The day you said goodbye!
By xeroeight
@xeroeight (1060)
Philippines
August 3, 2010 6:55pm CST
Do you often say goodbye to your love one or you just say "see you" its really hard to say or hear if a person is going to say goodbye to us and we know they will never come back again.
This is the only word the I really don't want to hear from my girlfriend and if the meaning of it is were not going to be together. it might kill me when I hear it coming from her lips. I know its hard to accept when our love one don't love us anymore.
This is really a pain not only in our heart but almost in all part of our body from inside to outside. We intend to hurt our self just to forget the pain cause by it.
There are also people who say goodbye because they are leaving the country or they have to go somewhere but the time I hear the word goodbye I feel something, something like I miss him/her already even though that person is still coming back.
Why do we need to feel that feeling even if we know they are still coming back? does the word goodbye always cause loneliness? or missing someone or being left behind?
what about the people who say the word goodbye what do they feel? honestly I rarely say goodbye I always use the word "see yah" or "take care"
what about you what do you feel when you say or hear goodbye?
12 responses
@wibz81 (30)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 10
never an easy word to say goodbye, wheter it's from work, or girlfriend, or your family. it's just ... it's like i'm going and never gonna see you again. yeah so i tried to use see you rather than goodbye cause as my friend once told me, "where is the good in goodbye ?"
@Turingskie (387)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
It breaks my heart when i hear the word Goodbye, because sometimes goodbye is the most saddest word will ever hear, Instead i used to say Farewell
@Achay1982 (70)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 10
I always say "see you" than "goodbye"
i think it's more wise and can make him/her more happines
goodbye is seems that we cannot meet again,or such like he/she will gonna left this world forever
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Hi xeroeight,
Saying goodbye, is just a way to let people know that they are leaving. Whether it is for a moment, or for a long period of time, or forever. A person can't say "see you later" if a relationship has ending. Of course, when a relationship ends, that is the last words anybody wants to hear. It is not only sad, it is a very painful word. Under most circumstances the word is not positive.
I would rather have someone say goodbye than to have them just leaving without saying anything. That is having no closure. I wish we had another word for goodbye, but we don't. We've kind of replaced it with "see you later," but do we know if we are going to see them later? Those words are less intense than the word goodbye, but one or the other has got to be used. Sad as it is.
@juliusports (274)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Saying goodbye is never an easy thing, it is always accompanied with tears and missing moments. But technically you may replace the word by ceasing to use goodbye and use other words like "you take care" , "see you some time soon" and many more that could be worth replacing it but, we cannot deny the fact that physically you're definitely saying goodbye and thats what difficult to handle, missing the physical presence of the individual you loved most.
@rhea_41084 (88)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
I don't want to say or hear goodbyes I'll just say "see you later". Saying goodbye is one of the saddest part in a relationship. I felt it when my hubby went abroad to work.
@greenteab7 (94)
• China
4 Aug 10
Hi xeroeight
How are you doing day. I deeply agree with you. I know when our love one don't love us anymore, and she said that is really a pain. I have experienced that, so I know that feeling. It is absolutely painful, just like you said, the pain from inside to outside. But, you know, love is not right or wrong, so we have to accept it, and encourage ourselves and brace ourselves to make our lifes better.
@Noth1ng (46)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 10
same with me i often say See ya , or take care to my friend or family ...
but well ...
sometimes we need to say goodbye to someone (ex-girl, in my case),
it feel hurts but i must to say it ...
i don't want interfere her life anymore ...
and my loneliness life begin from that word ...
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
When in a relationship,when the one said GOODBYE it is a painful scenario.Goodbye word are often used in different way,like me when I am with my friends I will say goodbye for now,see ya after 3 days or see you tomorrow.There is a song I remember it was said there,Remember goodbye,doesn't mean forever
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@godslove25 (402)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
I also hate to hear goodbye, I feel lonely as if he's not coming back. Even though. So we just say take care or "ingat", when ever were just going out.
@unseenzy (171)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
I don't want to say goodbye or bye and I definitely hate hearing it from my partner.
I feel very fortunate before because my x felt the same way. For 5+ years we never said goodbye or bye to each other even just after ending the phone call. We used these words "cyah", "laters", "take care", "iloveyou"... The day we parted ways, it was the only time we said goodbye to each other.
As for my partner right now, he's a bit insensitive and he doesn't care lol... At first we tried not saying bye to each other but it didn't last long because that's what he's used to and I guess majority of the people. So now we say bye to each other and I hate it _
