facebook account for nonpersonal friends

@attente (986)
Philippines
August 4, 2010 2:58am CST
I have deactivated my account last June because I got busy with my job and I find myself spending more time in facebook than in my work. When I deactivated it, my friends reacted because they think it's the only way they can contact me, I don't use friendster either. But I didn't mind them so much since they can reach me through skype, yahoo messenger or even cellular phones if they want to. Now I am working as an online English tutor. Some of my students are demanding a facebook account because they want to see my pictures to know my activities and of course to know more about their teacher. Hence, I've created a new account adding my students. But I didn't inform my friends about my new account. I want my account to be exclusively for my students. Do you think it's okay not to add my personal friends?
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@oldchem1 (8132)
4 Aug 10
Of course, what you do and how you want to use it is completely up to you. But do look at the discussion I have just started about Facebook, a security issue, it has really concerned me!!
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Hi oldchem! Have heard lots of security issues in facebook such as a girl raped by a man she just met in facebook, or a girl ran away with a guy she just met in facebook, some were even killed. that's terrible! don't worry oldchem, my account is for business purposes and that won't happen to me because only students will be added in my account. I'll read your discussion after this. :)
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
oldchem is right. whatever you want to do with your facebook account is up to you. but you should let your friends know that your account is already inactive or else they might think you have forgotten them.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
yeah sure they did know that I have deactivated my account. It's obvious actually because they can't find my profile anymore and all my posts on their profiles were deleted. :) thanks! :)
• United States
5 Aug 10
I think it is perfectly fine to use facebook in any way you feel is appropriate. I also have attempted to limit my use of facebook by removing people that I don't speak with regularly. Although I have found that it sometimes causes a bit of awkwardness when I do run into them in person. I always feel like people are offended if you don't accept a friend request or if you have removed them as a friend. I think it might be a good idea to create 2 seperate accounts and use each for a different purpose.
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Ohhh. I think it's okay not to delete people you don't talk regularly.. You can delete the person you don't know personally instead. It's really awkward if you run into them and they know that you have deleted them. lols. well, it's your choice though.. ehhehe. well, yeah right. It's fine having different accounts of different purposes, as long as I won't cause any harm.. of course I won't.. ehhe. :)
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
5 Aug 10
IT's all up to u.. Since it's required on your behalf, by your students.. Then why not?? After all, it's a form of contact between u and your students.. It's always better to seperate work and personal life ^_^ Make sure it stays that way, and not be soft hearted, giving your FB account to friends again.. hehe
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Hi kun!! Yeah right. And besides my personal friends would definitely use our native language when posting something on my wall which my students wouldn't find uninteresting or useless because they won't understand it at all. And I find it awkward to speak English all the time so that my students can understand it, my friends might tease me for that. ehhe. well I would really try to be hard hearted. lols. I won't tell my friends about my account. be blessed! Hugs attente
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@celticeagle (168327)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Aug 10
It is up to you who you add to your account. For all purposes you could have your professional name on one account and one with your regular everyday name for personal friends. I see people on there that have their kidss, dogs, cats, whatever so why can't you have two?!
@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Hi celtic eagle! I only have one account now, only for my students. I have deactivated the first account. I get tired of fb as a connection with my personal friends, having useless talks all the time, thus, spending too much time on it. I appreciate more when we talk in chat once in a while or send text messages, like that. So i think that's fine. Besides, if I mixed my personal friends and students, my friends for sure will use our native language when posting something on my wall which my students won't understand. hehehe. that's why. be blessed! :)
@kaylachan (71798)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
5 Aug 10
I think what you're doing is deceptive. However it is for you to decide what you want to do with your life. Your friends may eventually find your new facebook account. However, you should probably tell them what you're thinking and feeling. If contact was an issue you could have handled the situation much differently by first telling your friends the truth. Hiding, lying, being sneaking and deceptive can backfire on you. I feel it would hurt your "personal" friends more if you don't tell them what's going on. Express your feelings to them. That's all you'd be doing.
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Hi kaylachan! of course they know what is going on. First, I told them that I am busy now with my job so I really have to avoid fb because I spend too much time on it and I think that would be good now that I am already working. And besides, if I mixed my students and personal friends, my personal friends would definitely use our native language which my students would not understand. Another thing, I already told my friends that I like to communicate them more in YM or text messages, atleast they are personalized. There are lots of pretentious in facebook, and I don't like the atmosphere.. Before, we almost spend all of our time talking in facebook, to the point that we talk useless things. this time, I want to be mature. We can chat once in a while or send them messages if we have something to talk to. and they know that. hehe be blessed! :)
@Memnon (2170)
5 Aug 10
I don't use Facebook. Partly because I am not interested, and partly because there are security issues associated with having a lot of personal information available to view. It's your page, so it's totally up to you how you use it.
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Yes, that's another reason why I have a separate facebook for my students. My student, being my unpersonal friends, should know less about me. My students are good but it is really not that easy to trust unpersonal friends right. Yeah right, it is really up to me... weee. thanks! :)
• Arima, Trinidad And Tobago
5 Aug 10
HI attente My University has actually put in a site for teachers and students to connect,send and receive assignments and clear and misunderstandings in the classroom session. I don't really think that facebook should be used for students maybe you can try 'edublog' instead as it is geared for exactly what you want with your students. Facebook is entirely up to you but i have found it is agreat way to keep in touch with classmates who have migrated and for class reunions etc. maybe you can check in on your facebook page with your friend only on the weekends.
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Well we also hate that one in our school, through yahoogroups. There we send our concern in class and send assignments.. I used facebook because it is really intended to keep in touch with my students. I have different students everyday, depending who reserved my schedule on that particular day.. So I don't meet all of them everyday. So I think facebook is fine. We won't be submitting assignments or discuss in facebook ofcourse, we don't give assignment in our job. hehe be blessed! :)
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
5 Aug 10
attente, You can do whatever you want to do and on whichever online social networking media. However, being that you are doing this just for your students may seem a little over proportion and unnecessary in my opinion. The question should be is this really necessary to connect with your students? Hope you know what you are doing here?
• Singapore
6 Aug 10
attente, Since you are a teacher, I am wondering if you would have checked if this is against the rules of the school or education ministry. Befriending is one thing but starting a social networking may seem to be a little too personal and may thread on the fine line of bureaucratic red tapes. I am stating this because there are institutions or schools that have their own networking accounts for their students and teachers to interact - all within the boundaries and fine lines. I am not against your decisions or doing but I'd have to ask that you check your 6, here. Have a great day.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
Hi skysuccess! don't worry, I won't think that you are against my decisions. Yeah yeah, it's okay. It's okay. even our bosses, also we haven't met, have facebook and added us.. Well I think it's okay because our boss, the CEO of the said company, can read the posts that my students and I are exchanging.. So that's fine. hehe be blessed! :)
@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
I don't really find it necessary to connect with my students through facebook. I want to be honest with you: when my student forced me view my account because he wants to know what my life is like, I have this sort of idea that this could be a way that they can remember me and have again as their teacher.. There are hundreds of teachers in our company, or even thousand.. So i am pretty aware of the competition of getting the students. I don't tell them though to get me again as their teacher, but I am befriending them. So I have decided to create an account so that whenever someone asks me, I have an account to give. be blessed! :)
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Hi, attente. That is fine. I see nothing wrong with having an account just for your students. I can understand that you are trying to be very professional. Just be careful, because some friends can get frustrated because, they can't find out information about you. This could lead them into becoming obsessed.
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Hi cream97! Thank you! I think you get my point clearly. Yes, at my age, I really have to start being professional. Looking for money isn't that easy. When I was a student, I almost spend all of my time surfing the net specifically doing something in facebook if I'm not in class. But now that I've grown up, no time for doing such silly things. Gonna use facebook for professionalism. naks! hehehe. thanks! Hugs, attente
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
4 Aug 10
There's nothing wrong with deciding not to add personal friends what you choose do with your facebook account totally is up to you as long as your fallowing guidelines and such but I dont feel that there's anything wrong with only adding your students if thats what you choose. For a long time I never added friends on facebook because I was sceptical about the safty of the site, in fact I'm still a bit sceptical about the safty of facebook, but over time I decided to relax a little and enjoy the social network but the main reason I joined facebook is to network and maybe make a few new online friends. I have no interest in connection with old school chums or finding relatives at this time. I just opened an account for fun and also because a lot of other sites I'm a member of almost expect there members to be a part of facebook, and actually now I really enjoy the site, though I dont like that I have list my name on the site instead of a user name but other then a few annoyance's I enjoy facebook very much.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
well if your facebook is intended for making friends online, which apparently are strangers, then might be careful in sharing your personal information. My first account was intended for my old classmates, to have contacts with them. Yes, security is the main issue in facebook. Have heard lots of news about girls raped by guys they just met in facebook. Oldchem, another mylotter raised another issue in facebook, we are giving people all necessary information so that they can do something to us, that is stealing. For example, you post in your wall that you have a family outing. that would give the buglers that no one is home that time.. Well i know you know pretty much about this issue, so just be careful. be blessed! :)
@attente (986)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
Well if you're that careful, then I think there's nothing wrong with it. Yeah, it's fun having friends online, have tried it here in mylot and in friendster before. hehe. just make sure that you won't give them personal info.. Don't let your soft heart trigger you to give you the info. have been a victim to that, just minor case though, hehe. be blessed!
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
6 Aug 10
I'm no internet fool lol, I never give out personal info to strangers on facebook or any other website. I enjoy facebook because its a great place to network to chat, and to make online friends and when I say (online friends) I mean online only I dont give out email addresses or anything personal because I know how dangerous it can be to do that. As we all know facebook is a socal network so there's nothing wrong with socolizing a bit we just have to be as safe as we can be.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Aug 10
If you don't feel comfortable adding your personal friends to the facebook page that you have for your students, then I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't inform them that you have a facebook account for the students. However, if you would like to have another way that you would be able to somewhat keep in touch with your friends, then I would allow them. All in all, I think that you will really have to follow your heart on this one.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
Hi dorran! Yes yes, I won't ever inform my personal friends about my current account. Hope they won't discover it, and I doubt they will ever discover it. hehe. Well this is fine I think, as I have said, if I want to contact them, there are other ways of contacting them. thank you! be blessed! :)
@icebuken (28)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
yeah i think your personal friends can understand why you will only allow your students to be in your friend list on your new facebook account because it's related to your work and you already added them on your other account. so i think they will understand you why you will do that. by the way, thank you for adding me as a friend.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
Hi icubuken, you really think it's okay with them? take note, I have deactivated the account where I added them as my friends. well, I still think it's okay. I am still using my skype and YM where they could always drop me a message and we have cellphones right? hehe. well, welcome dear! and welcome here in facebook! be blessed! :)
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
4 Aug 10
I think you must have created a fan page instead of personal account for your students. I mean nowadays fan page is not necessarily for celebrities or any popular people around the world. It can be as well an organization where people can gather to continue the communication. If I were you, it is either create another account that is exclusively for your friends or you can segregate or categorize people even if you only have 1 account. I mean in friend's list you can create a list for example that is for friends, relatives and students. Then do something in privacy settings where some people can see your wall, photos and everything. In my case not all people can access all my albums and can even post to my wall just like that.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Hi apples! They already know that I have deactivated my account. I send them all messages about my deactivation before doing it. So we're contacting now through YM or cellular phone. And I find it great actually, I know those people who really care for me, trying to contact me.. ehhehe. Oh, I am using different emails of course darling. So the facebook didn't know that I own that two accounts. But still, having same pictures. lols. I think it's okay. Even in friendster before, I have two accounts. be blessed! :)
@attente (986)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Fan page is a brilliant idea. But as I was saying, I really want to deactivate my first facebook account, where I have added my personal friends because I spend too much time talking with them.. Well I think this is enough. I'll contact my friends through YM or send them text messages once in a while to let them know they are not forgotten. hehehe. be blessed! :)
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
4 Aug 10
Maybe you can just post an update on your facebook wall letting your friends know that you will be unavailable on facebook for a while, and if they want to reach you they should contact you through YM or text only. instead of worrying about deactivating your account that way if you change your mind your account will still be active. What do you think? haha Oh and by the way I didnt know facebook allowed members to open more then one account per person interesting.
• United States
4 Aug 10
Hello I have a friend who is a grammar school teacher and she has a facebook account only for her friends. In her case it is understandable as they children are young, but as for you were asking absolutely you should have your student facebook account separate as part of communication with the students. If your friends ever say something surely being your friends they must understand that this is for work purposes and should be kept separate from friends. If at some point you decided to add your friends well then it is your choice. But having said you can communicate with them in many other ways so it is not like you ex them out of your life. Besides you sort of do want to keep personal relationships out of the work environment. You know you can keep all your information private and not search-able only to those that do know your user name and be approved by you. Good luck with this and your students.
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Hi hardworkinggurl! You are absolutely right! the communication and language is the basic issue here why I want a separate facebook account for my students. Most of my personal friends use Tagalog and Bisaya language, our National and native language respectively. When I mixed my personal friends with my students, apparently, my students wouldn't understand the posts of my friends because my students are japanese, they don't know Tagalog and Bisaya. And also, they are still studying English, it would be nice if the environment of their teacher is English.. Besides, they're my friends. they are should be the first person to understand me. be blessed! :)
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
4 Aug 10
I think you have the right to do whatever you choose. But will your friends be upset or offended, most likely. There seems to be so many sensitive people there. I find someone upset on there about different things often
@attente (986)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. They might get offended with what I did. The best thing I can do, I suppose, is to contact them via YM or skype or send them text messages once in a while to let them know that they are not forgotten. there are really sensitive people. how about that someone who easily get upset you mentioned? how is he/she? what are the things that made her/his upset? hehe be blessed! :)
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Aug 10
It is entirely up to you. You have opened an account just for your students and your friend will have to accept and understand that. As you mentioned there are several ways they can contact you so it is not as if you have cut off all communication. I would send my friends an email explaining what you decided to do and how you can be contacted.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
thank you paula! then I think there's nothing wrong with what I do. I am just making sure, you know there are these people who are very close minded or narrow minded.. thinking that i'm just getting their attention. hehehe. well i know they would understand. thanks! be blessed! :)
@Fadolf (545)
• Slovenia
4 Aug 10
Hi attente! It is ok to have private and business account. Some of my friends are celebrities and they have two accounts. One is for making business agreements and on that account they don't have any of their personal friends and on the other one they are contacting personal friends. It really shouldn't be a problem to have two account. Your friends should have no problem with it... But, why don't you activate your personal account, you don't have to spend time on it, just activate it so your friends know that you are "with them" in some sense... Take care and happy mylotting! --Fadolf
@attente (986)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Hi fadolf, i'm not a celebrity. but i can be one. lols. hahahha! well anyways, I don't really think facebook or any social networks are necessary so I deactivated it. But maybe, if time comes that no one would contact me via skype or phone, I'll be forced to activate it. hehehe. be blessed fadolf! :)
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
actually you can just maintain a single account for everyone. just group them into Students, Highschool friends, College, Workmates or whatever it is that you like. then you can set the privacy of everything you share (picture, video, wall post, status, etc). you may even post something and set the security to "only me" if you want any other person to see it. but the point is, you can choose who among the friends you added can see things from your profile. you may even opt to not update at all. lol. it's just cool to be able to stalk people every now and then haha. like what my friend always say, it is our social responsibility to have a facebook profile lol. what's important is that you have the power to control your updates or even not update at all if you dont want to. Just make one so they would stop bugging you lol. :D
@attente (986)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
well I already created the account for my students only. You have the same suggestion with the guy above this comment. hehe. But as I was saying, I really want to deactivate my first account where I have added my personal friends. I spend too much time in facebook when I talk to them and the talking became senseless. I think it's better to talk to them sometimes and would feel that we really miss each others company. :) be blessed! :) thanks for the suggestion!
@Iequate2 (280)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Yes, absolutely attente. You can consider your online English tutor position as your business. There are many pages for everything now. News Stations, Musicians, Politicians, Entrepreneurs, Sports and the list goes on. I try to limited my time on FB, even as an entrepreneur. You can always create a new page when you are ready.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Hi iequate! about having a limited time in facebook, i think we are on the same shoes. Spending too much time in facebook I think is senseless. You could have used that time looking for money, hehe, or have a quality time with your family.. I just think so.. But still, having a facebook isn't bad at all, it's our connection to our friends.. be blessed! :)
• Israel
4 Aug 10
Hey, just wanted to say my GF thinks and feels exactly the same, one may say she even "hates" facebook and think its a very non-personal way of contacting each other. i sometimes agree with her but i mostly think that facebook addiction can be controled, as for your question, it sounds perfectly fine to keep the facebook page as a "business" page only.. your friends should have no reason to find it offensive :]
@attente (986)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
so does your gf has a facebook? yes, I agree that facebook addiction can be controlled. The thing is, it can trigger you to make facebook addiction uncontrollable. have heard lots of security issues about facebook.. well about my decision, thank you for understanding. I know my friends are old enough to understand that. hehe. be blessed! :)