you ask me. On the other side, I am willing to respect a friend if she/he do not want to talk about a certain misunderstanding, as long as he/she is still communicating with me or going out with me, like we do not have misunderstanding at all. But if that person is avoiding me then I already get it.

Recently one person has been behaving quite quite badly towards me, she seems to have something against and always pick on me, I don't know why. It has been going on for some time but until now I'm undecided whether to tell her that her behaviour is unacceptable and risk our friendship or just tolerate her but making myself unhappy. I think it all depends on our relationship with that person and before making any decision, we must think of all the possible consequences.

i like straight forward style. being frank to each other is the best to deal with friendship.

hello vi, well, i think i am someone who's not really vocal in such things. not because i don't have the courage in doing so but because i don't feel the need to do it. i don't say to my friends to back off because it might mean the end of everything. i don't say these things because i am still hoping for things to be fixed between us and just need some time and space to think about. but when things really gets worst, i think its better for myself to back off than tell them to do that when that's not what's on my mind. you get me? i never said that to anyone and no one ever said that to me as well. once a friend to me is always a friend and i will never push them away, unless they are going away, i might let them go but i will still be here waiting for their return.

I don't have a worry in the world about telling them to go away and leave me alone and I don't let it get to me when they say it to me. If you really know your friends you would understand it to mean give them some space for a while, which I respect and I expect the same from them. True friends understand this. Well most of the time.

Hi annavi, When I get mad at a person , I usually just keep quiet.. I do that to avoid bad conversation to happen and further misunderstanding.. But there are times that silence isn't always the right thing to do. I always end up being abused, or should I say, my patience on the person is being abused. I don't like enemies at all. I can't sleep to know that somebody has bad feelings about me. And I hate backstabbers. When I find out a person is backstabbing me, I certainly react. I don't backstab so I don't deserve to be done that. When I was younger, I was too quiet. I keep my feelings for myself only. But as I aged, i've learned that silence isn't always right. There are times I have to fight. And so I did. I am not plastic. If i'm mad, the person will definitely see it in me. If I say "Don't talk to me" I really mean it. And if they would insist, a war is gonna start.. hehehe..

True friends have got nothing to hide.. Though those words might sound harsh or cruel to some, but at least we get their honesty about how they are feeling.. Thus we should cherish it more.. UNless one will prefer a friend who's always smiling in front of us, pretending nothing has happened, but behind us, they are back-stabbing, and saying all those bad things?? lol =D So be glad, when one do really tell us that straight in our face, as it shows they care for us, and wants us to learn.. hehe

It is okay to be honest and say what you really feel inside, especially when you find it quite hard to bear.

I have a very very disturbing classmate, no one at my class are actually like her. I don't know why but it seems that she hates me more than the others. She really ruin everything since I knew her, and her seat is right behind me. I really want to tell her to back off and stop disturb me, I don't like her because she always lie about everything! All my friends told me not to respond her at anything but it's not easy because she never leave me stay in peace even for an hour! I only feel calm and relax when she didn't go to school or at the weekend when I don't have to see her. It make me sick.

I have friends who have misunderstood me and whom I've misunderstood. What I have discovered that a true friend doesn't stay away when they are pushed. I went through a divorce and I shut down and a couple of my friends were still friends with my ex. I was upset cause they seemed to take his side. What I failed to see was that they weren't taking his side they were explaining what he said. I still was very touchy about it said some hurtful things and told them to stay away. I thought about it all night. I regretted being so rude, but was to proud to tell them. The next day they were at my door with breakfast like nothing ever happened. They new I was just in a bad place so they were gonna be there whether I wanted them or not.