Approving new friends

Tex I cannot agree with your method. I will accept any who ask and if they abuse that friendship I will make use of the delete button beside their name on my friends list. I willl first message them and ask if they really want to be friends or just want another address for their junk.

Yes I have one that has actually spammed the crap out of me and they are sitting on 0 posts, I normally don't mind adding newbies, or anyone for that matter but from now on just to be on the safe side I have decided to wait until they are at 100 posts, this way we can see what they post, and how they reply. If they never make it to that 100 posts, then so be it, they were not worth the time. But when there on 0 I will never ever do it again. I had 14 spam messages this morning from one member. All about the same gosh darn thing, I am just tired of it.

I let them sit for longer than that - and just delete "0"s without even bothering to check them out I've got one that's been up for nearly a week, and the number is slowly rising, might approve that one...

I have been here for awhile, and I have to say there are people on here that just want to add to their friends lists, and they expect you to comment on everything they write, but they never comment on what you write, please choose your friend carefully, don't waste your time with people that don't want to contribute to any of your discussions. By the way I have 7 people now that want to be my friend, but have not commented on anything that I have written, so they will not be my friend.

Hi TexLadyPj, I am new here and have been active for over a week now. I realize that having friends is more important on social sites than anywhere else. But what you say too is something that cannot be denied. I agree that friends on Social Networks are weighed by their value on the website but on the other hand you cannot ascertain their value from day One. Here is what I do - I accept all the incoming friends requests for some days. Then if I find them (the ones with less posts) non-responsive to my posts I remove them.

A lot of people join mylot and add people just to promote some websites or links. The best solution is that you should approve any one who adds u as a friend. You should first have a look at his profile. Zero posts probably means that this person will be a spammer. As you said, 25 posts show that this person can be a good friend.

I think you are justified there. I have had several requests like that before but now I am wiser just wait for a while to approve the newbies when we pretty much get to know about the intention. Of late, I have not been screening much though due to time constraint. Prosperous mylotting to you as well.

You said "however when they then private message me with solicitations, without becoming friends.. "How is this possible they have to be friends otherwise they cannot PM you! I never accept any one as as friend if they have a very low number of posts and also anyone who has hundreds of friends or have their profile page covered in money making banners.

I have the same predicament. I tried to resolve it the way you did.

Ive noticed the same lately. People with "0" post asking to be friends usually send me spam email. So I dont accept them anymore. Its too bad for those who arent into spamming but tis the way it is now I guess.